Old patients unsuccessfully clinging to independent living

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I see a lot of fiercely independent seniors who haven't planned well for the next phase of life. In the rural areas, they are used to living on their own, sometimes on properties that are deteriorating due to their owners creeping infirmities, or lifelong patterns of sloppiness.

Some have had hoarding tendencies that have gotten out of hand. EMS will give colorful reports on that.

What a good way to help these stubborn folk, who need to be guided into assisted living, or toward accepting family help? Sometimes adult children are spread out, or alienated from their parents.

Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
31 minutes ago, Emergent said:

OMG, Kooky Kooky is telling me I didn't phrase my post good enough.  Now THAT'S ironic funniness! 

Sorry,  it IS a general problem,  usually with the older, white folk, who are inconsiderate of their busy offspring,  or alienated from them, and think the health care system can and should, k

Oh so now we are picking on white people who are inconsiderate of their busy off-Spring, or alienated from them. This has just gotten two funny. My mother did everything in her power to alienate her kids and yet we all banded together to make sure she would be safe and well cared for. The fact that we essentially kid napped her from her home literally kicking and screaming and put her in a place at a cost of almost $10,000.00 a month. 

Having seen 1st hand as an ambulance driver how horribly some nursing homes treat their residents I would never want my child to put me in one of those places. 

This method of wharehousing the old until they die so they can be out or sight, out of mind is stupid. Every time I went to see my mom she called me a fat cow didn't mean that I was too busy to go see her after working a 60 hour week. My family holds to the idea of familial obligations. A concept todays millineals an gen X have no idea of. 

In Asian and some European countries it's commonplace to have whole families: aging parents, their children and grandchildren living all together. IMHO USA could do this as well with a little restructuring of expectations and priorities, to make it possible. 

I generally don't respond to this op because of the continual bait and switch tactics of post vague but provokative and incindiary posts and when the anwer expected does not come through changing the narrative with clarification that should have been included in the original question.

Hppy

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Actually,  this site seems to have lost its preeminence as a nursing, cutting edge, dominant website. 

The content has been boring.

I have loved this site, and have tried to contribute to it in my own way. I am sad to see it go downhill.

I think the administration of allnurses is doing its best, but the ultimate destiny of this site is into the dustbin of the internet.

 

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5 hours ago, Emergent said:

Actually,  this site seems to have lost its preeminence as a nursing, cutting edge, dominant website. 

The content has been boring.

I have loved this site, and have tried to contribute to it in my own way. I am sad to see it go downhill.

I think the administration of allnurses is doing its best, but the ultimate destiny of this site is into the dustbin of the internet.

 

Contribute how? Trolling and race baiting?

7 hours ago, Emergent said:

OMG, Kooky Kooky is telling me I didn't phrase my post good enough.  Now THAT'S ironic funniness! 

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Sorry,  it IS a general problem,  usually with the older, white folk, who are inconsiderate of their busy offspring,  or alienated from them, and think the health care system can and should, k

Just now, CharleeFoxtrot said:

Contribute how? Trolling and race baiting?

 

 

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Specializes in Dialysis.
10 hours ago, hppygr8ful said:

Oh so now we are picking on white people who are inconsiderate of their busy off-Spring, or alienated from them. This has just gotten two funny. My mother did everything in her power to alienate her kids and yet we all banded together to make sure she would be safe and well cared for. The fact that we essentially kid napped her from her home literally kicking and screaming and put her in a place at a cost of almost $10,000.00 a month. 

Having seen 1st hand as an ambulance driver how horribly some nursing homes treat their residents I would never want my child to put me in one of those places. 

This method of wharehousing the old until they die so they can be out or sight, out of mind is stupid. Every time I went to see my mom she called me a fat cow didn't mean that I was too busy to go see her after working a 60 hour week. My family holds to the idea of familial obligations. A concept todays millineals an gen X have no idea of. 

 

This isn't generational, it's personal accountability. My grandma had to be placed in a facility before she died. 9 kids found, placed, and paid the $14,000 monthly base bill + extra at a private nursing home. All 9 kids spent little to no time there. 7 live in the same town, 1 lived across country, 1 in Italy. The last 2 I could give a pass, but my own mother lived within walking distance. Nope it was 25 of 33 of the GenX and millenial grandkids and 6 of 14  millenial great grands that were there through the week and weekends. Even the out of towners (except European) made a point to visit often. Grandma passed, surrounded by a couple of kids and most of grandkids at her side. I've told my mother that she better pray that I don't follow her lead when it comes her time. My mom and none of my aunts or uncles are disabled or had reason to stay away. They just all feel that they should be living life. It broke my heart.  Sadly, other countries are becoming more distant from their elders as they become more modern. It scares me for our future

 

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9 hours ago, Emergent said:

Actually,  this site seems to have lost its preeminence as a nursing, cutting edge, dominant website. 

The content has been boring.

I have loved this site, and have tried to contribute to it in my own way. I am sad to see it go downhill.

I think the administration of allnurses is doing its best, but the ultimate destiny of this site is into the dustbin of the internet.

 

I am confused. The content you posted was inadequate and deliberately misleading. You garnered reactions based on what you posted and took offense that it reflected on you as a person because what you were really hoping to do, and failed, was start a gripe session. Now you admit its racially linked in your mind too. Your feet are being held to the fire and so you now imply you post what you do because you find the rest of us so boring. Am I right?

All I can say is that boring is purposefully baiting people, gaslighting, rabble-rousing and constant, incessant complaining. 

Try posting some of your nursing knowledge that has nothing to do with putting anyone else down and see if it gets more interesting for you.

 

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