Sad & Angry

[brenda1234]

I am so upset about an issue in my unit.

A new CNS is working with us and she is horrible. She has terrible people skills & terrible manners & she had no class.

I think that they could of chosen better specially when there is someone that deserves a chance.

Im just venting.

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

A CNS is at least, nowadays educated at the Masters level if not the doctorate. Doubt that she got "promoted" to this position but rather she "earned" it via higher education.

If you have specific, care-related concerns then please address them to her specifically. Complaining because she referred to her "baby Daddy" while not something I would say at work, is not care related. Stating that she didnt order the correct dose of medication or do the paperwork correctly is a different story. To me, it sounds like you just plain dont like her and honestly thats not enough to confront her with.

What is her role in relation to yours? I'll be brutally honest here because as a CNS if an has specific issues with the orders I give or the care I render, fine speak up. I do not discuss my personal life at work ever and have always stuck to that and it has always been a plus. I dont go to work to make friends, I go to work to care for patients. However, I dont do the direct care most of the time as a bedside RN would do.

What are your specific complaints?

[brenda1234]

A CNS is at least, nowadays educated at the Masters level if not the doctorate. Doubt that she got "promoted" to this position but rather she "earned" it via higher education.

If you have specific, care-related concerns then please address them to her specifically. Complaining because she referred to her "baby Daddy" while not something I would say at work, is not care related. Stating that she didnt order the correct dose of medication or do the paperwork correctly is a different story. To me, it sounds like you just plain dont like her and honestly thats not enough to confront her with.

What is her role in relation to yours? I'll be brutally honest here because as a CNS if an has specific issues with the orders I give or the care I render, fine speak up. I do not discuss my personal life at work ever and have always stuck to that and it has always been a plus. I dont go to work to make friends, I go to work to care for patients. However, I dont do the direct care most of the time as a bedside RN would do.

What are your specific complaints?

No. She is the kind of nurse who doesn't do vital signs for a post op patient all day. Because she "forgot" there was no CNA on the floor.

she is the type of person who rolls their eyes and says ****. So I have to do the consent bc you didn't do this ****"

That's who got the CNS position.

I won't talk about these personal feelings with people at work because I am a regular employee.

And yes, I am a person with class and manners.

Only I know what I am feeling and how I feel based on my experiences.

[brenda1234]

Brenda, don't stew. When you find yourself stewing think of something cute and fluffy (that's what I do). Stewing is just a cloud of badness hovering over you making you feel bad about yourself and the people around you. Strive to always give others the best side of yourself--the one you respect, the one you would go to for advise or friendship.

**** you are so right. I just hate when some nurses think they are better than everyone because they have more education or because they are married to so and so.

I always act my best at work. I respect others & treat others with respect. No matter who they are.

I say this like a cheerleader for you because I know stewing--its a family heirloom for me, and I've learned a lot from watching people I love torment themselves with their frustration with others. It is not healthy. Turn the cloud into a freakin kitten. Or your favorite song.

*** no, I don't stew over things. Plenty of times nurses leave me work that should of been done during the day & as long as I can take care of things and things are not detrimental for my patients then I do it. UNLIKE this CNS I am talking about (she was a floor nurse in another floor...)

This is your vent. Taking it at face value, it does sound like this person is pretty unpleasant. It's good that you bring this here rather than succumb to dumping it on a friend or worse, a coworker. But I would advise that you try to separate yourself from your anger. Don't let it ruin your day.

*** yes this is my vent! I don't have any friends that are nurses except the girls I work with. I don't grossip & when I do hear gossip it just goes in to one ear then out the other to never repeat it.

And when she is ridiculous toward you, (like criticizing you publicly for not having memorized one of your patient's exhaustively ICD-9 coded problem lists...) try to just let it go. That's her, not you.

** I do try to let it go. But I'm such a sensitive person, it's so hard to do!!

There is a video on youtube--google "hamster eating popcorn on a piano". That one is stored in my brain and is one of my favorite thought diversions when I am getting grumpy. May you find peace and laughter in the snacking hamster.

Good luck

Kan

Thanks Kan!!

you give great advise

[brenda1234]

How's the air up there on that high horse of yours?

What do you mean?

I don't have a horse

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

No. She is the kind of nurse who doesn't do vital signs for a post op patient all day. Because she "forgot" there was no CNA on the floor.

she is the type of person who rolls their eyes and says ****. So I have to do the consent bc you didn't do this ****

That's who got the CNS position.

I won't talk about these personal feelings with people at work because I am a regular employee.

And yes, I am a person with class and manners.

Only I know what I am feeling and how I feel based on my experiences.

Forgive me if this sounds harsh, but you are not coming across here as a person with class OR manners. Or professionalism. It seems that you don't like this woman, but you haven't really bothered to come up with any good examples of how SHE lacks good clinical judgement or is doing her job poorly. All this stuff about rolling her eyes and baby daddy's is pretty subjective, and it doesn't make you look good to be dredging it up.

[OCNRN63, RN]

What do you mean?

I don't have a horse

BWAHAHA!!!

[kanzi monkey]

Forgive me if this sounds harsh, but you are not coming across here as a person with class OR manners. Or professionalism. It seems that you don't like this woman, but you haven't really bothered to come up with any good examples of how SHE lacks good clinical judgement or is doing her job poorly. All this stuff about rolling her eyes and baby daddy's is pretty subjective, and it doesn't make you look good to be dredging it up.

Why are you talking about the class or manners or professionalism of the OP? This was a vent post in an anonymous online forum. Nothing grossly unusual here. You are making it personal which is weird.

I don't think this thread has anything to do with the clinical abilities of the CNS in question.

Why are you asking for forgiveness?

Online Nursing Forum. Anonymous. Your judgement is confusing.

[kungpoopanda]

What do you mean?

I don't have a horse

This post shows a lot of class and is how you should deal with the unpleasant woman at work, as well as unpleasant posters on this board.

[Anna Flaxis, BSN, RN]

What do you mean?

I don't have a horse

That was an expression, meant to illustrate the air of superiority that you seem to feel toward this other person. If you had as much class as you claim, you wouldn't be allowing this other person to occupy so much of your internal landscape. A true person of class doesn't need to continually point out how much class they have- it is self apparent in how they conduct themselves.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

How's the air up there on that high horse of yours?

"What do you mean? I don't have a horse"

This post shows a lot of class and is how you should deal with the unpleasant woman at work, as well as unpleasant posters on this board.

I suspect the comment "What do you mean, I don't have a horse?" is more indicative of ignorance than class. The poster has not displayed class anywhere else on this thread, although she is quick to assure us that she is "a person of class." A person of class doesn't have to tell everyone how classy she is; the class shines through her actions.

[kanzi monkey]

I suspect the comment "What do you mean, I don't have a horse?" is more indicative of ignorance than class. The poster has not displayed class anywhere else on this thread, although she is quick to assure us that she is "a person of class." A person of class doesn't have to tell everyone how classy she is; the class shines through her actions.

Why are you directly insulting a stranger?

[klone, MSN, RN]

I suspect the comment "What do you mean, I don't have a horse?" is more indicative of ignorance than class..

Ouch, that's a little harsh, don't you think?