Can you believe this? 13yo and mom both pregnant

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Had a patient come in last night who was contracting and is 13 yrs old and her mom is pregnant too! :uhoh21:

I had a patient the other day who was 16 having her second child. Her mother had adopted the first child and was raising it as her own. This 16 y.o. came in at 33 weeks contracting up a storm so we wanted to admit her on Magnesium. She wanted to leave AMA. The midwife and I were trying to explain to her the consequences to her unborn child but she was hearing nothing of it. We thought we would appeal to her mother to see if she could convince the girl to stay. Her only response: "It is her decision, if she wants to leave she can" I think it was that attitude towards her daughter's actions for the last 16 years that landed this young girl in the situation that she was in.

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I am a young Grandmother I will be 44 this Saturday and my grandson Nathan will be 3 in October, My daugter graduated in May and had him in October. I was not real happy but we love our Nathan so much. My daughter is a wonderful mother and Nathan is her life but every now and then I think she misses some of the freedom that she could have being 21 (going out etc) and does not get to have. I am proud of her with so many young single mothers that dump there kid on anyone who will take them and go out she hardly ever leaves him to go anywhere but work. She tried to go to my sisters for a weekend and after one night away from him came home missed him to much. We can not control all aspects of our childrens lives, my husband and I are very good parents always very involved in what they do/did, sent them to private Lutheran school and this still happened. She said she will never say she made a mistake because Nathan could never be a mistake because he is so wonderful. SO NEVER THINK IT CAN'T HAPPEN TO YOU BECAUSE IT HAPPENS IN ALL TYPES OF HOUSEHOLDS SO BEFORE YOU JUDGE STOP AND TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR CHILDREN BECAUSE IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU

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I am a young Grandmother I will be 44 this Saturday and my grandson Nathan will be 3 in October, My daugter graduated in May and had him in October. I was not real happy but we love our Nathan so much. My daughter is a wonderful mother and Nathan is her life but every now and then I think she misses some of the freedom that she could have being 21 (going out etc) and does not get to have. I am proud of her with so many young single mothers that dump there kid on anyone who will take them and go out she hardly ever leaves him to go anywhere but work. She tried to go to my sisters for a weekend and after one night away from him came home missed him to much. We can not control all aspects of our childrens lives, my husband and I are very good parents always very involved in what they do/did, sent them to private Lutheran school and this still happened. She said she will never say she made a mistake because Nathan could never be a mistake because he is so wonderful. SO NEVER THINK IT CAN'T HAPPEN TO YOU BECAUSE IT HAPPENS IN ALL TYPES OF HOUSEHOLDS SO BEFORE YOU JUDGE STOP AND TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR CHILDREN BECAUSE IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU

It's not about what got you there that reflects your upbringing the most, it is what you do after. I pray that my dd never ends up pg and unmarried at a young age. We all do but no matter what we want our teenagers to think, sex is great. But if she does I hope I have raised her to take responsibility for her actions. My cousin had a baby at 15 and she is a great mom (he is 8 or 9 now). She graduated high school and probably would have went on to college except she likes being a SAHM and had a bf (not the "father) who was able to let it happen. She started dating again when the he was about 6 months old (not sure if my dd would ever be dating again). She married him (the "father" was a drug addict and a loser) and he has raised him as his own. They now have a 4 year old girl too. Never did she try to pawn her baby off. She is a great mom and wife. And you would never know his dad is not his biolgical "father".

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I am a young Grandmother I will be 44 this Saturday and my grandson Nathan will be 3 in October, My daugter graduated in May and had him in October. I was not real happy but we love our Nathan so much. My daughter is a wonderful mother and Nathan is her life but every now and then I think she misses some of the freedom that she could have being 21 (going out etc) and does not get to have. I am proud of her with so many young single mothers that dump there kid on anyone who will take them and go out she hardly ever leaves him to go anywhere but work. She tried to go to my sisters for a weekend and after one night away from him came home missed him to much. We can not control all aspects of our childrens lives, my husband and I are very good parents always very involved in what they do/did, sent them to private Lutheran school and this still happened. She said she will never say she made a mistake because Nathan could never be a mistake because he is so wonderful. SO NEVER THINK IT CAN'T HAPPEN TO YOU BECAUSE IT HAPPENS IN ALL TYPES OF HOUSEHOLDS SO BEFORE YOU JUDGE STOP AND TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR CHILDREN BECAUSE IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU

Not judging you here----yours is a far cry from the situation w/the 26 year old grandmother, dont you think? Your situation, while it may or may not be ideal is hardly comparable, I am thinking. I am happy you love your children and grandchild so much. Too bad, everyone does not have what your family does.

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My original labor pt. (13 yr old) came back last night and delivered. Mom is 27yrs old and delivering in next couple of months and grandma is 42yrs. Pt. last night ended up seizuring and had to be put on Mag. Sulfate. and given 10mg Valium. Long night. :crying2:

Did she keep the baby?

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A little off the subject, but i had a 15 year old pt who delivered, and I noticed she had a big splay of roses with a card that said"Love, daddy". Naively, I said,

"Is this from your daddy, or your baby's daddy?" She replied "Both!" Talk about feeling your stomach come up to your mouth...it was her step-father, but STILL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gross!!!! Were the police notified?

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Call me a *****, but when the 13 y/o has a baby, I don't feel sorry for most of them (thoug I have empathy for those who are in that situation for other reasons), I feel sorry for the baby.

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Not uncommon in south ms.....more common in poor communities. Sad, I agree. Hope the babies don't have the same dad. Many moms under the age of 30 with 3 plus kids in this area. Seems like the more kids they have, the more money they collect and the less they work. It's a viscious cycle.

Read in the paper Sunday of a 20 yr old female with a 1 year old son, who just gave birth to twins.

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a little off the subject, but i had a 15 year old pt who delivered, and i noticed she had a big splay of roses with a card that said"love, daddy". naively, i said,

"is this from your daddy, or your baby's daddy?" she replied "both!" talk about feeling your stomach come up to your mouth...it was her step-father, but still !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i have been reading this thread for a few minutes - i've seen young mothers and grandmothers for the last thirty years; so i am not as "shocked" as some of you seem to be. also, i don't agree with pre-marital or extra-marital sex (my own personal & religious view that i do not push on anyone else) so any pregnancies out of wedlock are disturbing to me. the young ages more seriously compound my disturbance.

however, this particular instance that you mention of a 15-year-old being impregnated by her step-father and receiving flowers from him is shocking to me. i just had to stop and respond. is this not against the law, or something?:o

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Why the heck is the stepfather in the above situation able to have the FREEDOM to even SEND flowers to this girl?

It's situations such as that where i'm a firm believer in castration without anesthetic. It's possible that the sex might not have been forced, but of all people, he should KNOW better and act accordingly.

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Why the heck is the stepfather in the above situation able to have the FREEDOM to even SEND flowers to this girl?

It's situations such as that where i'm a firm believer in castration without anesthetic. It's possible that the sex might not have been forced, but of all people, he should KNOW better and act accordingly.

ugly, but true. I think it is incest, but if there is no blood relationship, I gyess it can't be prosecuted.Remeber Woody Allen and his adopted daughter wife?

I saw on the news that Mary Letourneau is getting out of prison(remember, she had a sexual relationship with a 6 th grader, and had 2 kids by him?) He is now 21 and hopes to continue their relationship........

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A little off the subject, but i had a 15 year old pt who delivered, and I noticed she had a big splay of roses with a card that said"Love, daddy". Naively, I said,

"Is this from your daddy, or your baby's daddy?" She replied "Both!" Talk about feeling your stomach come up to your mouth...it was her step-father, but STILL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OH MY GOD!!!!!

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