Really disappointed with the reality of nursing.

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Anyone else feel the same?

When I was in nursing school, I was so excited to get finished and get a job. I thought I would enjoy doing nursing tasks all day...meds, IVs, injections, dressing changes, catheters, charting. I was so proud to tell people I was becoming a nurse. I would be making all of this good money. My job would be exciting all day long. I would be helping people. I would get respect...

But 5 years later, ha! What a joke! Don't get me wrong. I am grateful to have a degree. I am grateful to have a job in this bad economy, but nursing sure turned out to be a disappointment. I never thought that I would be worked to death the way nurses are. I never thought I would be talked to like a dog the way I am by patients, their families, people from other departments, and some doctors. I never thought bosses would be so quick to stab you in the back and try to get you in trouble. I thought I would be a valued employee and appreciated for what I did because I am a nurse who truly has a heart, cares about my patients, likes to get along well with others, and work as a team.

Instead, as a nurse you are treated like a peon. You have a team of 6-8 patients and are running like a mad woman to take care of all of them properly while your boss sits on her butt looking for any one tiny thing you might miss (while not offering to lift a finger to help you). Families sit in the room watching you like a hawk assuming you are going to hurt their family member. Griping because you have to turn people with skin issues or check for incontinence. Griping because you have to change an IV. The other day I had a family member sitting there watching me like a hawk as I had to change the patient's IV. Mind you the patient was an obese lady with huge arms and had had to have deep lines in the past. She said to me very rudely, "You get ONE stick, then somebody else is gonna do it." Then proceeded to stand and watch me with her arms folded across her chest. Excuse me, since when does the family dictate my job? :mad: That really burnt me up. Fortunately I got her IV on the first stick, but I have to take crap like that from people or I would probably be written up by my manager. I never thought nursing would be like this. When I visited people in the hospital before I was a nurse I had respect for the medical staff and would never dream of talking to them the way I am talked to.

You are blamed for everything. Doctor comes in late today? Nurse is yelled at about it by family. Doctor changes a medicine and doesn't tell the family about it? Nurse is grilled about it. Lab wakes you up early for blood draw? Nurse is yelled at about it. Doc orders stat MRI at 5 pm on a Friday? Nurse is yelled at about it by Radiology. Assistant doesn't check patient for incontinence while nurse is trying to start an IV in another room? Nurse is yelled at about it by family. Medicine is late from pharmacy? Nurse is yelled at about it. Dietary doesn't send up a food tray for a patient? Nurse is yelled at about it. We can do nothing right. It has really been disheartening. We go into nursing to help people and instead are treated like crap. I can honestly say that nursing is the job I have felt I have been the least respected in of all the jobs I have ever had. It has just been very disappointing. Maybe I am just venting because I have had a bad week, but just wondering if anyone else has felt this way? I WANT to like nursing because I spent all of this time getting this degree and getting licensed but wow. :crying2:

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Hi everyone.

I'm the nurse that started this post a couple of months ago. Since I wrote this post I have changed jobs and I can say without a shadow of a doubt that the problem was with that particular job, that particular hospital, those particular co-workers, and the management on that unit. It was a toxic environment and I was at an all time low point in my morale. I no longer work at that hospital. I now have a nursing job in a completely different facility where I am a thousand times happier. It's like night and day in comparison to the other hospital. I actually enjoy being a nurse again. :yeah:

Of course every job has its ups and downs and my new job isn't perfect, but it sure as he!! beats that other place. I was at the point of quitting nursing all together from working there. My advice to anyone feeling the way that I was is to keep looking for another job, no matter how long it takes. Maybe the problem isn't nursing, it's your particular job. I am fortunate to live in a big enough city that there are a few different options of hospitals and other facilities for nurses to work in. Good luck to anyone who is in search of the right job for them. Hang in there. We can't afford to lose good nurses to bad management and abusive work environments. Thanks for all the supportive and understanding comments.

:clpty: Well said! I am so happy for you!! *wine

Anyone else feel the same?

When I was in nursing school, I was so excited to get finished and get a job. I thought I would enjoy doing nursing tasks all day...meds, IVs, injections, dressing changes, catheters, charting. I was so proud to tell people I was becoming a nurse. I would be making all of this good money. My job would be exciting all day long. I would be helping people. I would get respect...

But 5 years later, ha! What a joke! Don't get me wrong. I am grateful to have a degree. I am grateful to have a job in this bad economy, but nursing sure turned out to be a disappointment. I never thought that I would be worked to death the way nurses are. I never thought I would be talked to like a dog the way I am by patients, their families, people from other departments, and some doctors. I never thought bosses would be so quick to stab you in the back and try to get you in trouble. I thought I would be a valued employee and appreciated for what I did because I am a nurse who truly has a heart, cares about my patients, likes to get along well with others, and work as a team.

Instead, as a nurse you are treated like a peon. You have a team of 6-8 patients and are running like a mad woman to take care of all of them properly while your boss sits on her butt looking for any one tiny thing you might miss (while not offering to lift a finger to help you). Families sit in the room watching you like a hawk assuming you are going to hurt their family member. Griping because you have to turn people with skin issues or check for incontinence. Griping because you have to change an IV. The other day I had a family member sitting there watching me like a hawk as I had to change the patient's IV. Mind you the patient was an obese lady with huge arms and had had to have deep lines in the past. She said to me very rudely, "You get ONE stick, then somebody else is gonna do it." Then proceeded to stand and watch me with her arms folded across her chest. Excuse me, since when does the family dictate my job? :mad: That really burnt me up. Fortunately I got her IV on the first stick, but I have to take crap like that from people or I would probably be written up by my manager. I never thought nursing would be like this. When I visited people in the hospital before I was a nurse I had respect for the medical staff and would never dream of talking to them the way I am talked to.

You are blamed for everything. Doctor comes in late today? Nurse is yelled at about it by family. Doctor changes a medicine and doesn't tell the family about it? Nurse is grilled about it. Lab wakes you up early for blood draw? Nurse is yelled at about it. Doc orders stat MRI at 5 pm on a Friday? Nurse is yelled at about it by Radiology. Assistant doesn't check patient for incontinence while nurse is trying to start an IV in another room? Nurse is yelled at about it by family. Medicine is late from pharmacy? Nurse is yelled at about it. Dietary doesn't send up a food tray for a patient? Nurse is yelled at about it. We can do nothing right. It has really been disheartening. We go into nursing to help people and instead are treated like crap. I can honestly say that nursing is the job I have felt I have been the least respected in of all the jobs I have ever had. It has just been very disappointing. Maybe I am just venting because I have had a bad week, but just wondering if anyone else has felt this way? I WANT to like nursing because I spent all of this time getting this degree and getting licensed but wow. :crying2:

hi all, im so relieved to find out that im not the only one who feels like that...i was in tears when i saw this post.... you can imagine how i feel about my job as a nurse.... we are treated worse than a garbage... by doctors, patients, family, patients itself.... when we call the doctor in the middle of the night because his patient's general condition is not well and requires immediate treatment by the doctor, the doctor calls us stupid because we called him in the middle of the night..is this what nursing is all about? i dont know...

Hi everyone.

I'm the nurse that started this post a couple of months ago. Since I wrote this post I have changed jobs and I can say without a shadow of a doubt that the problem was with that particular job, that particular hospital, those particular co-workers, and the management on that unit. It was a toxic environment and I was at an all time low point in my morale. I no longer work at that hospital. I now have a nursing job in a completely different facility where I am a thousand times happier. It's like night and day in comparison to the other hospital. I actually enjoy being a nurse again. :yeah:

Of course every job has its ups and downs and my new job isn't perfect, but it sure as he!! beats that other place. I was at the point of quitting nursing all together from working there. My advice to anyone feeling the way that I was is to keep looking for another job, no matter how long it takes. Maybe the problem isn't nursing, it's your particular job. I am fortunate to live in a big enough city that there are a few different options of hospitals and other facilities for nurses to work in. Good luck to anyone who is in search of the right job for them. Hang in there. We can't afford to lose good nurses to bad management and abusive work environments. Thanks for all the supportive and understanding comments.

Glad to hear this. I just came upon this thread, and my first thoughts were that you were making these statements that "nursing is x, y, z" as though it was a universal absolute. My experience has been completely different. I've experienced only a very few of the things you mentioned, and have NEVER been treated "like crap" or like "a peon" by anyone. I was going to suggest to you that perhaps NURSING was not the problem, but your particular work environment. Fortunately you discovered this on your own.

Thanks for the update.:)

hi all, im so relieved to find out that im not the only one who feels like that...i was in tears when i saw this post.... you can imagine how i feel about my job as a nurse.... we are treated worse than a garbage... by doctors, patients, family, patients itself.... when we call the doctor in the middle of the night because his patient's general condition is not well and requires immediate treatment by the doctor, the doctor calls us stupid because we called him in the middle of the night..is this what nursing is all about? i dont know...

no, it's not. i've never been treated like "garbage," much less worse than garbage. i've never been called "stupid" by a doctor either, but believe you me, if it ever happened, i would let the doctor know that his/her unprofessional behavior would not be tolerated, and i would write him/her up immediately.

i hate to quote dr. phil, but one thing he says which i always nodded in agreement to is "you teach people how to treat you."

LOl -- just reading this today -- seeing my own comment from last year -- and how this year I feel the same as the OP did in her "toxic" job.

I've been in it now for about four years, and I'm disappointed because I just can't find a non-toxic environment and/or a job that doesn't work me like a DOG. I've been on three different units now in less than four years ...everytime I leave because of horrific co-workers and managers, unrealistic work loads, and just utter exhaustion. I just got a job in a cardiac unit, but am already ready to quit again -- after 3 months!! I just can't stand ANY of it.

Luckily, I'm working on a masters right now in nursing to be an FNP. I don't know if I'll ever reach the goal, but I just have decided nursing is NOT for me on any permanent basis. It's the most exhausting, disrespected job on the planet -- really, besides a maid ...well, it's truly even WORSE than a maid, or a garbage person ...at least they don't get blamed for everything and/or sued, or treated like crap by subordinates.

A long time ago, I would tell people I wished my daughter would have gone into nursing ...now I wouldn't wish that on her for anything. It's sad.

I think mostly it must be the acute care hospital based jobs that are the worst. The staffing is ridiculous and just staffing in the hospital overall is bad, leading to poor support of the nurses as well. The other day I needed an IV pump -- called the supply dept and they could NOT provide me an IV PUMP!!! It's a level 10 trauma center or some other such place ...but I could not get an IV pump to save my life -- what is UP with this kind of stuff? There is NO support, from pharmacy to supplies, to the remaining departments, to the ER. Same thing will happen w/ drugs ...we will wait 30 mins or more for a stat med ... it's happening more and more.

Don't even get me started on docs. The longer I'm in it, the ruder they seem to get. I'm also noticing they are NOT coming to assess their patients ...they want to give orders over the phone and that's it ...where the HELL are these docs hiding out??

All I can say is nursing has definitely burned me out .. .I'm out, as soon as possible. And one day, I guess, we will all just be taken care of by inexperienced and/or foreign nurses. Won't that be great.

Specializes in Step Down.

I can honestly say this is one of the most awesome post I have read... I have been feeling this exact same way for almost a year. I have been so fed up with the profession that I have decided it would be better to further my education. PPL always say to me "thats great your a nurse" HAHA! you don't understnad half the crap I go through. Seriously I make a great living on what I do and Ill tell ya the truth, I still feel that 60K a year isn't enough to deal with ppl BS...

No, it's not. I've never been treated like "garbage," much less WORSE than garbage. I've never been called "stupid" by a doctor either, but believe you me, if it ever happened, I would let the doctor know that his/her unprofessional behavior would not be tolerated, and I would write him/her up immediately.

I hate to quote Dr. Phil, but one thing he says which I always nodded in agreement to is "you teach people how to treat you."

yes, thats the correct action to do.. but in my hospital, no matter what, the management practices patient is right and doctors are right policy..... all the blame will go back to nurses...

Specializes in on the fence about nursing.

One night in clinical, when I realized that my friend was not going to make it through the first five weeks of the second semester of nursing school, I stopped and told her to look around at what the nurses on the floor were doing. There was one nurse that night, running around, delivering meds and doing patient care between six patients. I asked her: "Do you want to do something like that?" Her reply was no. She left nursing school and has never been happier. My friend has her own business, which she was running during the course of nursing school. She is used to making her own decisions. She didn't like and was not at ease with being a subordinate. It is that issue that is troubling for me, as well. Please look at the nursing specialty. What is making me reconsider being a nurse at this time is the lack of teamwork between nurses; lack of support from management; the attitudes of doctors towards nurses and patients; the lack of nurses being able to make their own decisions in the workplace; and the attitudes of nurses towards each other. I already got a kick in the you-know-what from another nurse under my previous post: Ethics 101. What is arrogant about a patient...whether that patient be a nurse or coming from another profession...being an active participant in their own healthcare and making decisions for himself or herself? Doesn't it take the burden off of nurses if I have a patient who is willing to educate himself or herself? or, is it better to have passive patients? I have also heard from a recent graduate of La Salle University that she will challenge any nurse on the floor that treats student nurses like dirt. My kudos goes out to her for having balls. I am already 3/4 of the way to a BSN....have been treated like dirt applying to La Salle...and, while I think I really should be reading the writing on the wall...and, it isn't that I can't make this happen academically...something keeps me from letting go.

Specializes in Med-Surg; Telemetry; School Nurse pk-8.
Our staffing has been ridiculous lately. I generally do a few days in a row. First day, I can come in, know staffing will suck, tell myself to just get through the day, do what I can do with the 2 hands, 2 feet and 1 brain. I'll go home feeling ok. About halfway through a second day of that, and it really starts to get to me that I can't be the best nurse I can be because the system is failing me. And it frustrates the hedoublehockeysticks out of me. Give me 3 days of it, and I just may have a total breakdown in the med room.

I can handle the ***** families and ***** doctors and ***** management. But each and every time that I go to work, and I feel like I'm failing my patients through no fault of my own, simply because I don't have the staff and equipment I need to do my job well, that is really difficult for me to handle. I'm trying really hard to be more zen and adopt Ottawa's attitude, because I know it will do wonders for my blood pressure, but it really frustrates me that I have to accept going to work and doing a crappy job when I'm capable of so much better.

Sometimes I read your posts, and think "Did I write that?" Oh no, it was Wooh. :cheers:

Specializes in on the fence about nursing.

I think what keeps me from not letting go of nursing as an alternative career path is the belief that nursing can live up to what it can be, and maybe in the human spirit of making things better....and that what I will experience in nursing is no different than what I experience in my career as an insurance agent, and other careers that I have been involved in....folks, I do not work in the health care/health insurance line of insurance...just auto, home, and flood insurance lines.

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
I think what keeps me from not letting go of nursing as an alternative career path is the belief that nursing can live up to what it can be, and maybe in the human spirit of making things better....and that what I will experience in nursing is no different than what I experience in my career as an insurance agent, and other careers that I have been involved in....folks, I do not work in the health care/health insurance line of insurance...just auto, home, and flood insurance lines.

I can really relate to your dilemma!! I can still relate to it after all these years. It always amuses me when people reply to me with variations of the theme "you've been a nurse for so long you've lost all perspective" or "you've never done anything else" - it's wrong on so many levels. I've had a love/hate relationship with nursing for years, but the little nagging kernel of attraction to the field never went away completely even though I've gotten pretty deeply involved in other avenues of interest. Sometimes it is like the "spot" -- out damn you just go away already so I can be a in peace!!

It was a different time and place in 1975, though. I felt as though the value system was more military for lack of a better word, and I as a 1st-career 19yo newbie would not have challenged more experienced working nurses. If you do as I did (keep putting one foot in front of the other through the angst) and get your license you may find the positives about it very compelling. The problem is they are intangible and hard to describe especially to someone who just hasn't done it before. People try to describe it - usually it comes out sounding really sweet. But it's more than "sweet" when you know you did something for someone nobody else could've done.

As the years have passed a funny thing has happened. All the changes in nursing I've seen followed almost exactly that heretical thinking I did as a new nurse/student but never talked about. Some things you think are stupid begin to make sense to you as you go along, too.

Anyway, just want to share that all ambivalent people don't choose to leave. You could end up helping the field evolve to the next level if you decide to proceed despite all the nagging questions you might have. It hasn't always been smooth sailing between me and nursing, but I don't regret staying.

Specializes in Intermediate care.

I havent been in nursing very long, infact i'm only 23 years old and i'm already looking forward to retirement!!!

I feel very fortunate to have my job, but i did not see nursing anything like this. I thought it would be the best job in the world and my life would be glorious!!!!! yeah....no! It is very stressful.

I am the most patient person, but it has really brought me to my boiling point.

Anyway, i don't see myself doing hospital nursing forever. I do feel the need to get out of the hospital and doing something else. My dream job would be to be a school nurse!!! Just waiting for a job in our pediatrics unit to open up to get some pediatrics experience so i can work towards school nursing. Not that i don't think school nursing isn't stressful, it's just the type of nursing i have loved always. i think it will be stressful, but at least i'll be enjoying what i am doing!!!

There is SOOO much you can do with your nursing degree other than being a bedside nurse in a hospital. I suggest looking for something that suites you and what you enjoy.

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