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In a discussion I had with my brother in law today (who is a future nurse!), I learned he is uncomfortable with public breastfeeding unless there is a blanket involved. I know some folks wouldn't even like it with a blanket! I strongly feel that, as nurses, we should be doing what we can to support and advocate for breastfeeding and shed it in a positive light. I couldn't believe that a health care professional would feel differently. Obviously, this is coming from the United States (sigh).

I'm someone that usually works to make people feel comfortable in situations, but if my baby needs to be fed and some guy doesn't like it, well then he doesn't have to look! My baby comes first. That's how I feel about it. Guys will say that we shouldn't expose our breasts because they are too sexual, then agree that breastfeeding isn't sexual, but still say that we should hide it.....I cannot follow the circular reasoning.

I want to raise sons who know that breasts, as sexually appealing as they may be to them when they are older, are made to feed babies. That a uterus carries babies and lady partss birth them. I believe that this gives men a truer, deeper respect for women and for all human beings ... our bodies are not just sex objects! I saw a funny T-shirt that said -- Breasts: Not just for selling cars anymore!

I wanted to see what other nurses thought about this, on a personal level as well as a public health level.

It is natural; we are not born clothed. You just don't like it.

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I will say though, that even though two of my kids nursed well past their 2nd birthdays, I didn't nurse them in public at that age, and I do find it disturbing to see older children nursing in public. I've seen 5yo children nursing while in a shopping carriage and mom was standing in front of them. That was just a little too much for me, though I would still never say anything.

That is too much for me too. I nursed two of mine into toddlerhood (probably this last one past 2 yrs the way thngs are going) but I quit nursing in public after 6 months because it was impossible to be discreet once they start twiddling your nipples, yanking your shirt up, etc. Blanket over the head?? FORGET IT, that was impossible after about 4 months. It's rare my toddler asks anymore, mostly it's just nap and bedtime for him but if we are out for the day and it gets to be naptime and he is staggering around bleary eyed he starts trying to yank my shirt up I either distract him or go to the bathroom. Yes, it sucks to have to feed him in the bathroom but there is no way I will subject the public to my toddler standing up and nursing. He is very territorial about my breasts and must touch them, caress them, etc and when he's doing it, I may as well be naked. BATHROOM stall for us!

Ruex,

It's great to see a guy your age thinking that way. My husband does, too, and I'm proud!

Ruex,

It's great to see a guy your age thinking that way. My husband does, too, and I'm proud!

My husband is a red-neck farmer/logger and he was very supportive of my breastfeeding our kids. Plus, he agrees with co-sleeping! Amazing. :)

steph

Just started to read this thread. I was in a fast food place my teenage son was across from me with his back to the table where a woman who who had a tiny baby, completely lifted her blouse and with both breasts hanging out put the baby on the breast. Here was I, someone who nursed for a long time and helped other mothers nurse was completely shocked and embarrased, I couldnt talk. I was wishing my son would not turn aroundand he didn't. It gives everyone who wants to nurse a bad name. I nursed with a blanket.

I had the same thing happen!!!:o

I was in a JC Penny's and there were a bunch of mothers waiting with their children to have pictures taken. As I was approaching where they were sitting, one of the mothers lifted and threw a poncho type blouse over one shoulder fully exposing both unfettered breasts! She proceeded to lift the baby to one breast and left the other just hanging out in the open. I don't know if she eventually covered up since I kept on walking but let me tell you...I was disgusted!:barf01:

Now, let me explain that I breastfed my daughter for 10 months and I fed her anywhere and everywhere when I needed to. I never had any problems with people saying anything. I don't know if anyone ever looked in disgust 'cause I was frankly too busy looking at my daughter's

beautiful face. BUT I found that what that woman did was disgusting. There was no reason for her to expose everything like that. When I breastfed, I didn't need a blanket to cover, I simply wore an oversized, buttondown shirt and unbuttoned one button (at nipple height), held my daughter where she needed to be, shooched the hole over, reached in the hole and undid the flap on my bra and then let my daughter have at it. Her head covered anything from sight. Sure, if someone wanted to stare, I'm sure they would figure out what I was doing, but that would have been their fault since I was very discreet.

I've seen other women discretely breastfeeding and it is a beautiful thing--not at all offensive but that woman I saw in JC Penny's was just a crude, obnoxous exhibitionist and those are the kind of breastfeeding mothers that give us all a bad name.

BUT with all that said, it was ultimately my choice to keep looking or not, I chose not to and went about my own business.

Specializes in Ante-Intra-Postpartum, Post Gyne.

I understand that every one has their own opinion, fine. But I really do not think these people that complain about seeing a breast if they see a woman breastfeeding have much to complain about. Seeing a breastfeeding woman in public is like a special treat for me, I rarely see it and wished I saw more of it. Yes, we have come a long way, but still not enough woman breastfeed today.

In our mall, right next to the restrooms there is a breastfeeding room with a rocking chair. This is a nice idea for those who do not like to feed their babies in the public eye. But, when the waffling odors coming from the toilet six feet away, that is the last place I would want to be eating a meal, why would it be any different for a baby?

Some one mentioned that is some areas in this country some breastfeeding woman are given situations. I find this appalling. I am just glad that I live in a state where if a woman that is breastfeeding in public is asked to leave because of it, a law suit can be slapped real quick...and not on the mother...

One of the biggest steps forward in our society would be to

"de-sexualize" breasts. Nothing could be more natural or

beautiful than a mother feeding her child. If anyone has a

problem with it, that should be there problem to deal with.

At one time in England, people were so silly about the human

body that they put pant legs on their tables so as not to

offend anyone. We have progressed beyond that but I

wonder how far.

Gee, I feel better now just getting that off my mind.

Porcupine

One of the biggest steps forward in our society would be to

"de-sexualize" breasts. Nothing could be more natural or

beautiful than a mother feeding her child. If anyone has a

problem with it, that should be there problem to deal with.

At one time in England, people were so silly about the human

body that they put pant legs on their tables so as not to

offend anyone. We have progressed beyond that but I

wonder how far.

Gee, I feel better now just getting that off my mind.

Porcupine

What a great point!!!

Pants legs on tables - that is just the attitude I'm reading regarding breastfeeding. :)

Thanks.

steph

Absolutely right. It just shows respect for others.

Again, I'm not against breastfeeding in public, but I don't need to see someone flop out a breast. I'm willing to bet most of these woman wouldn't walk around topless at work or other public places, but we are supposed to accept it, just because they are breast feeding.

Okay, I recently returned from Africa. The woman there breastfeed everywhere and anywhere. In public, in front of other kids etc. You know what? No one blinked an eye. I didn't either. It felt 100% natural. We in America can be soo uptight. I guess that's our culture.

My baby is hungry. Someone sound the boob alarm!!!!!

Specializes in L & D; Postpartum.

Most of Africa is part of the third world. Just because something is done there doesn't mean it should be done here. I'm in the do it but cover up crowd.

Most of Africa is part of the third world. Just because something is done there doesn't mean it should be done here. I'm in the do it but cover up crowd.

Well, of course we shouldn't copy them in everything. But that is a wonderful aspect of their culture that we would do well to learn from.

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