Nurses Are So Bossy...

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So I am wondering what has happened to nursing over the past years. We used to care, be compassionate and have now become nothing but bossy hated people. Examples - Nurses do not want spouses back in pre op - well first of all that is their right if they want their spouse with them. I had an experience where they actually closed the curtain on my spouse and said its easier on us if youre not here. who cares if its easier on you. people going into surgery are nervous and scared and if having their spouse with them so be it.

STOP being bossy as your word is final. it is not. the patient has the say in what goes on with their treatment not you. You screwed up putting an iv in and when questioned you get pissy.

I have lost faith in my old profession as i have seen nothing but miserable ***y bossy nurses. you need to explain yourselves

Specializes in SICU, trauma, neuro.

“You screwed up putting an iv in and when questioned you get pissy.”

I missed this part the first time reading through... If a spouse is interfering in patient care, heck yeah they’re going to get out! Behaviors have consequences.

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What is your spouse's opinion on the nursing care? The patient is the one who matters the most in this situation. Is your spouse upset about this?

More open visitation is a mixed blessing. More people = potential for more drama.

I have been a nurse long enough to remember how it was before. Sometimes we do need to get bossy (and call security every once in a while) to survive.

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Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

I just had a valve replaced at a teaching hospital and they were great about letting my spouse be with me in all the pre-op testing and in pre-op prior to taking me into the OR and later in ICU and the floor. I do not think your experience is wide spread.

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
15 hours ago, gehrig592 said:

you need to explain yourselves

People tend to react out of two emotions- either love or fear. All emotions spring from those two emotions.

The expression of those emotions, going through the filters of the personality, can subjectively be interpreted as god or bad; nice or bi-othchy. Edgar Cayce said something along the lines of "The emotions that have fueled greatest feats have also caused the biggest travesties".

So, in explaining ourselves, gehrig, those nurses with personalities that you had to deal with were acting either out of love or fear- and both, either/or may have been the best reaction for the caring of their patient at that time.

The very best to you.

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1 hour ago, CrunchRN said:

I do not think your experience is wide spread.

I'm not convinced her experience would not be described differently by the staff involved.

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Specializes in School Nurse, past Med Surge.

Did you get every IV on the first attempt when you were a nurse? Doubt it. Missing the first stick isn't a screw up. It's pretty hard to actually screw up putting an IV in...I guess unless you go into an artery.

You get what you put out into the world. Could it be possible you project an aura of anger and hostility before you even open your mouth and people react to you negatively?

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I get both sides, honestly!!!

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Specializes in Critical care.

As an ICU nurse, we allow family members to come in on a case by case basis. There have been many instances in which the care of the patient becomes secondary and the family become primary because he/she/they may be asking multiple questions about every alarm going off and this takes away from the patient care. There are certain instances when the family members are told to wait in the waiting room due to prepping of the patients for procedures etc. I am unable to speak for other areas of the hospital.

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So while you are all condeming me for my comments let me say this. It is not that I didnt get my way and I know better than to interfere with the nurse cause that alone could cause an issue. Let me explain so maybe you will stop bashing me. Someone wrote that dealing with drs - patients - family and being in pulled in so many directions they dont want to deal with bs. Well maybe you are in the wrong profession. That being said - this has to do with my own personal experience and it was reported to the administrator and problem will never happen again to me or other patients. I was scheduled for surgery and during the phone call with instructions I explained how nervous I was and wanted my husband with me until I was wheeled into the or. The nurse told me they dont want that as its easier on them. I said he was coming in and he would not get in there way at all. They didnt like it but he came in with me. There was enough room so that was not the issue. I could not move acertain part of my body and needed help getting changed. They pulled the curtain on him and said she needs her privacy to which I said been married for over 30 yrs and I need his help. Nurse came in and helped me and left my husband out there. This is what I mean about caring and compassion. Like my husband has never seen me naked..c'mon. I wanted to go to the bathroom before IV got hooked up and asked my husband to come with me - nurse said I will help you he can stay there. Once again, really? I told her I didnt need her help and struggled on my own. After surgery everyone was wonderful even let him come into recovery for a few mins. Just the pacu nurses. I am putting myself on the other side and hoping that I never put anyone in that position. As far as it not being a right of the patient if they want someone in pacu with them, it absolutely is. Most people will listen when the nurse tells them to wait but others really want someone in there for comfort and that should be understood. As far as the IV I mentioned. My husband had to go to the er. Doctor was wonderful but the nurses once again ***y like he was a bother. I went back with him sat in a chair did not talk or interfere with them. Triage nurse calls us back - is pissed off cause all the wires for her monitor were tangled. She hooks him up takes bp then says take off your pants and throws a gown on the bed - last we saw of her - wow....how about how are you feeling - let me know if I can do anything - The nurse that put the IV in was even worse. Came in with a puss on her face - didnt explain why she was putting an iv in or talk at all (I knew because he was going for ct w/contrast). He has great veins and and IV has never been an issue. I was watching her poke around at his veins and he told her I have great veins so this shouldn't be a problem. She again said nothing - I turned my head for a second and heard him scream - he told her the pain is all the way down my are. Oh I hit a nerve she says - she put the needle to the left side instead of the middle. Blood was coming out dripping on the floor. Knowing how nurses are anymore I said nothing but told my husband if that was me I would have told her to take it out and get somone else to do it. Never saw her again either. This too was reported to hospital admin. as while we had a previous appt with orthro doc for prior wrist surgery we had him look at the arm of the IV issue. He said she did not hit a nerve she hit a tendon. He still has electric shock pain and will have to be monitored. All my husband kept saying was that ***hurt me. So while you are so quick to slam me I wanted you to know that as a patient on the other side of nursing I am just appalled at the way people are treated - and I am not saying this all of you but am finding lately that it is so different anymore - and please know that we are not the boss - the patient is and they should feel comfortable , safe and assured.

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Specializes in Occupational Health.
20 hours ago, gehrig592 said:

you need to explain yourselves

Nah, no one here owes you anything.

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Specializes in Critical care.

In this situation, I understand. Speaking for myself, I allow family members into the room because this helps with the outcome and help to calm the patient and aid in overall emotional support. This is your spouse so I imagine you've seen him naked like you said or vice versa. That was clearly a difficult day and perhaps you would have had a better experience. I recall asking a spouse to stay and he insisted on exiting his room. His wife then replied, "as if you've never seen me naked." The nurse putting in the IV should have had a better attitude and explained the procedure as well. I get your perspective now that you've explained it in detail. I am sorry you had such a bad experience.

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20 minutes ago, gehrig592 said:

So while you are all condeming me for my comments let me say this.

Nobody here is condemning you and you are targeting THE WRONG PEOPLE with your obvious rage. What did you expect? You came here and started verbally spitting at us. If this is how you are treating people who did nothing to you or your husband I wonder what your demeanor is with the people you actually interacted with.

You might benefit from talking about this to someone who can better help you make peace with your experience. I'm not sure strangers on the internet are the best choice.

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