They are such a huge pain in the arse. It is the epitome of disrespect when they continue asking questions, when you have indicated that you want to give sign out, and will come back to individual questions. This is only logical. I mean you end up tolerating their BS interruptions, but at some point you just want to stop and say, "Read my ******* note you disrespectful arse." Of course you can't do that. I think it's especially important to let those people that have been up all night get out report, and then get back to any questions. They come in all refreshed, and their bodies and brains haven't been jarred around by working God-awful nights.
Seriously squatmonky, what you describe hits the nail on the head.
They should teach both in school and nursing orientation to respect the person signing out such that they have delivered the bulk of the report, and then ask all you freaking questions after they are done. If you have a question, make a note, but then address it when the person signing off is done. Any person that has every had to teach a class or give a press conference knows that it's logical to let the person get through the bulk of their bit, and then Q&A follows. It's the same damn principle.
Whatever. People can just be damned ignorant and disrespectful. I just love working with insecure types that always have to try to make other people feel like shite so that they can make themselves feel special or worthwhile. Shut the duck up and stop quacking until the person gets through report already. At the end of the day, it reflects poorly on them, even if they are trying to make the other person look like crap. Thing is this. It's tough to with people in a team that are selfish. It's all about them--what they deem is this or that. They have to get all the glory. They have to have all the fresh post-ops or kids on ECMO or somehow in some role where they are seen as the supershite. And then some people are just a freaking bundle of nerves, it's like they just can't help but interrupt you, b/c they are so fearful with their OCD or whatever they have. You are doing internal eyerolls in your brain. God it's enough the whole system and the needs of patients and families keep you stressed. Needlessly stressing nurses make the job suck. Insecure, self-centered nurses that kill true teamwork, they make the job suck. I wish there were a hospital where we could lump all these folks together and get them the heck out of our hair. Sadly, there wouldn't be one big enough to contain them all. You try to lead by example, but some days your patience get tried. And then one day something happens.
One day, you just don't give a crap anymore. I mean you care about what you are doing and the quality of what you are doing. You care about people; but you just let the d-bags be d-bags, b/c they just seem to like being d-bags. It sucks for them and whoever has to live with them, but I just tell myself, "Hey. I don't have to sleep with them." Thank you Lord! I mean I feel for them, but if a person wants to be a devilish jackarse, well, since I believe in freedom, I have to leave them to their devilish, jackarsedness. If it gets bad enough, I always have a backup job, and well, even if you hate to leave, if there are too many of them, or one that just has seemed to take over, I just leave them to their false-sense of power. Eventually other people get tired of it too. It's usually just a matter of time. If I have to jump ship, well, it may be for my own life and what I am doing at the time.
I have been picking up more home care lately, b/c I'm back in school again, and I don't need to be so stressed it adversely affects my GPA. I'll take the pay cut at times in order to have some peace.
OP, do your best to give report, answer their questions, do your job well, and then FORGET THEM when you are done. Seriously. All their toxic, ignorant, disrespectful stuff, just pretend you are flushing it down the toilet before you go home--and leave there--in the sewage system where it belongs. Think about all the other great and important things you have to do that day or morning, and do NOT allow them to live in your brain. It will wear on you, and you can't allow it to do that to you. Let their toxicity go right back to them. Be impervious to it.
Sometimes I've stopped report and looked at the other person and said, "OK. I can continue to try and give you report first, or you can ask all your questions first, and then I will give you report. Either way, I want to get through report without being inundated with questions. I don't mind the questions, but I do mind them constantly interfering with my train of thought as I give you report. Does that make sense? How would you like to proceed? Q&A first, or report, then Q&A?" Some people don't like it; but I feel like if they don't have enough tolerance to show proper respect, and that seems to be the way things roll in that particular unit, then I don't need to work there. After over 20 years, I just don't feel the need to subject myself to needless disrespect and toxicity. If that is the tone there on a regular basis, that's a hint for me to look elsewhere. I just really don't care about that crap anymore.