Need your support guys.........I Feel like a real pansy!!

[malestudentnurse]

I was confronted at the local bar Saturday night by a redneck. I am quite the redneck myself ( or used to be) LOL. There was no way this guy was gonna calm down without a fight. Under normal circumstances (three or four years ago) I would have thrown down in a heartbeat, but I begin clinicals in about two weeks!! I can under no circumstances risk a charge of any kind. It's hard enough to get accepted into nursing school. To make a long story short, I had to call the law. What a pansy thing to do!!!! I feel I had no choice. Just need some support from you guys who understand my plight. Thanks

[chuckz, BSN, RN]

Being a dude, I understand that dilemma. I have to tell you, I have walked away from a couple of fights due to not wanting to lose my license. I have a new rule that as long as somebody does not touch me, my son, wife or family, I can walk away from everything. Call me any name in the book, I am the one with the job and license to lose, not them.

Good job and trust me when I say I do understand.

[systoly]

Pansy? No way! Giving in to your pride and anger is the easy way out. What you did is one of the hardest things to do. The real fight was not with the other guy, but with a much greater adversary - yourself.

[Jasel, BSN, RN]

I find it hard to believe how many men there are out there who equate using common sense to avoid a devastating blow to a potential career as "being a pansy".

From what you've said it sounds you made the smart decision. Many people don't. Unless you felt the urge to cry or **** your pants at the thought of confrontation whether you called the cops or ran all the way home that wouldn't make you a pansy. And even if it did I'd honestly rather be a pansy than a screw up.

But good for you for making the right decision:beer:

[leemacaz]

Walking away from a drunk troublemaker does not make you a pansy....any more than getting into a fist fight makes him a man. There is no winning with abusive drunks...but you could have lost your future...which would not have made you a man either...( I hope the following does not get me in trouble with the moderators) It would just make you a dumbass.

[ZanatuBelmont]

I was confronted at the local bar Saturday night by a redneck. I am quite the redneck myself ( or used to be) LOL. There was no way this guy was gonna calm down without a fight. Under normal circumstances (three or four years ago) I would have thrown down in a heartbeat, but I begin clinicals in about two weeks!! I can under no circumstances risk a charge of any kind. It's hard enough to get accepted into nursing school. To make a long story short, I had to call the law. What a pansy thing to do!!!! I feel I had no choice. Just need some support from you guys who understand my plight. Thanks

You did the right thing. Being a redneck doesn't mean you have to act like an idiot. Seriously, all you would have done is landed yourself a night in jail then been removed from the program. Then what? Well, you'll always have your stupid redneck buddy at the bar! But you already know that, obviously!

Again, you did what was right. The person who - for whatever reason - verbally threatened you is the pansy.

[exnavygirl-RN]

The other guy is the pansy! You totally did the right thing. You're going to rock as a RN.

[felixfelix]

..yea, it sucks not to let fly in that situation...but that isn't going to fly in nursing and you did what you had to do. you may get tested again...one day some surgeon may get in your face and you're going to want to do a field rhinoplasty on him, and you're going to have to suck it up or lose your job, so think of it as practice....then again, if they hit you first, it's self-defense!