Years ago when I first became a nurse I was so proud to be called a 'nurse' I would have shouted it across the roof tops. The reason I came into nursing is very old fashioned and you are now criticized for wanting to help people and care.
Today if you admit you are a RN who came into nursing because you care about people and want to help them it is almost like you are blaspheming.
I read that only nurses who came into the profession for financial and career reasons, or because they lost their first job and have decided nurses is the career for them are the ones who succeed in the profession.
I don't believe it is true I think there is a place for both kinds of nurses, I also don't believe the ones who don't care are the most successful.
In my company you wouldn't get far up the ladder if you said you were in nursing because you are a career RN and that you don't really care about the patient. You have to really want to be a nurse to succeed and it becomes very obvious when you don't care about the patient or want to do the right thing
It is old fashioned to say why I came into nursing 24 years ago, although I didn't come into the profession initially as a career, I have had one heck of a career and have managed to climb the ladder to a dizzy height!
So for all those RN's out there who are frightened to say they came into nursing for reasons of caring or helping people-stand tall and be counted!
Madwife, I totally get your post. You should not have to explain yourself to other posters who are ignorant or small minded.
Yes, this is coming from a nurse who actually went into nursing because I actually care about patients and helping them. Flame me of you want, I have thick skin !
Madwife, I totally get your post. You should not have to explain yourself to other posters who are ignorant or small minded.
Yes, this is coming from a nurse who actually went into nursing because I actually care about patients and helping them. Flame me of you want, I have thick skin !
This is a perfect example of how the "care-focused" nurses can come across as holier than thou snobs. I'm not going to flame you, but if your attitude at work is like the one you have here, I'll take a moment of silence for your coworkers.
Madwife, I totally get your post. You should not have to explain yourself to other posters who are ignorant or small minded.
Yes, this is coming from a nurse who actually went into nursing because I actually care about patients and helping them. Flame me of you want, I have thick skin !
Hi, I think I might know what do you think. I noticed the trend myself. What I think is the reason that we who cares are pushed over and the cold hearted egoists succeed is this:
First of all medicine is not what it used to be. It used to be done to help others. Not anymore - nowadays it is cut throat business for profit. No one cares anymore about patient. You service them, you please them even if it is plain wrong. They refuse monitoring, blood test, medication (except pain meds) they refuse tests, but they hold you responsible for miracle cure. And administration plays along - because they need they appeasement to make money.
Second - nurse who does not care - are highly soughted for - they don't care. Thus, they don't care if pt dies, or gets worse. They will serve with smile, sweet talking and giving reasons why test can't be done, why meds was not passed, why vitals were not taken and why pt who is confused or not oriented = and thus will not complain - the excrements are still sucked in the bed linens surrounding patient skin 3D. But they gave them H2O, even pt is on fluid restrictions... sure they are popular by patients, they have plenty of time to spend on chating with family and doctors, joke and smile, pick the lunch and coffee too, and they do not talk back to administration if admins decision is non sence, regressive, jeopardizing safety and so on... that is why they are wanted, preferred and they rock place. You care? You are the obstruction to the business! And possibly pain in the neck. One unpleasant cold hearted with low work enthusiasm will flock to another such ... and oh my, if you say you care about the patient - you are laughed at weirdo. Just my observation. Cure? IF: stop private nursing colleges from recruiting anyone. (there are exceptions, though), stop nonsence patient satisfaction determining hospital income, and stop medical services to be profitable business.... make hospital and administration accountable for their decisions...
Hi, I think I might know what do you think. I noticed the trend myself. What I think is the reason that we who cares are pushed over and the cold hearted egoists succeed is this:
First of all medicine is not what it used to be. It used to be done to help others. Not anymore - nowadays it is cut throat business for profit. No one cares anymore about patient. You service them, you please them even if it is plain wrong. They refuse monitoring, blood test, medication (except pain meds) they refuse tests, but they hold you responsible for miracle cure. And administration plays along - because they need they appeasement to make money.
Second - nurse who does not care - are highly soughted for - they don't care. Thus, they don't care if pt dies, or gets worse. They will serve with smile, sweet talking and giving reasons why test can't be done, why meds was not passed, why vitals were not taken and why pt who is confused or not oriented = and thus will not complain - the excrements are still sucked in the bed linens surrounding patient skin 3D. But they gave them H2O, even pt is on fluid restrictions... sure they are popular by patients, they have plenty of time to spend on chating with family and doctors, joke and smile, pick the lunch and coffee too, and they do not talk back to administration if admins decision is non sence, regressive, jeopardizing safety and so on... that is why they are wanted, preferred and they rock place. You care? You are the obstruction to the business! And possibly pain in the neck. One unpleasant cold hearted with low work enthusiasm will flock to another such ... and oh my, if you say you care about the patient - you are laughed at weirdo. Just my observation. Cure? IF: stop private nursing colleges from recruiting anyone. (there are exceptions, though), stop nonsence patient satisfaction determining hospital income, and stop medical services to be profitable business.... make hospital and administration accountable for their decisions...
Oh my. The perfect examples just keep writing themselves. OF COURSE I don't care if my patients die - it's not like I'm a normal empathetic human or anything.
Smdh. I'm going to bed, berating myself for not being nursey enough for some people. /s
Oh my. The perfect examples just keep writing themselves. OF COURSE I don't care if my patients die - it's not like I'm a normal empathetic human or anything.
Smdh. I'm going to bed, berating myself for not being nursey enough for some people. /s
Yes. I'm out of this as well. This is not what I was agreeing to at all when the thread began.
Well apparently if you come into nursing for the wrong reasons, you won't be successful. I think that's a backhanded way of saying "you're not as good."
It is also not very nice (nor accurate) to say nurses who are not in it for the same reason as one's own reason are nurses who don't care about the patient. (That's right up there in the quote. )
I'm a hybrid. I love the challenge of untangling comorbid conditions, of overcoming acute decompensation, of watching a medically unstable patient come through with our help. I'm very science focused. But, as I said before, I'm a hybrid who also loves those moments of bonding, when trust is established and the patient is comfortable being vulnerable with you. To me, achieving hemostasis is as rewarding as making a pt smile, a fresh new bed, a clean smooth dressing, watching them walk out healed.
I'm tired of people who think they're better than others because of some minor difference. Viva la difference!
Thank you for summing up how I feel, but way better than I am able tonight.
Does anyone really ever get into a conversation over WHY you became a nurse in your day to day life (irl)?? I know at my current job, the LAST ******* thing we have time to talk about is our motivation for nursing as a job or profession. To me this whole thread seems to be rooted in some deep seated conflict worked over and over by his/her internal dialogue, then thrust upon an internet community where it is both anonymous and safe to just twist in the wind.
Specializes in Neurosciences, stepdown, acute rehab, LTC.
I for one am not scared to admit that I do care about the patients and want them to get better. And I especially don't want them to die. If that was the issue all along then I guess we are on the same page.
(Though I guess if I mentioned this at work the general response may be ... "Ummm ... Duh....." )
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Madwife, I totally get your post. You should not have to explain yourself to other posters who are ignorant or small minded.
Yes, this is coming from a nurse who actually went into nursing because I actually care about patients and helping them. Flame me of you want, I have thick skin !