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I need advice...

I am 25/m and started nursing school this past August, so I have 1 semester behind me. This coming semester is supposed to be very hard and require almost twice as much out of class time.

My situation is difficult because I live in an apartment in the same town that my school is in and also have worked full time (which requires about a 45 min drive both ways) for the past year while I did my first semester of nursing school.

Now I have to make a difficult decision. My parents live 30 mins away from where I live now as well as where I go to school. My choice is this:

A. Move back home with parents and not have a rent to pay but lose my independence and make it difficult for my girlfriend and I (who lives a couple house away) to see each other. Plus, I will have the 30 min drive 4/5 days a week to class and back. I will have the advantages of having free food, etc etc.

B. Keep my job and go down to part time. Move into my own 1b/b efficient apt and live in the same town as school but still have the drive to work. Also I will depend a lot on help from my parents possibly paying my whole rent. They are not rich but middle class and I feel bad for asking this of them.

Either way my parents said they would help me out with expenses but I feel bad for asking for too much (being in my own place would require much more than living at home obviously), but at the same time I can't work a whole lot to support myself with this tough semester. I have 1.5 years left in school so I have a feeling this type of situation will be ongoing until then, just maybe not as severe with easier semesters.

I think thats pretty much everything. Let me know what you guys think, and thanks for spending the time to read this :)

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I need advice...

I am 25/m and started nursing school this past August, so I have 1 semester behind me. This coming semester is supposed to be very hard and require almost twice as much out of class time.

My situation is difficult because I live in an apartment in the same town that my school is in and also have worked full time (which requires about a 45 min drive both ways) for the past year while I did my first semester of nursing school.

Now I have to make a difficult decision. My parents live 30 mins away from where I live now as well as where I go to school. My choice is this:

A. Move back home with parents and not have a rent to pay but lose my independence and make it difficult for my girlfriend and I (who lives a couple house away) to see each other. Plus, I will have the 30 min drive 4/5 days a week to class and back. I will have the advantages of having free food, etc etc.

B. Keep my job and go down to part time. Move into my own 1b/b efficient apt and live in the same town as school but still have the drive to work. Also I will depend a lot on help from my parents possibly paying my whole rent. They are not rich but middle class and I feel bad for asking this of them.

Either way my parents said they would help me out with expenses but I feel bad for asking for too much (being in my own place would require much more than living at home obviously), but at the same time I can't work a whole lot to support myself with this tough semester. I have 1.5 years left in school so I have a feeling this type of situation will be ongoing until then, just maybe not as severe with easier semesters.

I think thats pretty much everything. Let me know what you guys think, and thanks for spending the time to read this :)

The 30 minutes back and forth each day is far less time than working...even part-time. The loss of some independence will only be for a few years and while it will probably be less convenient to see your girlfriend, the two of you should be able to work it out.

I'd say to prioritize the decision that gives you the most time for school....which sounds like moving back with your parents.

Peace,

CuriousMe

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Move back in with your parents !!!! I wish I could live in my parents home for free rent/ food/ etc, etc. Take it from someone who have been on her own since age 18 and still is. I'm 20, and I would kill to work part-time, have free rent, and live at home with mom !!!! Stay at home, if your girlfriend cant accept that, oh well !

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ok thats 2 for plan A i guess...anyone else???

I really love my independence and I dont get much personal space at the rent's house...

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You are in nursing school ! Its okay to be dependent on your parents. I love my independence, however I would jump at the chance to be "independent" but have the load taken off.

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Nothing lasts forever, girlfriend will get over it ..this is more important than anyone, after all this is for YOU and no one else.

I along with a lot of people travel to school, why not live with parents and work like 16 hours a week. School is your priority, before anyone and anything. Its a really short sacrifice, in another 18 months you will be a professional FOREVER! So, think of it as a small price that will pay off big in the end

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I agree with everyone else! Move back home with your parents. Nursing school is tough, regardless. Wouldn't it be so much easier on yourself if you didn't have to worry about working and finances?? I would move back home in a second if given the opportunity!

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Go for Plan A.

You have no idea yet, being a relatively new student...but NS only gets more intense from here on out. The less you have to worry about (such as work, rent and food bills), the better. And it's not forever: it's only 2 years. The inconvenience of living with the parents is more than offset by the benefits.

As far as your GF...well, like I said, NS is only going to get more intense from here on out, so it's not as though you'll have tons of free time to spend with her anyway. Heck, I'm married and between NS and his job, some days it's like we're ships passing in the night :) And we're living together!

Besides, if she really cares for you and wants to see you make something of yourself, she'll understand and the two of you will find a way to make the relationship work while you're in school.

If she doesn't...well then, at least you'll know where you stand, and you can go from there.

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I also vote for A, and for the reasons already mentioned.

My parents drive me nuts. Seriously, I already know how much time I can spend at home before I snap. But if moving in with them throughout nursing school were an option (it's not because they live too many hours away), I would do it in a heartbeat. I'm going into 3rd semester btw.

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I also vote for A, and for the reasons already mentioned.

My parents drive me nuts. Seriously, I already know how much time I can spend at home before I snap. But if moving in with them throughout nursing school were an option (it's not because they live too many hours away), I would do it in a heartbeat.

Thanks, I think one of the reasons i dont really wanna move home is b/c i go crazy after a while.

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ttt .

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I vote for A. I personally know that it is difficult moving back in with your parents (I just did it) however you have to think of in the long run. It might stink for a few years but you won't have the stress of working and school. My parents drive me nuts, in a loving kind of way. They ask where I'm going, just to be nosey, they ask about school, work, boyfriend, anything they can think of, but I know it's just because they love me, they are proud of me, and they want to be a part of my life. I have to remind myself that often. It didn't put anymore of a strain on my relationship then school did either. My BF knows how important this is to me, and he knew that it was part of the deal. Plus he thinks its great that Ill be his sugar momma when its all over:chuckle

Good luck and you can always come here to vent if you do decide to move in!

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