People continue to come up with stories that strain my ability to believe them

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Every once I post a second hand story that I just got to talk about even while I have a hard time believing it. This one is about a manager that suspected an employee of meeting with a person on work hours for a romantic liaison. The manager wanted to follow this person and catch him "flagrante delicto", AND the manager wanted my friend to come along as a witness. My friend said, "NO, that isn't in my job description!" I accused this friend of pulling my leg. They insist it really happened.:bugeyes::icon_roll

Specializes in trauma, ortho, burns, plastic surgery.

Dear Lord I can not belive my eyes what I read in a nursing forum...

On my job description is to know who with who has an affait or who f...who in lunch time, looool. I hope that I understand well.

Damn it...this life is crazy, lol

Is not anyone bussiness.... neither IF is happen whatever..... as soon is not paid from hospital money, lol and as soon they are ADULTS and is not involving a patient, stay away!

And manager could make a report for missing from job hours, and not "missing from job hours because the employee was on reproduction time" , is not anyone bussines what he/she doing in that time.

LOOOOOL what crazy people!

Specializes in Med-Surg.

:chuckle:chuckleI'm just wondering who has the time to fool around during their shift?

Ah, yes. This stuff happens for sure.

*I caught two aides making out in an empty pt room.

*My former room mate/co-worker (and nut-case, I might add) confessed to me a steamy kiss she had in front of a blind pt with "Hott Jose, CNA". I am still torn between being amused by that and being disgusted!

*The Admissions Director (a looong legged blonde with a "reputation") stealing a kiss from a male aide over a pt bed and make VERY clear what she wanted from the poor (heh) guy. He was flattered and embarrassed and admitted that she had managed to "turn on " his "call light". LOL

*The aide who decided to let a male aide know how much she wanted him whilst they where in the clean utility room. He described his experience as "comical" because he was doing his best to "escape". This included a chase around the room and an attempt to place a linen cart between himself and her. He got away in one piece. (This same gal later hit on ME. LOL! She was nuts!)

*The housekeeper and maintenance man who both got the can when they were caught in a tub room by a pt. And in this case, they were NOT just kissing. This was a HUGE scandal at our facility!

*My cousin is a doctor and was busted in a supply room w/ a nurse. He admitted it was true. What an ass, tho. He had a wife and daughter at home. He doesn't now, though. Jerk! I guess he really wanted to be sure to keep that naughty nurse/doctor stereotype alive!!!

And the list above is the "bare-bones" version. Believe me, there was some pretty juicy detail involved in each case.

This stuff REALLY happens....

but I've never been involved in anything like that, personally.

Dammit!

:saint:

Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.

when i was a graduate student, i had a job supervising three group homes for dd children and teens. one group home had the four lowest functioning residents -- 2 little boys who were four and nine and a girl who was 15 and 1 5 year old girl. all the kids functioned on approximately a 6-9 month level. i stopped about 9:40 to have some paperwork signed when i had been expected at 10:00. i opened the front door and called the houseparent's name when no one answered the doorbell. i heard water running upstairs and found the on duty houseparent in the shower with another off duty houseparent. the kids were in their chairs in the kitchen, eating a snack but unsupervised, which was against the rules. i called my supervisor but, instead, got my bosses' boss. she was as appalled as i was. upon questioning, we discovered that the 15 year old often made it a threesome!:angryfire needless to say, they were fired but so was i. they said i should have known. the houseparent who initiated the whole thing had worked there under one month and i had only met him twice. i had done pop in checks and those were the two times and all appeared to bw well and there was nothing amiss in the girl's behavior.

sharpeimom:paw::paw:

:chuckle:chuckleI'm just wondering who has the time to fool around during their shift?
Was was the most unbelievable to me was that this manager wanted a busy charge person to leave her post and go sneaking around the basement of the hospital looking for the guilty party. Not supprised by stories like this, have heard them before, have not witnessed anything personally. However, that is the first instance I heard where management want to pull a person who had other things to do into it. That puts the innocent employee in a very uncomfortable position. I am glad my friend said "NO". In those management classes they should teach that the witness should be another management person.
Dear Lord I can not belive my eyes what I read in a nursing forum...

On my job description is to know who with who has an affait or who f...who in lunch time, looool. I hope that I understand well.

Damn it...this life is crazy, lol

Is not anyone bussiness.... neither IF is happen whatever..... as soon is not paid from hospital money, lol and as soon they are ADULTS and is not involving a patient, stay away!

And manager could make a report for missing from job hours, and not "missing from job hours because the employee was on reproduction time" , is not anyone bussines what he/she doing in that time.

LOOOOOL what crazy people!

This post has some good stuff in it. Personally this is how I would handle it if I were the boss. I would tell the person that there are complaints that they are disappearing for long periods. That this was their first warning. If they did it again there would be a suspension. Further problems could result in firing. Creeping around the basement dragging other employees into it is not the proper proceedure.

Specializes in corrections, psychiatric.
This post has some good stuff in it. Personally this is how I would handle it if I were the boss. I would tell the person that there are complaints that they are disappearing for long periods. That this was their first warning. If they did it again there would be a suspension. Further problems could result in firing. Creeping around the basement dragging other employees into it is not the proper proceedure.

Actually, as a prison nurse, I would find the Captain or Major and take him with me. If someone is missing, we want to know where they are. Or, I would call the Investigator and meet up with him. :twocents:

Specializes in LTC, Acute Care.

Okay, I totally have to say that I was dating my now-husband when we worked together but NEVER fooling around at work...or in public, for that matter! We knew that people were reporting to management when we went out together off the clock, but I don't know if management put them up to it since we'd hear about it FROM management at work the next time we worked.

:chuckle:chuckleI'm just wondering who has the time to fool around during their shift?

not only that, but any man who is that quick, will not get a 2nd invite.:lol2:

leslie

Specializes in trauma, ortho, burns, plastic surgery.
This post has some good stuff in it.

I know it, I know it.... LOOOOOOK at me ... I am gooooooooooooood PARTIALLY! LOOOOOOOOL

Oramar now without any joke around....this is for sure how the boss need to act, but in the same time need to act HUMAN! Ask the person involved if it is somenthing that "WE the bosses" could help her/him to not dissapering from job hours. Showing empaty to human needs , that will build you like a strong commander and will grow up the team like a great team. Make a contract with them. Suspension will come like a finallity of the contrat, if is happen again. May be they work long hours, may be they want a day off, may be.... whatever....;), talk with them. They are good and bad people around, for good ones is enough to talk, for bad ones.... nothing will work... but need to try to give them a chance. You don't want to have a place full of "rendez-vous" places on basement because a bad behavior of one employee could spread around very fast influencing others also and you don't want it!

Always for love... but 8 hours work means 8 hours of WORK...

i know this post is two years old, but why did you have to tell "your side of the story"? why didn't you just shut the door and go about your business?

having had the unfortunate experience of walking in on the director of nursing with the medical director of the er in flagrente, i sincerely wish i'd had a witness. (actually there were plenty of witnesses, but they were all pretty hard to pin down since most of them were merely passing strangers.) when the story started to circulate, i wished fervently i'd had someone with me to tell my side of the story!

i've seen patients going at with their spouses, with a prostitute and in one case, someone else's spouse. i've had nurses admit to me (while drinking) that they'd gotten it on with patients or with the spouses of patients. i've seen the aftermath of physicians (married) and nurses being caught in supply rooms or "empty" offices. i've seen two nurses who were married to other people taking their breaks in an empty on call room. (two divorces, one remarriage and then they were interviewed in the hospital newsletter on valentine's day because it was "so romantic" that they "found each other at work." i'm thinking it would be more romantic if they'd both been single when they found each other!)

the truth is so strange we don't need to make things up!

Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

I caught a girl going at it with her bf in the hospital. Nothing urgent was needed so I told them to carry on, told the other staff, then when the gf was finished, she just left & we did our work. There was no big deal made out of it, patients have needs & we understood that. The patient was much calmer after that though!!

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