I recently was told by a physician that I was very hard to get along with and that I was the only Nurse on my unit that did't think he walked on water (yes, he actually used those words). So I told him just exactly what I thought about his 29 year old attitude toward nurses.. He has a very strong problem listening to anything a nurse suggest or informs him of. I told him that he did not like me because I don't sugar-coat everthing for him. I said I was to old and had been in the business to long to start now. Should I have just kept my mouth shut and let him continue the way he acts towards nurses. He has already been wrote up, talked up, and everything else. IT'S NOT SINKING IN FOR HIM??
Moho:devil:
ps: I really am a great person to get along with, I just don't like people that can't respect one another:)
I can't imagine being treated like that by a Doc......I work in an internal medicine office, we have 4 Docs and they ALL treat us with respect and truly respect our work and opinions......Essentially, we are treated as equals.....I just wish all nurses could have the positive experience that I have had!!....Maybe I can send our Docs out to give some lessons to these jerks?!?
:kiss I guess after the dust has blown over, the young Dr. has decided to be extra nice to me and request that we start over on the right foot. If I would have spoke up a long time ago, maybe I wouldn't have had to be so hard on him. I still mean every word with no regrets!!!!!! Thanks for the support.
Good job Mojo. I don't think we need to unecessarily antagonize the physician species, but theres a time and place for drastic measures as you found out. I'm glad you had the strength and confidence to stand up for yourself. Now if only nurses could stand up for themselves and eachother....
Specializes in Med/Surge, Psych, LTC, Home Health.
I too work in one of those hospitals where for the most part, the doctors rule and the nurses shake in their shoes whenever confronted with a doctor. Of course, it really depends on the doctor. Some of our doctors are quite nice and treat us all as their equals. But, for the doctors that are abusive and hateful, well... we are basically conditioned to take it. I mean, NOTHING is ever said, to the extent of possibly reporting doctors who are abusive.
We have a doctor, a surgeon, who is CONSTANTLY nasty to nurses who call him on the phone, especially at night. God forbid that any one of his patients should ever be in intractable pain which the prescribed pain meds are not helping. If we ever call this man at night because the patient is in pain, we get an earful. If the patient has not had any urine output in 8 hours, he's a little nicer. But if the pt. is just merely UNCONFORTABLE... fuggittaboutit.
Then we have another surgeon who is a *great* a well respected surgeon, but who had NO qualms about hollering at me and ridiculing me right there at the nurses station in front of everyone, because I had forgotten to put the measurement from a patient's NG tube drainage overnight into the computer. It wasn't enough for him to just ask me how much the drainage had been. He HAS to have everything laid out RIGHT in front of him when he comes in in the mornings. And when I did tell him about how much the drainage HAD been, he accused me of pulling that number out of my ass, basically.
*sighs* I don't know. I work for a med surge floor for a community hospital right now. I've only been a nurse now for six months. I am thinking of taking a position in the NICU of a fairly large children's hospital in Louisville KY in the next few months, or even sooner. I hope that the relationship between doctor and nurse in a place like that, is a bit better. I know that I absolutely LOVE the pediatricians that I work with now.
I am a nursing student and was watching a cabgx3 (i want a career in the OR and I asked for an extra day there). At the end of the surgery, the surgeon (who apparently is known for having a huge ego) asked me if I was impressed with what I saw...I told him yes...then he asked me if I had any questions...I was about to ask him about a blood pressure problem that the anesthetist was having when he then asked me if I , at any point during the surgery found him attractive...the atmosphere was very interesting i.e. he mentioned how his daughter's college friends were hot and plumping up nicely ...my response to his question..."you have a small head"....which I think he does....his head looks funny..the one that is 3 feet above his hiney....I have a very dry sense of humor.....I am not 20 btw...this probably wasn't the best answer, but the first one that came out of my mouth....oh well....
Specializes in Trauma,ER,CCU/OHU/Nsg Ed/Nsg Research.
Originally posted by RealNurseWitch
I too work in one of those hospitals where for the most part, the doctors rule and the nurses shake in their shoes whenever confronted with a doctor. Of course, it really depends on the doctor. Some of our doctors are quite nice and treat us all as their equals. But, for the doctors that are abusive and hateful, well... we are basically conditioned to take it. I mean, NOTHING is ever said, to the extent of possibly reporting doctors who are abusive.
Hi, from Louisville! I bet I know what hospital corp. YOU work for.
Good luck at Kosair- I hope you get the job! U of L also has a NICU- you might want to consider them as well- I know they're hiring on that floor right now.:)
What is really scarey is that some of these obnoxious docs have children. I can just imagine the years of therapy these poor tykes will have to endure.
Mojo - come work with me - you sound like a wonderful person! I take no crap from anyone and don't expect anyone else to either. I work in a large teaching hospital in the ER and love it. I have been called direct, assertive and more - less flattering names. However, I always am polite and respectful - I never swear at work but the doctors know when they have pushed me too far also. They'd better be nice to the new nurses too. oops - I guess I'm being more than assertive than I thought - yikes!
Specializes in ER - trauma/cardiac/burns. IV start spec.
Our hospital has a resident program and each summer we would get 6 - 10 "baby docs" as we woud call them (amoung other things). On their first night in the ER we would let them do things their way. Then after sizing up each of them I made a point of telling them the following:
"I can make this rotation easy or make it a living hell for you. Take your pick." I had a couple that tried the hell version - one ended up leaving and the other one - well he was just to thickheaded and everyone made it hard for him. He finally went to another program.
When the ER docs call the residents to come and work up the patients for admission the residents would call the nurses and order lots of tests and tell us to call with the results. Welllllll all righty then, when the cbc would print off call #1 white cell count, 15 mins later call #2 rbcs, call #3 hemoglob, call #4 hemocrit - get my drift. Each call about 15 mins apart. After a while they learned to get up and come to the er.
Also would keep adding test after test causing the patient to endure multiple sticks. Fixed that one night, On the third draw I told the two residents to tell me all the tests that they wanted or I would just order one of every blood test in our computer and let them explain it to their attending. Never happened again - at least not with me.
Had one anesthia MD come to the ER having a fit about blood patch but that is another story, anyway he was having fit and talked down to me I told him that I was not to be spoken to that way He was like " and how am I speaking to you". "I am not an idiot and I don't like to be spoken down to. Well we went to a room with a door and had it out. We then went back to nurses desk laughing and I was always treated with respect by all the crnas and doc in that group.
"i work in an internal medicine office, we have 4 docs and they all treat us with respect and truly respect our work and opinions......essentially, we are treated as equals....."
when i worked in a clinic/doctor office, i did not witness the "abuse" from our doctors either.
Our ER docs treat us with a lot of respect. They know when a nurse has good judgement. The attendings are a whole other story. As long as you tell them that you will not accept that kind of treatment and can show them that you have a brain, they will give you the respect you deserve.
I recently was told by a physician that I was very hard to get along with and that I was the only Nurse on my unit that did't think he walked on water (yes, he actually used those words). So I told him just exactly what I thought about his 29 year old attitude toward nurses.. He has a very strong problem listening to anything a nurse suggest or informs him of. I told him that he did not like me because I don't sugar-coat everthing for him. I said I was to old and had been in the business to long to start now. Should I have just kept my mouth shut and let him continue the way he acts towards nurses. He has already been wrote up, talked up, and everything else. IT'S NOT SINKING IN FOR HIM??
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I can't imagine being treated like that by a Doc......I work in an internal medicine office, we have 4 Docs and they ALL treat us with respect and truly respect our work and opinions......Essentially, we are treated as equals.....I just wish all nurses could have the positive experience that I have had!!....Maybe I can send our Docs out to give some lessons to these jerks?!?