Can you believe this? 13yo and mom both pregnant

jad2 · Sep 22, 2004

I've known parents who were "model" parents, by this I mean, 2 parents in the home, went to church/temple, etc... and had a son or daughter who had a kid at an early age.
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"MODEL" PARENT(s): Can be a single mom or dad, grandma or grandpa, gay or straight.

Just wanted to clear this up before anyone jumped down my throat.

BETSRN · Sep 26, 2004

13 year old's mother is probably 26! I must be getting too old for this job! LOL! I am only 54!

BETSRN · Sep 26, 2004

Barbara Walters just interviewed that Letourneau woman the other night. She comes across as so quiet and wonderful. I am glad she had to register as a sex offender!

LadyMadonna · Sep 26, 2004

Hi I'm new. :) Just wanted to say that this is soooo commmon where I work, actually in our area (rural south). It is so very sad, makes me very nervous for what the future holds for my own children. Do you think it's more of a demographic problem, or a socio-economic one? Just curious to know what your thoughts are.

What is worse (and it doesn't just happen in the rural south) is when a young woman comes in and you find out the father is also the grandfather, or the brother is also the father...that makes it REAL hard to stomach.

SmilingBluEyes · Sep 26, 2004

You see it all, if you are in OB long enough. People can sink so low.......But there are wonderful stories to tell, too.

lpnstudentin2010, LPN · Dec 15, 2005

A little off the subject, but i had a 15 year old pt who delivered, and I noticed she had a big splay of roses with a card that said"Love, daddy". Naively, I said,
"Is this from your daddy, or your baby's daddy?" She replied "Both!" Talk about feeling your stomach come up to your mouth...it was her step-father, but STILL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ewwww

Still Riding · Dec 15, 2005

My best friend got pregnant the summer of '82, between our 6th and 7th grade year in school. She was a 'nice' girl from a 'good' family, but her mom was so giddy about the pregnancy, and was constantly showing off my friends' tiny belly, and dressing my friend up in cute maternity clothes (as if those really existed in 1982). It was enough to freak me out and scare me more than any film or lecture they showed us in health class.

That is the age of my sisters, and the thought of either one of them getting pregnant scares the hell out of me. I couldn't see either of them being ready!!!!!

I am now 21 and I couldn't imagine having a kid, never mind one older than 6...

StuNurseUP · Dec 15, 2005

Factoids:

by the age of 19, 80% of American teens have had sex

1 out of 3 schools teach abstinence only education.

only 57% of parents have talked to thier kids about sex by 15 yrs of age

90% chance of gettinging pregnant in one year of having unprotected sex

Teens are going to have sex, they need info and access to birth-control.

My sex talk at home: If you're going to be stupid enough to have sex, don't be doubly stupid-wear a condom. This is why teens get pregnant

Mrs.S · Dec 15, 2005

Factoids:
by the age of 19, 80% of American teens have had sex
1 out of 3 schools teach abstinence only education.
only 57% of parents have talked to thier kids about sex by 15 yrs of age
90% chance of gettinging pregnant in one year of having unprotected sex
Teens are going to have sex, they need info and access to birth-control.
My sex talk at home: If you're going to be stupid enough to have sex, don't be doubly stupid-wear a condom. This is why teens get pregnant

Ha! My husband's sex talk at home (when he was like 16): "Andy, I think we need to have a talk..." at which point my father-in-law wandered out of the room. yep, that was the whole talk. :chuckle

BabyRN2Be · Dec 15, 2005

We've had this discussion many other times in this forum. I've seen it before, too. The girl was 14 and mom was 30 (younger than myself!). Before the girl delivered, mom ended up with a 10 year prison sentence for drug dealing. This was her 3rd offense or so, that's why she got that much time. At least she ended up in prison, and that's good for the baby's sake... he wouldn't be subjected to more cocaine in his tiny body. The grandmother took care of the baby, she was 45 or so and a truck driver. I remember that there was a great-great grandmother involved, and she was in her 70's and quite healthy. Wonder if she will live to be a great-great-great grandmother?? Someone said that they had a 14/28 y.o. mother/daughter combo. I can't imagine being a grandmother at 28. I would just be discovering who I was, and having a grandbaby on top of that...wow.

RaeT,RN · Dec 16, 2005

Now, to add my 2 cents:

My mom was an only child of a stable two-parent, church-going family. Found out she was pregnant at 16. Her parents forced her to have an abortion. Weeks later, she found out she was still pregnant. I was born at 28 weeks. She and my dad were married for 3 years, had my brother, and then divorced. She has been single my whole life. She finished high school and was the first generation in her family go to college. She always tried to make a better life for us, and always said she wanted us to have the opportunities she had missed.

I am 25, have a BA, and my ADN. I am a newlywed and we have decided to wait a couple years before we have children.

Yes, I believe that teen pregnancy can be a cycle, but also believe that it does not have to be. I agree with another poster who said that "you can lead a horse to water".

And yes, I do feel sorry for these girls who come in at 13 and 14 and 15 years old. I do not believe that anything is consentual at that age. It is important to get social work involved in those situations and try to help them all you can. You're not helping them break the cycle when you judge them.

RENAISSANCE RN · Dec 16, 2005

At least on the bright side, if there is one... The mom can take care of the two infants while the teenager gets her HS degree. I hope.