Thank you so much folks, but like I said, Ben is an amazing kid in his own right, without my input. Last summer at the gym I bought him a water blaster to play with at the gym pool. It was the first day he got it and he was so excited. When other kids saw the fun he was having, they came up and wanted to play. My son let them play with it for about 45min without touching it. He wasn't being bullied nor did anybody take it from him, he just allowed them to play with it and splashed about. I asked him about it later and he actually told me, "I had fun seeing everybody have fun, plus I get to take the water gun home."
It's funny because I never wanted kids like some of you. I was/am selfish with my time and I always said I won't have a child. Ben came and my life changed. There has not been one day.....NOT ONE DAY that I have thought that this day with him wasn't better than the day before. I don't believe in children being an emotional crutch for the parents. I think I have to be there for him to show him right and wrong and how to be a good person.
Never had a dad or mother around too much. I was raised by my Grandfather and he showed me that a man can be tough (He was a pro boxer and a Russian farm boy) and still be thoughtful, generous and kind. I am a competitive powerlifter and am not a small dude, most of my patient's think I am security.....but I always try and be kind and compassionate. It's a lesson my grandfather taught me and now I teach my son. My grandfather lives through Ben.
Ok....waaaaaaay too much insight I know, but I just want people to get a sense of the importance of this little boy to me. Thank you for listening and all your kind words about him....I appreciate it very much....I also appreciate people thinking I am a a good dad, that makes me feel better than anything anybody could ever say. Thank you again.