why do nurses gossip and belittle eachother?

[iscreambiebah]

This happened a few times while I was in inpatient. And I was throughly disturbed and annoyed by it. Like, don't you have anything better to do? I remember once I was listening to nurse/staff person, I think her name was Margaret or something and yelled at her saying :"Shut the **** up!"

[iscreambiebah]

Sorry

[LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN]

As the poster's profile lists him/her as being 17 and a patient in a psych ward 3 times, I don't think there will be a discussion with Margaret. However, the OP is free to bring up concerns with a patient rep or through the dreaded Press-Gainey survey.

This.

OP, feel free to bring up your concerns through your survey or find out who the Nurse Manager is and write a personal letter detailing what you saw.

Be factual, state what you heard, and state that you felt that it was unacceptable, and made an inpatient stay that was supposed to be therapeutic less than therapeutic.

Best wishes.

[psu_213, BSN, RN]

As the poster's profile lists him/her as being 17 and a patient in a psych ward 3 times, I don't think there will be a discussion with Margaret. However, the OP is free to bring up concerns with a patient rep or through the dreaded Press-Gainey survey.

Sorry…I forgot to look at the details on the OP. Guess I should have guessed something like this if someone thinks that the First Amendment provides protection to someone who yells "Shut the **** up" at a health care provider.

[iscreambiebah]

I dont get it. Are you making fun of me

[psu_213, BSN, RN]

I dont get it. Are you making fun of me

Not at all… I was just pointing out that the First Amendment is not a catch all that allows you to say whatever you want whenever you want.

[iscreambiebah]

Oh okay then

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

Any place where there are a lot of women, there is gossip and belittling. I don't know if it's our gender, or our culture in America or what.. but it's not a nursing phenom.

Anywhere here are PEOPLE, there is gossip and belittling. Misogyny contributes nothing to the conversation and it's inaccurate as well.

[brandy1017, ASN, RN]

Gossip is a fact of life, it is everywhere, but you don't have to go along with it. If it bothers you, ignore it or walk away. Simple as that. Truthfully the only people we talk about are the couple of nurses that are difficult to deal with, either they give you a hard time or leave you a mess and these people we try to split up and/or avoid if at all possible. Human nature no one wants to deal with a problem child coworker and throw in a fast paced, high stress workload and it's even worse. One person freaks out about everything and you would never know they were an experienced nurse the way they carry on, and the other has ADHD and can't seem to get her work done, just simple things like um pass meds from 9AM and chart her assessments, and if she can get a new grad to do all her med pass and assessments for the past 12 hours she will! But that said there is no clique or bullying where I work anymore, once upon a time, but not now, and working 12 hour shifts really breaks that up because you can go a month without seeing someone. I imagine that is more of a problem when you work with the same crew 5 days a week, day in and day out. So another reason to vote 12 hour shifts!

I don't really care what anyone thinks about me or says about me, used to waste my time and energy caring and trying to be liked and let me tell you it is overrated! No matter what you do if someone doesn't like you they won't change and why lose sleep over that! If you're not a job hopper you will find people will come and go and even any enemies or cliques will come and go as well. So just let it go and don't let it get to you. I once transferred jobs to get a way from a clique leader that I didn't want to join her party and be her little pet. She reminded me of a high school ringleader who would tell her posse what to wear and who to date, I wouldn't let people tell me what to do then, why would I now as an adult? Well guess what she quit soon after I transferred! So work is just work and like the other person said, I clock in and clock out, do my job and go home to the rest of my life!

[firstinfamily, RN]

I really try to avoid all the petty drama. Work is too busy, life is too short to get wrapped up in it all. However, it does affect how well a unit works together. If there are cliques of workers who are constantly back stabbing and talking about other workers, how do they work together as a team??? I guess I have gotten to the point where I am older and bolder and if someone says something to me about someone else I just simply tell them, "I don't gossip, and I don't want to know about the gossip." When you are working with others it is important to get along as a team, how can you be degrading a person and then attempt to work with them is beyond me. How would you feel if you were the one being talked about?? This is one of the "high school behaviors" that needs to leave the nursing environment. We are there for the patients, not to create some drama series. Honestly, if you have time to be talking about each other, there must be something that is left undone. What about those damn care plans???

[amyshell]

Gah. Just started nursing. So sad to see this going on on my floor. Makes me want to just quit already.

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

Are you really a 17 year old nurse?

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

As the poster's profile lists him/her as being 17 and a patient in a psych ward 3 times, I don't think there will be a discussion with Margaret. However, the OP is free to bring up concerns with a patient rep or through the dreaded Press-Gainey survey.

I just posted asking how she could be a 17 year old nurse---didn't even know about the mental health issues!