Need your support guys.........I Feel like a real pansy!!

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I was confronted at the local bar Saturday night by a redneck. I am quite the redneck myself ( or used to be) LOL. There was no way this guy was gonna calm down without a fight. Under normal circumstances (three or four years ago) I would have thrown down in a heartbeat, but I begin clinicals in about two weeks!! I can under no circumstances risk a charge of any kind. It's hard enough to get accepted into nursing school. To make a long story short, I had to call the law. What a pansy thing to do!!!! I feel I had no choice. Just need some support from you guys who understand my plight. Thanks

hey man whatz-up? i heard sometime ago that a man is not tested by his masculinity or muscles, but real man is measured from chin to top of the head. you outsmarted that red neck! it was a wise decision or should i say "critical thinking"? LOL

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Hey guys...in case you haven't figure out the obvious....the girls don't find throw downs attractive. It took me the first 26 years to figure this out...take some advice from an ol' dawg...spend your time and money on entertaining your date. Not on bail, damaged furniture and apologies....:banghead:

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Specializes in ICU.
Hey guys...in case you haven't figure out the obvious....the girls don't find throw downs attractive.

That's true. Guys who are able to keep their cool in these situations are incredibly sexy. I haven't been around that many bar fights, but I find them very stressful and a little embarassing.

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It sounds to be you're being more of an adult as opposed to a pansy. An immature person would throw down first and think of the consequences later. You start clinical work soon, and this took precedence. As much of a blow to your internal ego as it must have been, you did the right thing. Besides, in today's day and age, a simple round of fisticuffs may turn into getting yourself shot or stabbed, and that's never a good thing. You made the right choice.

Amen....nursing school aside, you never know what the other guy is going to bring into the fight. There's just too many stories of fights turning into stabbings and or shootings. You deserve a pat on the back for standing down. Just keep your eyes on the prize of getting your RN and forget about the trashy rednecks. Seriously, this moron isn't worth losing a good career over.

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.

You wont have time to go bar hopping anymore now anyway. If you do, just walk away. I hate drunk people, so I avoid places that have drunk people. On the other after you walk away and this person still wishes to engage you , then you have the right to defend yourself. I find that disorientating the visual senses is a good way to defend yourself, and then walk away again.

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good restaint, you have to "man up " trust me ! my brothers and i use to fight bounces. big 200lb plus bastards and i'm a little guy 5'3 .so i know when those boys come callin u throw down not matter what, no matter who !!!!!!!! a mans pride is a mans' pride but what they don't tell is that ur a better man for not fighting !

that lesson is hard for all us knuckle heads to learn, it took me a while nonetheless good job you did what u needed to do , no shame in it, i would done the same ! now u can call urself a MAN, not a pansy ! :cheers:

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Specializes in Management, Emergency, Psych, Med Surg.

Oh Honey Please.... You took the higher road which was the right thing to do. I am from Texas and I know all about rednecks. It is hard, but sometimes you have to back up and do what is right rather than what you really want to do. Besides you don't want to go to clinical with bruises on what is bound to be a very cute face. Enjoy school!!!!

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First - good job.

Second, you might think this out another way. What if that person had been a patient? Would your gonadal instinct to throw down have won out in that situation? Your "just say no to a fight" attitude will help you down the road when you need to exercise your good judgment muscles. When a patient is strong, aggressive, mean and swinging, you want to have the ability to NOT fight as your first gut response.

Congrats on making that important step in the right direction.

--Thomas

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Specializes in LTC.

That sux, I have a short fuse with morons so I probably would have lost it. Good for you for putting things in perspective. Just imagine what would have happened had you been arrested for fighting. I don't know about your State, but in my State a felony assault is equivalent to never being a nurse. So we have to keep that in perspective.

Hoping to get into a nursing program at a local community college next year.. Wish me luck!

And best of luck to you. I know this might sound like nonsense, but sometimes the bigger man walks away from a fight.

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Specializes in ER/Trauma.

As my sensei at my Shotokan class would always tell us: "The smartest fighter is the one who avoids getting into a fight in the first place. Courage lies in doing the right thing".

cheers,

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Specializes in Medical Surgical/Addiction/Mental Health.

Today, a fight is a lot more involved than just a fight. I have a brother-in-law who was involved in a bar fight about three years ago. It sounds like the same situation. Another guy swears my brother-in-law was making eyes at his wife (who knows maybe he was) and then all hell broke loose. The police arrived, my brother-in-law was placed in handcuffs and the other guy was taken to the hospital. My brother-in-law beat the other guy so bad that he was on the Neuro-Critical Care floor for months. He was charged with attempted murder and is now serving prison time! The worse part of the story is the other guys family sued my sister and brother-in-law for the incident and won. My sister and her kids lost everything they owned. She is living with our parents, her credit is now shot, and husband in prison. I wish Mike would have been a “Pansy” that evening. I have yet to understand the whole macho thing anyways…do the women like men who are macho better or do us men just think so?

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Well done MSN for walking away!

I had a similar thing a few weeks ago and had to turn my back from a guy in the street as he called me names cos would not fight him after they threw things at my house. I really want to punch him out, but reason won through. :smokin:

Working in close quarters with people as we do in this job has a strange effect on your character. As a pastor for 20 years I would happily have given him a smack no quarms, but as a student nurse I could restrain myself for his sake as well as my career ;)

Hey if I wanted to fight I would be a psychiatric nurse. LOL

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