NURSES & DOCTORS - to flirt or not to flirt

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We'll just gotten curious about this thing...

is there really such a thing happening?.... If so, How do you deal with it?

Specializes in RN, BSN, CHDN.

You'd actually have to like them to flirt with them, wouldnt you??

Sorry but I would like to shake the hand of anybody in my facility who would have the time, inclination and bare faced nerves to flirt with our docs

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Specializes in ER/Critical Care.

We actually have a MARRIED charge nurse and a MARRIED surgeon that flirt continuously! It is really obnoxious to watch as they do it right out at the nurses station, mostly during shift change. Very childish flirting too-calling names, pinching, giggling loudly. It is really annoying and a lot of people have called them out on it (separately of course), and they both just deny it and keep going. It's just disgusting, especially since the charge should clearly be doing other things staying busy. It's not that she has the time to flirt, she just gets less done. (I no longer work extras on days if she is charge because of this.)

Other than that I really don't see flirting. I agree with above posters-who actually has the time?!?!

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Specializes in Acute Care.

Don't have time.

Nor do I really have any interest in dating a doctor.

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Specializes in Tele,CCU,ER.

I don't have the time to flirt and even if I did I wouldn't want to!!! I hate it that some doctors, EMTs, MA expect you to flirt with them! Its horrible. I have been told by a doctor that I have an attitude just because I wasn't flirting with him! He kept asking me if I was married and I told him yes and that it was none of his business....I get paid to be a nurse and not to flirt!!!

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Specializes in Acute Rehab, Community/ Public Health.

Even though I'm not a nurse (yet!), I agree with the above posters. It's best to remain professional.

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Specializes in PCU (Cardiac).

I see it alot where I work, especially with the young nurses. There are a few nurses even dating doctors, what a mess that can be. The doctors all talk among themselves and talk behind the nurses backs they are dating or flirting with pretty bad. Don't let your floor hire a cute, young nurse because you will see doctors coming out of no where to come and see the new nurse.

It is sad but it sure happens more often than what you think.

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I think a lot of people are disappointed to find out that hospitals don't really run like they see on tv soap operas.

Once you're there, you understand the difference between fantasy and reality.

When I was a new nurse, 10 years ago, I have to say I was surprised at the flirting and affairs going on . . . .. in real life, not on tv.:rolleyes:

steph

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Specializes in Cardiac Telemetry, ED.

Frankly, I'd be insulted if a doc treated me in anything less than a professional manner.

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Specializes in Acute Care.
Don't let your floor hire a cute, young nurse because you will see doctors coming out of no where to come and see the new nurse.

It is sad but it sure happens more often than what you think.

I may not be Cindy Crawford, but I'm not fugly, either... I think I'm pretty decent looking, single and 24... I havent had one at my hospital (well, except one PA) have any conversation with me other than those associated with care of a patient.

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Specializes in ICU, telemetry, LTAC.

Good grief, too busy. If they're in the unit, it's because they're making more work for me or changing up what I thought I was going to do. Or maybe there's a genuine emergency. We can be civil, sometimes nice, occasionally there may be humor but it doesn't fall into the flirtatious category.

Good patient care, in a lot of ways, depends on good relationships on the team. It can take years to build a good relationship with any one person, let alone a doc you don't see often; why screw it up with something so unnecessary?

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Specializes in Day Surgery, Agency, Cath Lab, LTC/Psych.

I used to work with a married physician who was about 20 years older than me who flirted with me all the time. He would even make sexual innuendos to me that weren't so subtle. I think he was looking for an affair. It drove me crazy. One night I had just had it and I pretty much told him he needed to mind his own business. He gave me a shocked look and then quietly left the unit. After that I realized I don't have to take harassment (which is what it was) from physicians. If they are being inappropriate I tell them to stop--if they don't I will go up the chain of command. Most people will respect your boundaries if you ask them to stop.

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Specializes in Telemetry.

To me, its important to keep it professional. I think being friendly (in a very platonic way) with the drs is a good thing, but there is a difference between friendly and flirty.

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