I have bounced this off my boyfriend but now I need more input
I have a friend at school. I'll call her " Person A"
. I met Person A last semester when we realized we were both taking 2 of the same courses and became friends. Person A is on the same pre-req path as me to be a nurse.
This semester Person A and I planned to take A+P I together. Right now I am sitting with an overall high A(99.3)....Person A is sitting with barely a C(71.1).
Person A isn't dumb...she's actually very smart WHEN she applies herself. The problem is Person A is my lab partner...and as the semester has gone on..the less she has applied herself..the worse her grades have gotten the MORE she has been relying on me to tutor her....and sometimes when I try- she actually pays attention...usually when I try- she makes a joke out of it. My time is valuable... I have stressed that..when I do..Person A claims I wouldn't KNOW b/c this is my only class..and she's taking 2 others ( and , yes, I have taken multiple classes at once so I KNOW)
So now I just got notice that I can take A+P II online over the summer. Well Person A just found that out too and sent me an email about how excited she is about it- because we can BOTH take it online and we can study together. Yadda Yadda
OK here's the god's honest truth. I can't stand to study with Person A. To be honest I can't really stand to study with ANYONE. I am one of those people who is VERY VERY good at alone study..and VERY VERY BAD at group study ( to be honest...I get annoyed).
At her current pace...Person A has NO CHANCE of being admitted to the program next Spring. I have worked long and HARD for my 4.0 and the LAST thing I need is to spend ANOTHER semester dealing with her horrible study habits and at times..she's highly annoying in class ( she talks a LOT and falls asleep often).. I also don't think it's FAIR that I study my butt off and she comes running to me before every test to " help her out"
But *sigh* I am a kind soul...and I try my best. Today she claims she BOMBED lab test #3...so she's probably in D range at the moment. If she doesn't pull back up to a C...it wont matter- she WONT be able to go on to A+P II.
My question is 2 fold:
#1. Would you be HONEST ...I mean flat out HONEST to Person A and tell them that their lack of studying/commitment/ etc - REALLy makes you NOT want to deal with them again during A+P II...and that for the rest of THIS semester ( which is the meat+bones..hardest part) she's ON HER OWN
#2. Kindly tell Person A that they'd probably be better off taking A+P I over again....which is probably true...although there is a slight tinge of " it gets you out of the same class as me" to that.
I just don't know... I feel bad...I really do... I really like her...but as a lab partner/study partner she's on my last nerve...and I almost feel like I need to be BRUTALLY honest with her...she HAS to take A+P I again or she won't get in.