Need your support guys.........I Feel like a real pansy!!

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I was confronted at the local bar Saturday night by a redneck. I am quite the redneck myself ( or used to be) LOL. There was no way this guy was gonna calm down without a fight. Under normal circumstances (three or four years ago) I would have thrown down in a heartbeat, but I begin clinicals in about two weeks!! I can under no circumstances risk a charge of any kind. It's hard enough to get accepted into nursing school. To make a long story short, I had to call the law. What a pansy thing to do!!!! I feel I had no choice. Just need some support from you guys who understand my plight. Thanks

Specializes in Telemetry & PCU.

Hey the only fight I ever lost I slipped running around a corner!! :D

You did the right thing. When I was young and dumb you could get into "scuffles" and that was that. Today, you don't know what some moron might do i.e. gun, knife, etc.

Good luck with clinicals!

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You are not a pansy.....you were thinking smart and about your future....I can't tell you how many times this issue has run through my head.....but I know that my journey to get into a nursing program has been so long and hard that I would never jeopardize it for a small ounce of pleasure of kicking someone's butt.....

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I have to agree..better to walk away..I would've thrown down as well on first instinct. Especially when provoked. I would've done it in an instant. A pansy you are not...

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Another testosterone challanged person butting into your forum...sorry..

BUT:

PANSY?! Not in my eyes. You showed maturity and intellegence. Instead of throwing down, you showed the maturity of knowing the consequences of doing so. Your future and subsequent livilyhood could have been affected by getting into a bar room brawl. No one ever thinks "what if". How many times have we read where a bar room brawl turned deadly? You throw that one punch and kill someone, never meaning to but you do...what then...was it worth it?

It takes more courage and maturity to just walk away. You did the right thing. You are NOT a pansy. I have more respect and think that men who walk/talk instead of having fist fly, are more attractive than those who fly off at every little thing.

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you did the right thing!!!

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Even if you won the fight, you could lose so much more. Never worth it. We were all young dumb and full of... stupidity at one point. Most turn the corner when they realize that they will never see the guy again, were probably not using "situational awareness" as they should or egged it on to begin with.

I knew a good guy who got into it with some dirtbag in a bar, basically got jumped by the dirtbag outside the bar, and in defense, fought back, the guy stumbled and fell, cracked his head open on the concrete and the dirtbag ended up mentally handicapped. The other guy had everything going for him, got 8-10 years, did 4 or 5 for good behavior (or something like that). Now he is an ex-felon, totally changed (prison will do that), that can't get a janitors job without declaring that he is an ex-con. If you see him today, you would not believe that he was the same guy fresh out of highschool, pulling a 4.0 and getting offers for a full ride at the state U. Wrong place at the wrong time can destroy a life.

Since that lesson I was lucky enough to learn through someone else's misery, I have never even come close to a situation. I read people well. If someone is putting out "tough guy" vibes, I cross the street. I have a fiancee to protect, a family to start, a mom to help, etc. I can't do anything if I get hurt, or go to jail.

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Well...this should some it up...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9f-lXqUZ18

I feel your pain. :chuckle

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Specializes in MED-SURG,CARDIO/PULM, Home Health.

That decision showed that you are a man and know when to fight your battles! why lose everything u worked hard for over something stupid. walking away showed that u know when to pick your battles! U are not a pansy:yeah:

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When I was much younger, I would have done the easier thing and thrown down with the redneck-no problem. You basically did what a mature, responsible man should do. There is no way that we should let another person hold the kind of power over us that could endanger our nursing goal or our freedom. I am by no stretch of the imagination a pansy and neither are you. Way to go and good luck in school :up:.

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You did the right thing by not getting involved physically. Your future is more important than a bar fight.

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Word from an ex-hothead...you did well and chose to act not react! I applaud you and think that your idea of pansy will be evermore tested here in just the next couple months if it's not reshaped. My idea of self has changed and continues to change as I have pervaded this occupation. Best of luck to you and remember that we need you! Here's to the MURSES (male + nurse= MURSE!)

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Good call...not fighting is not considered being a pansy. I'm a trained fighter and the last thing I want to do is to get into a fight. I am definately not a pansy and dont' think anyone that avoids a fight is either. It's smarter to walk away and avoid the situation than it is to engage. The only time I would engage in a fight is if the opposite party threw the first punch and then it would only be enough to subdue the attacker with as little harm as possible. Brains over brawn will win out everytime. It does help to have both though. Always remain calm and in control and that is exactly what you did. Bravo!

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