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5 thoughts and statistics on nurse bullying

Written by Kelly Gooch | February 24, 2016

Sixty percent of new nurses quit their first job within the first six months due to the behavior of their co-workers, and nearly 50 percent of nurses believe that they will experience bullying at some time in their careers, according to research presented in a new e-book from Aurora, Colo.-based American Sentinel University.

The new e-book, "Dr. Renee Thompson's Series on Nurse Bullying," examines the roots of bullying and conflict resolution as Renee Thompson, DNP, RN, a nursing professional development/anti-bullying thought leader, shares her professional insight on how to best address and eliminate workplace bullying.

Here are five other thoughts and statistics from the e-book.

1. Nearly half — 48 percent — of new graduating nurses are afraid of becoming the target of workplace bullying.

2. In Dr. Thompson's research and observations, she identified two primary reasons why bullying is prevalent in nursing:

  • Nursing is a female dominated profession. "Theories suggest that age-old female 'competition' has shifted from competing over a man to competing over status, respect and position in the nursing environment. The same behaviors once witnessed between two women fighting over a man are the ones witnessed today in the behavior of bullies," Dr. Thompson wrote.
  • Nurses are an oppressed profession. Dr. Thompson noted that nurses are seen as a silent majority, which can bring about frustration. "Feelings of frustration, coupled with an increasingly complex and stressful job, can create environments where nurses 'take it out' on each other. Since nurses can't 'take it out' on administrators or physicians, the theory is that they take it out on the already oppressed, subservient group," she wrote.

3. Dr. Thompson identified the following as common overt bullying weapons:

  • Verbal criticism or name-calling
  • Intimidation
  • Blaming
  • Ethnic jokes or slurs
  • Finding fault
  • Threatening
  • Physical violence

4. Dr. Thompson identified the following as common covert bullying weapons:

  • Sabotage
  • Withholding information
  • Excluding others
  • Unfair assignments
  • Undermining
  • Downplaying accomplishments

5. Dr. Thompson's recommended action steps to address bullying are:

  • Name the behavior. "Bullies who feel a sense of power during their tirades gain momentum as they scream, yell or spread rumors and sabotage their co-workers. Naming the behavior as it occurs can stop things immediately and prevent an escalation of that behavior," Dr. Thompson wrote.
  • Document, document and document. "If you are being bullied, start a documentation trail. Keep a small notebook with you and write down dates, times, witnesses, verbatim comments, and any behaviors you believe undermine a culture of safety and a professional work environment," Dr. Thompson wrote. "Keep growing this documentation trail until you are at the point where you can file a formal complaint."

(STAFF NOTE: This was copied from Beckers Hospital Review. Full article can be found: 5 thoughts and statistics on nurse bullying)

Specializes in Hospice.
Well, write what you want, but bullying can happen because of jealously for whatever reason and most times it is. Why else would people bully one another??? Why? It doesn't matter if it is in a nursing setting, school setting, bullying happens everywhere. This is a "nurse bullying topic" and I wrote 3 examples of nurse bullying that happens to be of an older nurse eating their young. I did not and never meant to upset older nurses. When I meant of retire, I meant of the ones who are down right mean for no reason at all, the ones who are bullies. This topic really holds a special place in my heart because I have seen it happen, not only in nursing but look at the rest of the world. Bullying has a huge effect on people. I get along great with older nurses. BUT there are some that get be down right nasty to brand new nurses ... which is a form of bullying.

You're going to keep saying this over and over in spite of anything any of us say to you.

You're bound and determined to try and wear the rest of us down. I personally like the "some of my best friends are older nurses" refrain running through your posts after you got called out for being ageist originally.

Two things here: First, no one is going to change anyone else's mind here. You think you're absolutely right because you're in the throes of a self fulfilling prophesy; look hard enough for bullying, you'll find it. I'm tired of hearing the same refrain. Which leads me to my second point.

I don't argue with children. Come up with some different arguments to prove your point, and maybe I'll listen.

Specializes in Family Practice, Mental Health.
Well, write what you want, but bullying can happen because of jealously for whatever reason and most times it is. Why else would people bully one another??? Why? It doesn't matter if it is in a nursing setting, school setting, bullying happens everywhere. This is a "nurse bullying topic" and I wrote 3 examples of nurse bullying that happens to be of an older nurse eating their young. I did not and never meant to upset older nurses. When I meant of retire, I meant of the ones who are down right mean for no reason at all, the ones who are bullies. This topic really holds a special place in my heart because I have seen it happen, not only in nursing but look at the rest of the world. Bullying has a huge effect on people. I get along great with older nurses. BUT there are some that get be down right nasty to brand new nurses ... which is a form of bullying.

No, I don't get to just write whatever I want. That is unethical.

I write what is backed up by Evidenced Based Practice, a MSN degree's worth of research into the matter, and what is culled from valid and reliable peer reviewed data on the matter.

You are responding in the same manner as a frequently admitted CHF exacerbation patient who INSISTS upon all that is Holy that she can eat a ton of salt, not keep track of her weight, not take her medication, and it really doesn't have anything to do with her disease process.

I believe most of us have arrived at that point of teaching with you and your stance.

You just don't get it, but you are insisting that you can eat however you want, and if we keep saying the same thing, WE are bulling YOU.

*sigh*.

I'm reporting off to the next unfortunate nurse who gets assigned to you......

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Well, write what you want, but bullying can happen because of jealously for whatever reason and most times it is. Why else would people bully one another??? Why? It doesn't matter if it is in a nursing setting, school setting, bullying happens everywhere. This is a "nurse bullying topic" and I wrote 3 examples of nurse bullying that happens to be of an older nurse eating their young. I did not and never meant to upset older nurses. When I meant of retire, I meant of the ones who are down right mean for no reason at all, the ones who are bullies. This topic really holds a special place in my heart because I have seen it happen, not only in nursing but look at the rest of the world. Bullying has a huge effect on people. I get along great with older nurses. BUT there are some that get be down right nasty to brand new nurses ... which is a form of bullying.

The form of bullying that I see here is a young'un refusing to take responsibility (or to be accountable, if you will) for her inability to get along with her older colleagues. Instead of saying to herself, "Hey, I have a lot to learn and I could have done that better," she says "I didn't screw up -- it's because that old nurse that was bullying me." And the patient suffers. I'm also seeing someone who is so worried about finding bullies everywhere she looks, she has become the bully herself.

Congratulations, dear. You are the bully you've been so sure you'll find.

Lack of eye contact produced tears?

Your classmate cannot control the behavior of others, but she can certainly control her own.

Perhaps I should have elaborated. It's not just lack of eye contact. It was purely ignoring her. When questions were asked, all she got was silence. Just wanted to clarify. We are humans. You can't expect a new young student to be perfect with her emotions when dealing these situations. You seriously cannot expect them to go in there, know everything, and be this almighty tough person with a thick skin already. She asked some simple questions from more experienced nurses, ended up being ignored completely the whole time, and feeling completely useless and worthless from an unsupportive environment. How would you feel? Does anyone even have feelings on this forum? Or have we all suppressed our emotions?? Lol!

Secondly, what about the young new nurses who are mean for no reason? Do you consider that bullying?

Yes I do consider young new nurses who are mean for no reason as a type of bullying also. However, I did not experience that type. Here is what I have experienced (from what I remember)

I remember in nursing school, a nursing instructor kept downgrading me and saying that I will never make it because I did have a hard time test taking and school was difficult for me. And no I am not saying I am at all miss perfect because if you look at my past posts from years back, I have been through a really tough time when I was in school. Almost on the verge of quitting several times. Actually here is an exact quote back from a 2008 post, my first post actually.....

""""I hated my med-surg class, and taking that with pharmacology was difficult..... after about 2 months into med-surg, i was so frustrated, into tears literally... i talked to my professor about it, but she just felt so intimidating...i was doing bad in that course and you know what she said to me? was that "maybe you have a learning disability".....do you know how much that brought me down??? so much..so so much. I'm thinking to myself, "how the heck could i have a learning disability when in high school, i got all A's and B's, and all my pre req courses i completed i got A's,B's, and a couple C's.....and worked my butt off." Hearing that from her made me want to give up all of what i worked for over the past 2 years... I dont know, something about nursing instructors i don't get, i don't get why they are intimidating, rude, and make students feel miserable.... it aggravates me. When i was in high school, i never would of dreamed nursing school would be like this....i always pictured nurses and nursing instructors to be so kind, caring, and helpful.... """""""""

wow, did that ever bring back memories. Not so good ones either....

Here is one from my first LPN job:

My first assisted living LPN job I experienced nurse bullying with another LPN who has been working for quite a few years. Previously, I had an incident with her when I asked her to look at a resident who was having chest pains (because I was brand new I just wanted a second opinion from a more experienced nurse), and the lady barked at me, telling me that she was about to leave and NO, she was not going to help me by doing that. However, she did catch herself and ended up helping me but was extremely rude about it. I thought about telling the boss at that point but I didn't. Another incident also happened with this nurse. A family member was going to take the resident to the doctor due to an emergency. I got all the paperwork ready and I was also training a MA at the time, so the MA offered to get the wheelchair and helped get the resident to the car....... well this bully nurse walked by me (sees what I am doing), and later goes to the boss and says that the trainee and I were just sitting back at the nurses station, not helping the resident or family member at all. Totally false accusations. I got asked to go to my boss's office to talk about what had happened. I told the boss that was lie. I felt helpless because how was I going to prove that it was a complete lie. Well, then this nurse walks into the bosses office at the time I was in there. The boss approaches her about this telling her that I said this all was completely false. The nurse says "ummmm oh ok" and leaves. The boss looks at me with a dumbfounded look like, "what just happened" and then the boss is realizing her facts weren't right, and it was a lie. The boss also said this nurse tends to belittle other staff.

Other types of bullying:

I also experienced a "more experienced older lead nurse" training me the very first day on the job and expected me to know everything, wasn't helpful at all, and was extremely rude. I also want to point out that she made things extremely unfair in the workplace and showed favoritism to other employees. I am not going to go into detail about that.

I have also had a nurse completely ignore me like I don't exist when I have asked them for help.

But I must apologize in my first post because I do know that bullying can occur with both younger and older nurses. I also want to say I think many older more experienced nurses are great. This whole post is about "nurse bullying"...and I was only referring to the nurses who are bullies. I am not talking bad about every single older nurse... however, from my experiences it just happened to be more experienced older nurses whom I have had cases of bullying.

Bullying is a serious issue. And remember, you have no idea what a person has truly been through unless you have been in their shoes.

Specializes in Family Practice, Mental Health.
Perhaps I should have elaborated. It's not just lack of eye contact. It was purely ignoring her. When questions were asked, all she got was silence. Just wanted to clarify. We are humans. You can't expect a new young student to be perfect with her emotions when dealing these situations. You seriously cannot expect them to go in there, know everything, and be this almighty tough person with a thick skin already. She asked some simple questions from more experienced nurses, ended up being ignored completely the whole time, and feeling completely useless and worthless from an unsupportive environment. How would you feel? Does anyone even have feelings on this forum? Or have we all suppressed our emotions?? Lol!

Sometimes, in certain situations, such as in a professional environment, there are questions asked that simply make you go "HUH?!" This happens between Med students and Dr's, between PT students and PT's, between RT students and RTs, and on and on. Nursing students and nurses are no different.

The more polite thing for the Nurse to do is to keep ones lips zipped in search of a helpful response Especially when a straight response would make the questioner look bad in front of the patient! Sometimes, the search takes longer than at other times. We are all human.

Not everybody is quick with a "So, Sally, tell me why you're asking that question?" while you sit there and rack your brain to A. Process a really weird question, and B. Answer in a helpful way.

If your Mother was my patient, and I had a nursing student ask me in front of her "Do you think she should be covered up, her temperature is only 40 degrees Celsius, she's probably freezing, look, she is even shivering!" I would probably have had a mental pause at that moment. I wouldn't flat out correct the student and embarrass her in front of the patient, but the student would have to wait until we were finished in the room first.

This is only one example of many.

Specializes in Dialysis.
Like I said previously, I stand up for new nurses 100 percent and always will no matter how old I get. And also like I said previously, treat others how you would want to be treated. It CAN BE a cruel world in the nursing profession. If anyone has been targeted or has been one of those new nurses who were bullied, then you would understand. You have no idea what people have been through. Again, BULLYING is not something to take lightly... no matter what circumstance.

You are very mistaken if you feel this is limited to nursing. Every profession across the board hears the same complaints, on the same levels! I know a female who became an MD 2 years ago and say male colleagues have tried to make her life hell. She said she could cry 'bullying' or make them feel stupid by staying and becoming successful. Guess which one she chose. Hint: She's still an MD

Yes I do consider young new nurses who are mean for no reason as a type of bullying also. However, I did not experience that type. Here is what I have experienced (from what I remember)

I remember in nursing school, a nursing instructor kept downgrading me and saying that I will never make it because I did have a hard time test taking and school was difficult for me. And no I am not saying I am at all miss perfect because if you look at my past posts from years back, I have been through a really tough time when I was in school. Almost on the verge of quitting several times. Actually here is an exact quote back from a 2008 post, my first post actually.....

I hated my med-surg class, and taking that with pharmacology was difficult..... after about 2 months into med-surg, i was so frustrated, into tears literally... i talked to my professor about it, but she just felt so intimidating...i was doing bad in that course and you know what she said to me? was that "maybe you have a learning disability".....do you know how much that brought me down??? so much..so so much. I'm thinking to myself, "how the heck could i have a learning disability when in high school, i got all A's and B's, and all my pre req courses i completed i got A's,B's, and a couple C's.....and worked my butt off." Hearing that from her made me want to give up all of what i worked for over the past 2 years... I dont know, something about nursing instructors i don't get, i don't get why they are intimidating, rude, and make students feel miserable.... it aggravates me. When i was in high school, i never would of dreamed nursing school would be like this....i always pictured nurses and nursing instructors to be so kind, caring, and helpful....

If you think the instructor bullied you by suggesting you investigate a possible LD, I am no longer shocked that you feel bullied every time someone looks at you cross-eyed.

You applied your *expectations* upon your nursing instructor and when she/he did not fulfill them you immediately decided s/he was intimidating, harsh, and scary, therefore s/he had it out for you. I'm willing to bet your middle name should be Pollyanna.

The ironic part is that you are completely bent out of shape because people won't fit into these nice neat little boxes you mentally constructed for them, and you retaliate by characterizing them as the offending enemy, even though it is you who will not allow people to have their own weaknesses and flaws. You demand utter perfection from others in their dealings with you and offer little more than passive aggression from yourself.

I have a sister in law like you. If she could spell decently I'd believe y'all were one and the same. Arguing with either is the greased pig dilemma. There's no helping you help yourself, because you are perfectly content to go on believing you are the wronged and wounded soul just trying to make it through a battlefield of mean old people who are bitterly jealous of your looks/dedication/youth/education/what have you. It fulfills a personal narrative.

Good luck to your coworkers.

Also, I'm an old person and a new nurse. Where do I fit on your age=bully scale? I've got the newer than me younger than me nurses who get upset when I don't act all motherly and yoda-like. I have the older than me in both age and experience who get upset when I don't immediately know something because they didn't realize I'm a late bloomer. I don't consider it bullying, I accept that as a late entry to the field I was going to encounter situations regarding my age/experience and attempted to adapt to them.

Specializes in Dialysis.
If you think the instructor bullied you by suggesting you investigate a possible LD, I am no longer shocked that you feel bullied every time someone looks at you cross-eyed.

You applied your *expectations* upon your nursing instructor and when she/he did not fulfill them you immediately decided s/he was intimidating, harsh, and scary, therefore s/he had it out for you. I'm willing to bet your middle name should be Pollyanna.

The ironic part is that you are completely bent out of shape because people won't fit into these nice neat little boxes you mentally constructed for them, and you retaliate by characterizing them as the offending enemy, even though it is you who will not allow people to have their own weaknesses and flaws. You demand utter perfection from others in their dealings with you and offer little more than passive aggression from yourself.

I have a sister in law like you. If she could spell decently I'd believe y'all were one and the same. Arguing with either is the greased pig dilemma. There's no helping you help yourself, because you are perfectly content to go on believing you are the wronged and wounded soul just trying to make it through a battlefield of mean old people who are bitterly jealous of your looks/dedication/youth/education/what have you. It fulfills a personal narrative.

Good luck to your coworkers.

Also, I'm an old person and a new nurse. Where do I fit on your age=bully scale? I've got the newer than me younger than me nurses who get upset when I don't act all motherly and yoda-like. I have the older than me in both age and experience who get upset when I don't immediately know something because they didn't realize I'm a late bloomer. I don't consider it bullying, I accept that as a late entry to the field I was going to encounter situations regarding my age/experience and attempted to adapt to them.

Awesomely said ☺

Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
Perhaps I should have elaborated. It's not just lack of eye contact. It was purely ignoring her. When questions were asked, all she got was silence. Just wanted to clarify. We are humans. You can't expect a new young student to be perfect with her emotions when dealing these situations. You seriously cannot expect them to go in there, know everything, and be this almighty tough person with a thick skin already. She asked some simple questions from more experienced nurses, ended up being ignored completely the whole time, and feeling completely useless and worthless from an unsupportive environment. How would you feel? Does anyone even have feelings on this forum? Or have we all suppressed our emotions?? Lol!

I would think "Man I got a dud this time. Maybe I can find a busy person to help or a bummed out patient to console. Hopefully I get to learn something today. Hope I get a more receptive person next time." But tears? Save that for when someone dies.

Specializes in Psych.

As we all know, bullying is not always about what people do, it is also about what people don't do. In fact, the most cruel and severe types of bullying are covert and include disrespect, exclusion, gossip and withholding. These behaviours are also unprofessional and against most States' Nurse Practice Acts.

Any nurse who says that being a positive mentor or that the teaching of junior nurses is not their job is espousing negative behaviour that most likely violates the policy of their employer and/or the Nurse Practice Act in their State. It most certainly reflects negatively upon the nursing profession and has a negative impact on patient care.

Passive aggressive behaviour is a big issue in nursing and it is difficult to identify as it is indeed covert. It is subterfuge, it is counter-productive and it is not acceptable in a healthy work place. Is it uncommon? Not in my experience.

Yep you're gonna get flamed. I think you're confusing bullying and personality issues. I've been an RN for over 20 years and I've seldom met nurses who are just whining and don't have an actual concern about the way they have been treated. Certainly this happens, but nurses "eating their young" occurs much more frequently, and is a very clear and present form of bullying!

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