So I was out with my girlfriend and I get a call from my sister explaining to me that someone had called my house asking for me. She said that the person said he was a patient of mine and wanted to talk to me about how he was doing etc. They told my sister and I quote "I found you number on the internet, you know you can find alot of stuff on the internet" Ahem...***** Well i nearly drove off the road, started yelling and screaming using some of the most colorful words i could conjure up at the moment. Not only is that extremely weird, but in my book, this classifies itself as stalking. I guess I also need to say that this person went to high school with me, and by with i mean I never was friends with this kid, never talked a single word to him at all, holy crap...i didn't even think the kid spoke! So 2 days ago I'm watching TV with my dad and the phone rings, we have caller ID that pops up on the TV when its on and I freaked out and I said DO NOT PICK THAT *#$@^#@ PHONE UP!!, of course its th Sis person calling again. I really didn't think the person would call back but he did and now I'm legit like freaked out about it. The kid not only has a laundry list of medical problems for which i don't give a hoot to talk to him about, but he also has mental problems, WHICH i might add he felt the need to talk to my sister about for 20 minutes the first time he called. So today when everyone in my family was around I said listen, if this number pops up, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES pick it up or I'll shove the phone so far up all of your ***** i'll make it come out your mouth. Of course my mother the pacifist is like well why dont you talk to him he probably does not have any friends. I said are you out of your mind ?!?! The phone call itself crosses so many boundaries in medicine/nursing that I cant even begin to tell you, not to mention the fact that it stalking! And of course my mother still wants me to be nice and I'm yelling by this point about how my philosophy is "Once a patient, ALWAYS a patient" and finally my father steps in agrees with me. Now here's where Im looking for advice...Im not sure if i should tell the hospital I work at or not..it doesn't seem like a hospital issue but I honestly don't have enough experience to know if thats the right thing to do, something tells me I should but like i said I'm not sure? So I'm willing to take any advice you might have...And on a funny note..i call optimum to ask if there is a way to block nuisance callers and she tells me, oh that feature was supposed to be out at the beginning of may but it's due to release in the first week of june...lol
I am more disturbed by the OP's reaction than I am to the patient calling him. I think you need to get a grip, and learn to manage your own emotional response to such situations. I would not want you for my nurse if you are not able to control yourself professionally in a stressful situation. T
Not to pick on this person's post specifically (sorry, not to single you out) but there are alot of other ones like it. And I would like to say one thing. First off, for those of you who say I'm overreacting etc etc. First off I'm not over reacting, i think the way I worded everything and perhaps the f-words etc make it seem that I'm a being a little more dramatic than i need to be, which to true to some degree. And secondly, nobody should even be concerned about how i speak to my parents, my family dynamics are none of your *** **** business, my parents know i have a filthy mouth and while they certainly don't like it, they learn to deal with it, and i obviously don't speak like that when im at work in public, just in case you thought other wise. And for those who have called into question me being able to handle a stressful situation, uhh you should really know who you're talking to before you make an assumption like that I've been an EMT and firefighter for almost 10 years, I've been in more life and death situations where I've legitimately watched my life flash before eyes, not to mention I've taken care of way more critical patients than some ICU RNs with a whole lot less in the field and I've made it work, so before you so talking about how you be '******if I was your nurse" You need to think about who you're talking to cuz I find it disrespectful actually.
Secondly, I would like to thank the peoople who actually provided some helpful hints to the situation. There are a bunch of reasons why I didn't pick up the phone and I honestly dont have to explain all of them to everyone. Fact of the matter is this, in my book, once a patient, ALWAYS a patient I dont care who you are or how i know you, it is what it is, and to go along with that; This person went on the internet and searched my phone number out, I'm sorry in my book that puts you into stalker category, If i gave him my number or he had it from high school then thats a different story but I never ever talked a single word to this kid EVER. I appreciate those who have told me to pick up the phone say that it's crossing alot of boundaries and then just hung up, thank you cuz that's what I'm going to do the next time he calls. Thank you to those for the CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM, i appreciate it.
You got on here and asked for advice. When you do so, expect many different opinions from many different people. People took the time to respond to your post in an offer to help you, because YOU started this thread. If you didnt want that, then maybe you shouldnt have started this thread. We all need to be respectful of each other.
You got on here and asked for advice. When you do so, expect many different opinions from many different people. People took the time to respond to your post in an offer to help you, because YOU started this thread. If you didnt want that, then maybe you shouldnt have started this thread. We all need to be respectful of each other.
That's kind of the point, folks weren't very respectful of the OP, and while he asked for advice....he didn't ask for a criticism of his familial communication style.
systoly , your post is very troubling. If you feel a SR9 is required, please rethink your position. My suggestion would be the S&W 500. Pricey, heavy but quite impressive - opt for the $200 stainless upgrade. I'm not encouraging "dude" to pop a cap in his stalker, he just seems a little angry, shooting at watermelons (sold on every corner here) is very soothing.
As for me, the most dangerous thing I own is RAID Roach Spray. Since i'm a female, I can control my anger with dark chocolate and birth-control pills.
I prefer a my late Father's Glock, myself.
Dark chocolate and BCPs for you, Red wine and some decent antipasti for me.
morte, LPN, LVN
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1) it is none of our business what the verbal dynamics of the OPs family are.
2) It is often recommended NOT to have any interaction with persons such as the one that the OP describes.
3) Why is it so hard to understand that the OP is concerned about himself AND his family? It would appear that
both his sister and mother have boundry issues of their own, and/or have no understanding of mental health
issues.
4) I vote for ignoring this person, and if they dont stop soon, contacting police.