New Grad Co-worker driving me NUTS!!!!

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Okay, full disclosure, I am still pretty much a new grad on the floor myself with a whole whopping seven months on the floor- I work in a very busy TCU, with a patient population that ranges from Total knee replacement A&O x3, to higher acutity with us to see if they need LTC services in the near future

Having said that, here is what I have learned on the floor thus far about being a new grad

1. Keep your eyes and ears open at all times

2. Ask questions all the time!

3. Be very honest about what do you do and don't know from the get go! which as a new grad is NOT MUCH

4. Addendum to #3, be humble

5. Obvioulsy follow all rules and company policy to keep management happy but first and foremost form good bonds with your co-workers, especially the more seasoned knowledgeable nurses- you need them more then you can ever know initially!

Having said that, one of my coworkers is driving me frickin' nuts, and is the EXACT OPPOSITE of eveything I wrote aboved

She's a new grad in her mid twenties, been on our floor two months- very OVERLY confident- refuses to admit she doesn't know something, in fact for the first two weeks she had managed to trick me- whenever we would explain a new procedure/tx on the floor with a patient in report she would say " Oh sure just like in the hospital!" which I thought meant she had worked in one until I found out SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT CLINICALS

anyhow, due to being a family friend of the one of the higher ups she got position as a shift supervisor after one month on the floor- ( the word on the street is that she plans to stick at our facility as a supervisor for a year so that she can go have her pick of hospital jobs) I told her straight up when she told me "You're crazy to take that job- I wouldn't have- it's stressful for nurses with 20 years on the job"

So basically she is overly nice Suzy sunshine , but really passive agressive too- yesterday was a hellish day at work for me- one of my patient's went into crisis, every annoying demanding family member that has someone on our floor all visited at once, several meds were missing resulting in more work phone calls for me to pharmacy, etc.

THen PM shift pulls a no call/no show, so after waiting for 1/2 an hour past my shift to go home little miss Suzy is gonna take the shift so I report off to her- I explain my hellish day, how all I wanna do is get the hell off the floor and she is all sympathetic-

so what does she do as we are counting narcs? a bottle of liquid oxycodone is a little OVER (thank god not under) the # of MLs in the book ( my theory pharm over filled it a little initially, they have done so in the past) She creates this big drama about how " I'm not signing off with you until this is resolved!" and gets managers from other floors who happen to be hanging around haivng just all completed a meeting on our floor- Most of the managers were just like " Just be happy it's not under, just waste the extra"

BUT OH NO!Suzy has gotta get an official stamp from the DON, calling her at home while she has taken the day off to visit her new grandbaby

I finally get out of there, and an hour later I get a VM from my actual manger sounding weary, stating "Suzy has found a few meds you forgot to sign out, you need to call us so we know what meds you didn't give" (okay, bad I know, but given my constant interruptions during med pass yesterday I'm surprised I got half of them signed out- we are old school, use carts, cards, and paper charting- and I ALWAYS give all of my meds, wanna know how you can know? MAYBE CHECK THE EMPTY BUBBLE NEXT TO THE DAY'S DATE)

This btw, in light of a conversation I had with Suzy where I made it clear that no one should call me at home for little things that can wait until the next day- correction, you can call me, but if it is petty, I will not call you bak on my own time, sorry.

In short, how do I work with this newbie without punching her in the Larynx?

If you read this far MANY THANKS

No offense, but I don't want to be a patient in that facility.:rolleyes:

Specializes in Acute Care Psych, DNP Student.

Dinah77,

I'm sorry. I should have left my own experience out of my responses to you since I'm not in acute care like you are - it's comparing apples to oranges. Good luck to you.

Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

I want someone to explain to me how someone with little or nil experience (except clinicals, if I read correctly) gets a shift supervisor job in the first place? Are you in the US? Here in Aust you would probably need 2 years at LEAST in critical care settings to get a post like that.

I don't get that part.

Anyway, I would probably have a quiet word with her. In my experience, making a fuss about a bottle of Ordine/narcotic being over, is just plain damn ridiculous. Couldn't you have said 'Pharmacy does over fill the bottle, call them' and if she didn't I would have called pharmacy myself.

Tell her she was overdramatic in calling out the cavalry. And who hasn't signed off meds when they've been busy? Usually we all pick up each others work and just say Hey you forgot to sign this, did you give it? It gets signed and no big deal.

What will she be like as a supervisor when a REAL emergency happens, ie: a code or fire for example? If she gets her knickers in a knot about something so little, you need to tell her to cool down - I believe in confronting people in private is the best way to resolve a situation.

Do it at least for your own peace of mind, otherwise you will stew over the whole situation, maybe make more mistakes, and your work and home life will suffer.

She needs taking down a peg or two, and if it was me in this situation, I would just tell her what I thought - and I bet she will bluster and back down.

Cowards usually do back down.

Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.
I agree, the med question was worth a call to you. They need to know which meds were missed. Also, if you missed those meds, I could see why she'd question why there were extra narcs. It can be a big deal too if people weren't being given their pain medications.

I hope you can work things out through time to make things more pleasant for both of you.

This doesn't make sense to me.

If patients were NOT being given their pain meds - and there is extra in the bottle - that means two RNs have to sign it out. So why is this just one person's fault?

Maybe you have a different system over there?

The new grad is being petty - not for questioning anything at all - but for the way she has alienated the OP and by the unprofessional way she has handled the whole situation.

As a 3rd year student RN, we had extra IV meds/narcs whatever sometimes and as a student RN, I had to witness this being wasted. I had to sign and another RN had to sign with me, and it was all quite legal (as students, we are responsible an accountable for our meds).

And you cannot go around accusing people until you have all the facts first - that's the impression I got. She should NOT be a supervisor at all by the sounds of it.

OP, you are right to be p****d off - she doesn't like you and you don't like her, and she is out to get you.

Just make sure you document everything that happened, what she said, witnesses, etc and hand it into your DON, then call a meeting with all of you to thrash it out.

Just make sure you confront her somehow, as this has happened to a lot of people who are good nurses.

Goodness as if we all have time everyday to waste time on petty things when so much more good work could be getting finished!

She sounds like she's an oxygen thief!

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

Dinah - your list of "what to do" sounds as if you are a quick learner who is sensitive to your environment and can set priorities (ie it is more important to actually know something than it is to appear as though you do).

One of the very few things good about getting older is that you see patterns in yourself and others after years of slugging it out in the trenches with people who confuse confidence with false bravado, and drama with true leadership skills. If Suzy decided to create a little vignette for herself over the narc count issue because she knew she had an audience there, and you got the supporting role, it won't take very long for people to realize it, and she has lots to learn not just in her clinical skills.

It makes me insane to be around that type, but I would say keep doing what you believe is right, watch as time goes by and the rope is unspooled - not because it's fun to watch somebody crash and burn - just that it's a great object lesson for you to remember going forward. Sometimes it takes a maddeningly long time to happen, and very annoying to deal with.

Chances are high that others will notice your negativity toward her and dwell on that before they ever look at her shortcomings. Worry about yourself.

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!! The above things you stated are some of the many things that irks me about Suzy- she makes BIG mistakes, but jumps on any little one anyone else makes

and honestly, no one else on here has forgotten to sign out a med???????

You have some legitimate complaints, but being called about not signing out a med is not one of them in my opinion. If I forgot to sign out a med, I would not be surprised to receive a call about it, nor would I consider that to be inappropriate. That was the proper thing to do in that situation. No one should ever "assume" anything based on an empty bubble.

I'm not sure how to label future threads in a way that make it clear that it's a vent- I'm not sure when allnurses became a place where it was unsafe to complain about a bad day or bad co-woker. (think there is already a thread about his on the hot topics area?)

Meaning that if it's clear it's a vent, readers are only allowed to respond with answers that validate your position? This is the internet, and a forum which is designed to allow feedback from people reading your thread. If you post that the world is round, someone will argue with you. That's the way it is on the internet, particularly when screen names provide anonymity.

I think something important to keep in mind is that, just as we here come to conclusions about your motivations that you find to be inaccurate, so too will your coworkers. They have a little more context than we do, but there is still no guarantee that they will interpret you correctly. This is one of the reasons some folks here are advising you to focus on your practice and to not dwell on the ways this coworker frustrates you. Taking anything other than the high road will hurt you in the end. You can't change your coworker and it's really not a good idea to share your feelings about her with your coworkers, your manager, anyone at work. If this nurse got her job through nepotism, it is especially hazardous for you to be openly critical of her.

The best thing for you to do is to find a way to work with her and to make sure that your work is irreproachable. It would be a disservice to you to tell you otherwise, and even though some of the delivery has been harsh I hope you can look past that and take wisdom from your work situation.

I want someone to explain to me how someone with little or nil experience (except clinicals, if I read correctly) gets a shift supervisor job in the first place? Are you in the US? Here in Aust you would probably need 2 years at LEAST in critical care settings to get a post like that.

I don't get that part.

Easy as the OP mentioned the nurse in question is a family friend of some of the higher ups. In many US businesses including the medical field it's not WHAT you know its WHO you know. We have a saying here but its a little crude so I'll keep the rest of the phrase off these boards.

If the person is not well connected, not particuarly skilled and still gets a supervisor job then its usually a case of damn great timing or they're extremely saavy at playing political games. Personally I realize I will never have supervisory job let alone a cushy one since I'm not well connected & despise political games.

Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.
Easy as the OP mentioned the nurse in question is a family friend of some of the higher ups. In many US businesses including the medical field it's not WHAT you know its WHO you know. We have a saying here but its a little crude so I'll keep the rest of the phrase off these boards.

If the person is not well connected, not particuarly skilled and still gets a supervisor job then its usually a case of damn great timing or they're extremely saavy at playing political games. Personally I realize I will never have supervisory job let alone a cushy one since I'm not well connected & despise political games.

I think if someone got a shift supervisor job here in Aust with so little experience, the ward nurses would probably riot. It must be very different over there.

Specializes in Cath Lab/ ICU.
I think if someone got a shift supervisor job here in Aust with so little experience, the ward nurses would probably riot. It must be very different over there.

It's unfortunate that it happens commonly. We can't riot each time or we'd be exhausted. It's just plain embarrassing for any facility that allows it to happen...

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