Are married women bullied less at work?

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Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??

Specializes in NICU, ICU, PICU, Academia.

Well, being asked to work extra is not bullying. And neither is 'not fitting in'. I fail to see where you have been bullied, truthfully.

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Well, being asked to work extra is not bullying. And neither is 'not fitting in'. I fail to see where you have been bullied, truthfully.

Telling someone that "men don't date girls like you" is not considered bullying? What do you call it then?

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Specializes in NICU, ICU, PICU, Academia.
Telling someone that "men don't date girls like you" is not considered bullying? What do you call it then?

I would call it 'Your co-worker is a thoughtless jerk with no filter between his/her brain and mouth.' She's probably said similarly thoughtless things to your co-workers. I fail to see how it is bullying.

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I would call it 'Your co-worker is a thoughtless jerk with no filter between his/her brain and mouth.' She's probably said similarly thoughtless things to your co-workers. I fail to see how it is bullying.

You're gas lighting. She was bullying me.

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Specializes in critical care.
You're gas lighting. She was bullying me.

I disagree completely. Bullying is a repeated act directed toward a person with the intention of inflicting physical or emotional harm and exert status over the person being bullied. It is repeated, and it is behavior that escalates over time. It leaves the victim feeling terror over the idea that they have to return to the scene of the repeated acts, whether it be school or work.

This is what I meant by my first post in this thread. People do not know the meaning of bullying. An insensitive person made a rude comment. Rudeness is not bullying.

Be careful how the "bullying" misnomer can label you. A person who is bullied is a victim. You have not been victimized and this person who made this comment has not exerted power over you. Don't fall into a victim role by believing this is bullying. Don't relinquish your power.

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I disagree completely. Bullying is a repeated act directed toward a person with the intention of inflicting physical or emotional harm and exert status over the person being bullied. It is repeated, and it is behavior that escalates over time. It leaves the victim feeling terror over the idea that they have to return to the scene of the repeated acts, whether it be school or work.

This is what I meant by my first post in this thread. People do not know the meaning of bullying. An insensitive person made a rude comment. Rudeness is not bullying.

Be careful how the "bullying" misnomer can label you. A person who is bullied is a victim. You have not been victimized and this person who made this comment has not exerted power over you. Don't fall into a victim role by believing this is bullying. Don't relinquish your power.

I only named one circumstance but this person repeatedly made nasty comments towards me. I was bullied. It hurt my feelings. And she was wrong.

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Specializes in ER, Addictions, Geriatrics.
Princess Bride!!!!!!! I should have read the rest of the thread before commenting. Inconceivable!!!!!

Anybody want a peanut?

Sorry... Had to!

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.
Telling someone that "men don't date girls like you" is not considered bullying? What do you call it then?

It's a tactless idiot or someone who knows how to yank your cord.

Have you considered discussing this with someone who is neutral? You might need a different perspective.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
You're gas lighting. She was bullying me.

As someone who has been gas-lighted, she was NOT gas lighting you. :no:

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Bullying and lateral violence does exist in nursing for those of you that insist on denying it.

I suppose all the people and organizations that have addressed it are living in fantasy land?

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/729474

[h=3]Workplace Bullying in Nursing[/h] "Bullying is well known, if not well understood, in the nursing profession. Despite the great many articles written on this topic, little is known with certainty about why such rancor exists among nurses. At least, this literature exposes the "hidden" problem of workplace bullying to the light of day. Perhaps by acknowledging it, we will finally be able to put an end to it."

Bullying in Nursing: Issues & Solutions on ADVANCE for Nurses

Preventing Nurse Bullying - NurseZone

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Bullying and Workplace Violence

etc, etc, etc

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Bullying and lateral violence does exist in nursing for those of you that insist on denying it.

I suppose all the people and organizations that have addressed it are living in fantasy land?

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/729474

[h=3]Workplace Bullying in Nursing[/h] "Bullying is well known, if not well understood, in the nursing profession. Despite the great many articles written on this topic, little is known with certainty about why such rancor exists among nurses. At least, this literature exposes the "hidden" problem of workplace bullying to the light of day. Perhaps by acknowledging it, we will finally be able to put an end to it."

Bullying in Nursing: Issues & Solutions on ADVANCE for Nurses

Preventing Nurse Bullying - NurseZone

Mobile Search

Bullying and Workplace Violence

etc, etc, etc

No one's denying "lateral violence" bullying, etc; the fact remains, there are people that are nasty...

Nastiness/rudeness does NOT always equal bullying.

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Bullying and lateral violence does exist in nursing for those of you that insist on denying it.

I suppose all the people and organizations that have addressed it are living in fantasy land?

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/729474

Workplace Bullying in Nursing

"Bullying is well known, if not well understood, in the nursing profession. Despite the great many articles written on this topic, little is known with certainty about why such rancor exists among nurses. At least, this literature exposes the "hidden" problem of workplace bullying to the light of day. Perhaps by acknowledging it, we will finally be able to put an end to it."

Bullying in Nursing: Issues & Solutions on ADVANCE for Nurses

Preventing Nurse Bullying - NurseZone

Mobile Search

Bullying and Workplace Violence

etc, etc, etc

Bullying is entrenched in the education and socialisation of nurses. It is passed down from generation to generation of nurses. You only have to look at the power of the self titled "crusty old bats" and the future "crusty old bats" to see this.

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