Related to complaints about nursing homes I've heard arguments like "If they really loved her, they wouldn't have put her in a home. They'd take care of her themselves, nothing is more important than family."
Also, "What do you expect when you go to the cheapest possible nursing home/whatever medicare will pay for. If they really cared they'd put her in a more expensive/better nursing home".
I disagree with that because sometimes life doesn't allow you to give up all your time to care for an elderly relative. HOWEVER, with the current state of LTC facilities and extremely poor staffing, they are not safe or responsible places to put your loved one MOST of the time. I know the place I just quit, I wouldn't send a dog there. 1 nurse for 30 patients with 3-15 meds a piece? Not enough time to be safe and careful. Let alone provide even basic, minimal care.
Please don't speak for all of them :) You had a bad experience; there are a lot of nice places out there providing good care
I have to disagree with all of you who've dumped family members in care to live riotous lifestyles of lazy selfishness (and that's all of you, BTW), for Jackson's post has shown me the light.
Oh, wait. No.
How great for you that this has been your experience. As many members, including me, have posted here, that rosy picture is for many reasons not an option for everyone. Those reasons are many and varied - and unless I'm prepared to take over the care myself, personally, in my own home, on my own dome, I don't get to substitute my decision for that of the family.
I'm really getting tired of the arrogance of people who think that, based on little or no information, they have the right or capacity to determine what other people should be doing in this situation. If you choose to care for family members at home and have the ability to do so, good for you. It's not a possibility for everyone.
Why are you a member of this forum? You are not a nurse. Occasionally, we do receive insightful and helpful comments from non-nurse members. Unfortunately, none of your "contributions" have come close to being either of these things.
Just how are your SISTERS paying in the upper 5-digits for home health care??? Why on earth are these WOMEN out working? Shouldn't they be in their places at home?
Just how are your SISTERS paying in the upper 5-digits for home health care??? Why on earth are these WOMEN out working? Shouldn't they be in their place at home?
I especially enjoyed the sentiment in Jackson Care's post about single women needing to work if they don't have a father, male relative, or husband to support them.
Is that for real?? What century are we in? I guess that's why I went to nursing school...because I don't have a father, male relative, or husband to support me
It took me awhile to find it. There was a thread a few months back, very sad case. This is what happens when someone who needs to be in a facility is taken care of at home by people who have no medical training.
This is my favorite reply 
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Lol Nerd, you're right. I had a long post all typed then thought better of it.
You wouldn't need a whole unit, one would do!