So I was out with my girlfriend and I get a call from my sister explaining to me that someone had called my house asking for me. She said that the person said he was a patient of mine and wanted to talk to me about how he was doing etc. They told my sister and I quote "I found you number on the internet, you know you can find alot of stuff on the internet" Ahem...***** Well i nearly drove off the road, started yelling and screaming using some of the most colorful words i could conjure up at the moment. Not only is that extremely weird, but in my book, this classifies itself as stalking. I guess I also need to say that this person went to high school with me, and by with i mean I never was friends with this kid, never talked a single word to him at all, holy crap...i didn't even think the kid spoke! So 2 days ago I'm watching TV with my dad and the phone rings, we have caller ID that pops up on the TV when its on and I freaked out and I said DO NOT PICK THAT *#$@^#@ PHONE UP!!, of course its th Sis person calling again. I really didn't think the person would call back but he did and now I'm legit like freaked out about it. The kid not only has a laundry list of medical problems for which i don't give a hoot to talk to him about, but he also has mental problems, WHICH i might add he felt the need to talk to my sister about for 20 minutes the first time he called. So today when everyone in my family was around I said listen, if this number pops up, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES pick it up or I'll shove the phone so far up all of your ***** i'll make it come out your mouth. Of course my mother the pacifist is like well why dont you talk to him he probably does not have any friends. I said are you out of your mind ?!?! The phone call itself crosses so many boundaries in medicine/nursing that I cant even begin to tell you, not to mention the fact that it stalking! And of course my mother still wants me to be nice and I'm yelling by this point about how my philosophy is "Once a patient, ALWAYS a patient" and finally my father steps in agrees with me. Now here's where Im looking for advice...Im not sure if i should tell the hospital I work at or not..it doesn't seem like a hospital issue but I honestly don't have enough experience to know if thats the right thing to do, something tells me I should but like i said I'm not sure? So I'm willing to take any advice you might have...And on a funny note..i call optimum to ask if there is a way to block nuisance callers and she tells me, oh that feature was supposed to be out at the beginning of may but it's due to release in the first week of june...lol
I find it very hard to believe , shocking, and sad that a grown and educated man would react like this. Get some balls and tell the pt. To stop calling or else you will get the police involved.
I'm sure the op can do this in a decent and professional way.
And if idropped the f bomb in front of my mom or dad I would get knocked into the middle of next week.
I can see why others thoght you were a female... its because you are acting like one, actually worse.
What?!?!??! Because they cursed and didn't confront the caller they're acting like a female?? And, since you think they're acting "worse" than a female....please tell me how a "female" acts that is a problem?
Since I tend to confront situations....does that mean I acted correctly.....like a male?
This is one of the most offensive things I've read.
From your profile, you're a woman??? I am completely dumbfounded by this comment, you should be ashamed of yourself.
I think that this thread has strayed a little bit off the track because we are beginning to say things about age and gender where it is not necessary.
I read your entire post & I figured out you were male. I also figured out you weren't gay because you stated you were out with your girlfriend. But, I also picked up that you are probably pretty young (ie: immature). Living at home with parents, treating them very disrespectfully with your language and tone & not having the guts to professionally tell this caller to knock it off. It all seems pretty simple to me.
I was just stating my opinion. I'm sorry but I wouldn't expect a guy to come off as so emotional as a female would.
I agree I would of handled it better myself.
I think the majority of the posters are trying to offer rational, practical advice for the nurse who originally started this post. I'm sure that many of us would have handled this situation differently and we are trying to offer solutions on how to further handle the situation but can we avoid comments that discriminate against gender or age because they are not constructive or productive for the discussion.
Ok, back to the solution. Get yourself a SR9, get good, then invite him to the range with you while you unload on his picture or a silhouette entitled stalkers.
I know, I'm getting way too red, but seriously, I would.
Sounds like some people have some anger issues. This poor guy that is calling him just doesn't realize his boundries. I have had this situation happen to me and I just nicely explained to the patient that it would be better if he didn't call me at home, end of story. He doesn't call me at home anymore and there are no hard feelings because I was nice and professional about it.
so i was out with my girlfriend and i get a call from my sister explaining to me that someone had called my house asking for me. she said that the person said he was a patient of mine and wanted to talk to me about how he was doing etc. they told my sister and i quote "i found you number on the internet, you know you can find alot of stuff on the internet" ahem...***** well i nearly drove off the road, started yelling and screaming using some of the most colorful words i could conjure up at the moment. not only is that extremely weird, but in my book, this classifies itself as stalking. i guess i also need to say that this person went to high school with me, and by with i mean i never was friends with this kid, never talked a single word to him at all, holy crap...i didn't even think the kid spoke! so 2 days ago i'm watching tv with my dad and the phone rings, we have caller id that pops up on the tv when its on and i freaked out and i said do not pick that *#$@^#@ phone up!!, of course its th sis person calling again. i really didn't think the person would call back but he did and now i'm legit like freaked out about it. the kid not only has a laundry list of medical problems for which i don't give a hoot to talk to him about, but he also has mental problems, which i might add he felt the need to talk to my sister about for 20 minutes the first time he called. so today when everyone in my family was around i said listen, if this number pops up, do not under any circumstances pick it up or i'll shove the phone so far up all of your ***** i'll make it come out your mouth. of course my mother the pacifist is like well why dont you talk to him he probably does not have any friends. i said are you out of your mind ?!?! the phone call itself crosses so many boundaries in medicine/nursing that i cant even begin to tell you, not to mention the fact that it stalking! and of course my mother still wants me to be nice and i'm yelling by this point about how my philosophy is "once a patient, always a patient" and finally my father steps in agrees with me. now here's where im looking for advice...im not sure if i should tell the hospital i work at or not..it doesn't seem like a hospital issue but i honestly don't have enough experience to know if thats the right thing to do, something tells me i should but like i said i'm not sure? so i'm willing to take any advice you might have...and on a funny note..i call optimum to ask if there is a way to block nuisance callers and she tells me, oh that feature was supposed to be out at the beginning of may but it's due to release in the first week of june...lol
dude get some balls and pick up the phone when he calls again and set him straight. no need to get so emotional and cursed at your parents about them not picking up the phone. do you talk to your patients like that as well? i hope not! and yes now everyone knows you are a straight male. good for you! they better not mistake you for a female or gay from now on, right?
First of all, the patients have a right to know who is taking care of them. Second of all, all the patient has to do is call the nursing office and ask who was the nurse taking care of them at such and such a time and they will tell them your full name with credentials and they won't even bother to let you know they told them.
If all the patient has to do is call the nursing office and ask who the nurse is, what's the fuss for? Records are kept on who was working that particular day and who had which patients. At my hospital, we're told to make sure we wear our badges and that our photo is visible. I've seen plenty of employees besides myself-including nurses, esp. those in psych- with their last names covered up. My unit director nor anyone else has mentioned anything about.
Specializes in Wound care, Surgery,Infection control.
Ok, back to the solution. Get yourself a SR9, get good, then invite him to the range with you while you unload on his picture or a silhouette entitled stalkers.
I know, I'm getting way too red, but seriously, I would.
systoly , your post is very troubling. If you feel a SR9 is required, please rethink your position. My suggestion would be the S&W 500. Pricey, heavy but quite impressive - opt for the $200 stainless upgrade. I'm not encouraging "dude" to pop a cap in his stalker, he just seems a little angry, shooting at watermelons (sold on every corner here) is very soothing.
As for me, the most dangerous thing I own is RAID Roach Spray. Since i'm a female, I can control my anger with dark chocolate and birth-control pills.
BTW - I like red, not extreme red - Camping with an RV red.
I am more disturbed by the OP's reaction than I am to the patient calling him. I think you need to get a grip, and learn to manage your own emotional response to such situations. I would not want you for my nurse if you are not able to control yourself professionally in a stressful situation. There have been many replies that have offered very professional responses to this situation, I hope you take them to heart.
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What?!?!??! Because they cursed and didn't confront the caller they're acting like a female?? And, since you think they're acting "worse" than a female....please tell me how a "female" acts that is a problem?
Since I tend to confront situations....does that mean I acted correctly.....like a male?
This is one of the most offensive things I've read.
From your profile, you're a woman??? I am completely dumbfounded by this comment, you should be ashamed of yourself.