I am 25/m and started nursing school this past August, so I have 1 semester behind me. This coming semester is supposed to be very hard and require almost twice as much out of class time.
My situation is difficult because I live in an apartment in the same town that my school is in and also have worked full time (which requires about a 45 min drive both ways) for the past year while I did my first semester of nursing school.
Now I have to make a difficult decision. My parents live 30 mins away from where I live now as well as where I go to school. My choice is this:
A. Move back home with parents and not have a rent to pay but lose my independence and make it difficult for my girlfriend and I (who lives a couple house away) to see each other. Plus, I will have the 30 min drive 4/5 days a week to class and back. I will have the advantages of having free food, etc etc.
B. Keep my job and go down to part time. Move into my own 1b/b efficient apt and live in the same town as school but still have the drive to work. Also I will depend a lot on help from my parents possibly paying my whole rent. They are not rich but middle class and I feel bad for asking this of them.
Either way my parents said they would help me out with expenses but I feel bad for asking for too much (being in my own place would require much more than living at home obviously), but at the same time I can't work a whole lot to support myself with this tough semester. I have 1.5 years left in school so I have a feeling this type of situation will be ongoing until then, just maybe not as severe with easier semesters.
I think thats pretty much everything. Let me know what you guys think, and thanks for spending the time to read this :)
Move back in with your parents !!!! I wish I could live in my parents home for free rent/ food/ etc, etc. Take it from someone who have been on her own since age 18 and still is. I'm 20, and I would kill to work part-time, have free rent, and live at home with mom !!!! Stay at home, if your girlfriend cant accept that, oh well !
Totally agree! Move back in with your parents. The time flies when your in school so before you know it, you'll be ALL done.:)
Move home temporarily definitely, it is just 3 more semesters and I would never ask my parents to pay my rent if it would strain them financially, esp if they offered to let me move home. If it gets too much, find a coffee shop or library nearby to study in and take a parent break! Like a previous poster said if this next semester is as all consuming as they are telling you, you won't have as much time for your girlfriend anyway and if she loves you she will understand! Good Luck!
Move back in with your parents! I know it is a sacrifice but you should give yourself the best chances for success. I know that if it were me and I chose to keep working and I flunked out of NS I would feel horrible! I won't be working when I start nursing school for the same reason. Unfortunately I don't have the option to move in with my parents because they live in California and my school is in Colorado. Luckily I have a supportive husband. If you are worried about spending time with your GF, just try to have a talk with your parents to remind them that you are an adult, and making responsible choices.
I think you should move back in with your parents because nursing school is so intense and you will be so busy studying, I am sure you will not have time to "go crazy" while living back at home. We all make sacrafices to get through nursing school. But, having no distractions while getting through this program would have been wonderful! I am talking No Rent, No Bills, No cooking or cleaning. I would say Go Home! And get there as fast as your can ! Its only for a short time in your life, and it would be great to have the support of your family. If your girlfriend can not understand that, its time to move on. Its important to avoid all negative circumstances and outside stressors while going through NS. Because, nothing humbles you more or takes from your self esteem like Nursing School! LOL...
I'm going to go against the grain here... 25 seems too old to be relying on parents. I say find roomates to make you rent cheaper or see if you can rent a room from someone that lives near campus. I've had several friends rent out someone's spare bedroom through college.
The G/F probably won't be to keen on having a b/f that lives with mom and dad.
I also think that once you've had a taste of independence it will be really hard to go back to living with the parents.
I am 46 yo and my parents live in NY, I live in FL.....so no moving home here! LOL! I work full time and will hopefully be starting NS this summer. My 21 yo son is moving home and will be starting school Jan 5. But he will not be living here for free. Whatever he would have spent on room and board he will have to give to me. His pell grant will cover 100% of his tuition and books.
One thing you *need* to cover with you parents......
You are a grown man. How are you going to handle sexual aspects of your personal relationships? How will your parents respond to late nights or nights where you don't come home at all? What chores will you be expected to contribute to? Although you are a grown man, this is still *their* home and their rules still apply.
]I agree with the majority. Definitely move back home. I'm assuming the girlfriend lives a couple of houses away from where you live NOW? That being said.. a 30 minute distance is NOTHING. I've been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years now and this coming fall (09) he will be going to NYC to school and I'm in NorthEastern PA and I'm doing nothing but encouraging him because even though it will be tough, it's not about the relationship, it's about us doing what we need to do for ourselves (and getting a good education + career will benefit the relationship immensely should you decided to get married).
I know it can be difficult moving back in with your parents after you've been moved out, but .. it will be TWO YEARS that you're with them, how long did you live with them before? And about the mention of sexual practices ... I'm assuming you were sexually active before you moved out and you were able to handle it then, why not now? Besides, go to the girlfriends house or wait till your parents are out if that's an issue. I think if it saves you money and gives you the ability to devote time to your education then that concern should be on the back burner, esp. since it will only be during your time throughout NS. I'm assuming well.. a 1yr and a half if you're going for your ADN.
]I agree with the majority. Definitely move back home. I'm assuming the girlfriend lives a couple of houses away from where you live NOW? That being said.. a 30 minute distance is NOTHING. I've been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years now and this coming fall (09) he will be going to NYC to school and I'm in NorthEastern PA and I'm doing nothing but encouraging him because even though it will be tough, it's not about the relationship, it's about us doing what we need to do for ourselves (and getting a good education + career will benefit the relationship immensely should you decided to get married).
I know it can be difficult moving back in with your parents after you've been moved out, but .. it will be TWO YEARS that you're with them, how long did you live with them before? And about the mention of sexual practices ... I'm assuming you were sexually active before you moved out and you were able to handle it then, why not now? Besides, go to the girlfriends house or wait till your parents are out if that's an issue. I think if it saves you money and gives you the ability to devote time to your education then that concern should be on the back burner, esp. since it will only be during your time throughout NS. I'm assuming well.. a 1yr and a half if you're going for your ADN.
Thanks for the advice all of you. But one thing... my girl lives 3 hrs away so when we do get to see eachother its gotta be worth the drive!!!
]Definitely I know what you mean. It's such a scary thing, but it's so worth it to do. When it comes a situation like this, you've got to put you first, the relationship will take care of itself (if it's meant to be) and it's a good way to test your relationship so to speak. And yes, it will make it so much more worthwhile when you do get to see each other.
I won't be working when I start nursing school for the same reason. Unfortunately I don't have the option to move in with my parents because they live in California and my school is in Colorado. Luckily I have a supportive husband. If you are worried about spending time with your GF, just try to have a talk with your parents to remind them that you are an adult, and making responsible choices.
CrystalClear75, BSN, RN
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Totally agree! Move back in with your parents. The time flies when your in school so before you know it, you'll be ALL done.:)