Are married women bullied less at work?

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Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??

Specializes in MDS/ UR.
Bullying is entrenched in the education and socialisation of nurses. It is passed down from generation to generation of nurses. You only have to look at the power of the self titled "crusty old bats" and the future "crusty old bats" to see this.

I think I just got bullied.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
I think I just got bullied.

Sounds like bullying to me :yes:

Specializes in critical care.
Bullying and lateral violence does exist in nursing for those of you that insist on denying it.

I suppose all the people and organizations that have addressed it are living in fantasy land?

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/729474

[h=3]Workplace Bullying in Nursing[/h] "Bullying is well known, if not well understood, in the nursing profession. Despite the great many articles written on this topic, little is known with certainty about why such rancor exists among nurses. At least, this literature exposes the "hidden" problem of workplace bullying to the light of day. Perhaps by acknowledging it, we will finally be able to put an end to it."

Bullying in Nursing: Issues & Solutions on ADVANCE for Nurses

Preventing Nurse Bullying - NurseZone

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Bullying and Workplace Violence

etc, etc, etc

The existence of bullying is not being debated here. The definition of it is, and whether the OP was, in fact, bullied.

OP:

Answer these questions honestly:

1. Is the behavior recurring and progressing in severity?

2. Are you the sole target of this person's behavior?

3. Is this person exerting their power over you, or attempting to ensure you are weakened to them somehow?

4. Do they intend and implement ongoing emotional or physical harm to you?

5. Are you literally afraid of this person? Has their behavior caused you actual symptoms of anxiety and fear?

6. Does this person's behavior actually victimize you?

To say you're being bullied, the answers to those questions really need to be yes. If they are, you need to go to HR and tell them that a staff member has behaved in a threatening and intimidating manor and can't work with them. Actual bullying is dangerous, and to feel fear from another person at work is not okay.

Specializes in MDS/ UR.

Relational aggression interesting concept.

Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
Bullying is entrenched in the education and socialisation of nurses. It is passed down from generation to generation of nurses. You only have to look at the power of the self titled "crusty old bats" and the future "crusty old bats" to see this.

Back story to the crusty old bats/future crusty old bats- started with a new nurse referring to experienced nurses as such. Instead of being intimidated by it, we claimed it and turned it into an inside joke.

Edit: Found the old thread- https://allnurses.com/nurse-colleague-patient/bitter-dried-up-579931.html

Specializes in critical care.
Bullying is entrenched in the education and socialisation of nurses. It is passed down from generation to generation of nurses. You only have to look at the power of the self titled "crusty old bats" and the future "crusty old bats" to see this.

A crusty old bat is a knowledgable person who doesn't sugar coat what they are saying. They offer support when a situation warrants it. They aren't afraid to respond to a person with the truth, as opposed to telling a person what they want to hear just to make them feel better. Maybe they screw up in the delivery, but again, this is not bullying. This is a person choosing to not add smileys and "sweeties", while they aim to prevent bigger problems in the future that come from being nice over being honest.

Specializes in critical care.
Back story to the crusty old bats/future crusty old bats- started with a new nurse referring to experienced nurses as such. Instead of being intimidated by it, we claimed it and turned it into an inside joke.

You guys did a terrible job keeping that whole thing "inside". ? Unless somehow I was actually there when that whole thing started and didn't realize it???

Specializes in MDS/ UR.

I am a crusty old bat.

I am crusty because my philosophy/presentation is direct, to the point and no nonsense. I am not unkind, cut throat or unfeeling. I am just pass the fluffy stage.

I am old because I have aged into it with my earthly yearsand professional experience. G-d willing, so will all the rest of the nurses coming up.

Bat comes with the club name here I guess.

Specializes in Critical Care, Med-Surg, Psych, Geri, LTC, Tele,.
What if the married staff are generally older than the single?

As we get older, many of us gain confidence. A confident nurse is a less vulnerable target for bullies. Becoming a mother taught me a big lesson in assertiveness and how to squash bad behavior in others immediately.

This is what I was thinking, too. If you have a spouse and kids you may be more likely to know how to assert yourself.

Yes, it was a repeated occurrence. I know when I'm being bullied and I don't need people telling me any different. Stop gas lighting

Specializes in critical care.
Yes, it was a repeated occurrence. I know when I'm being bullied and I don't need people telling me any different. Stop gas lighting

Jiminy Christmas I just had to google "gas lighting" because never in my life have I heard someone use that term before.

Really?!

You actually believe that I am personally attempting to manipulate you into questioning your memory of the situation?

Specializes in MDS/ UR.
Yes, it was a repeated occurrence. I know when I'm being bullied and I don't need people telling me any different. Stop gas lighting

You came here to discuss it.

You may not like the responses.

That's how it rolls out sometimes.

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