Need advice in a sticky situation

[Metapodd]

I work at a hospital have for almost 2 years as a RN, employer has concerns with me and has basically been gunning me down on everything for a few months. Our policy’s is 3 write ups result in termination. I’m at 1. I do NOT like my job I have had sleepless nights and too much anxiety and stress of dreading to work because of this. I want to quit. Here is my dilemma and concerns. They want to meet with me tomorrow but won’t say why, I imagine I’m getting written up again putting me at 2. I want to put in my 2 week notice but I’m concerned they will find a reason for another write up and terminate me before the time is up. I don’t want to quit out right because I’m worried a future employer will find that out when checking my work history on my resume and that looks horrible. (Assuming they can find that out). I don’t want to be fired though because I know that looks horrible on resumes as well. What do I do? Do I quit without notice? Do I try and make it 2 weeks and pray they don’t try to fire me? I really need help I’m losing my mind right now. Any advice is welcome, please and thank you!!

[Zeek, LPN]

I would give your 2 weeks notice and if they ask you to leave early just do it. They will likely be glad you are leaving anyway. Most places (if no unions etc) are "at will" employment anyway so they'll get rid of you one way or another if that is what they want. At least you will have done your part by giving proper notice.

[Metapodd]

But won’t this make getting my next job very difficult when they ask “why’d ya leave”.. having to tell them I was fired I heard is an end to nursing for some

[Zeek, LPN]

Most hiring managers in my opinion understand that sometimes we are not a good fit/have personality clashes or whatever at former jobs. If you put your 2 weeks notice in, I would not consider this being fired, but rather that they elected not to make you work that full 2 weeks. I would just say at the next interview that the job was no longer a good fit for me and that I chose to leave. You don't have to mention anything about why you left.

[NurseBlaq]

40 minutes ago, rhyde said:

Most hiring managers in my opinion understand that sometimes we are not a good fit/have personality clashes or whatever at former jobs. If you put your 2 weeks notice in, I would not consider this being fired, but rather that they elected not to make you work that full 2 weeks. I would just say at the next interview that the job was no longer a good fit for me and that I chose to leave. You don't have to mention anything about why you left.

Exactly this. If they ask why just repeat yourself and say that you just didn't believe it was the best fit for you.

[klone, MSN, RN]

Why does the hospital have concerns about you? Are you meeting with your manager, or HR? To ask for a meeting and not tell you why suggests that they're planning on firing you.

[Wuzzie]

16 minutes ago, klone said:

To ask for a meeting and not tell you why suggests that they're planning on firing you.

^This.

I'd have your letter of resignation ready and hand it to them before they say the words.

[JKL33]

No experience with this but I would not consider myself terminated if I was relieved of the remainder of my employment obligations after having tendered an appropriate resignation.

Whether or not they internally process your departure under terms that make you eligible for rehire is a different matter, and problematic in and of itself by the sounds of it. But regardless of that, if someone had appropriately resigned then that's how the person should characterize their departure on future applications.

Write a proper letter, make a couple of copies and take it with you. Get to the point as soon as you arrive at the meeting. "I'm not sure why you called me here but I have decided to resign my position." Give letter to manager and to HR.

Dear so-and-so,

I am resigning my position as [hired role]. In accordance with two weeks' proper notice of such, my last date available to work is [date]. [Thank them for the opportunities you've experienced] and that's it.

[winniewoman9060ret]

Sounds like you’re in a toxic environment. But what has changed 6 months ago? I had a new manager come in and I didn’t see eye to eye with her. She tried to write me up as final written warning but didn’t do things according to policy. I went to HR. Wrote up my side. I won. Stayed for 6 months and then transferred. Best thing for me. Sometimes a new environment does wonders, but you know when they’re gunning for you. Keep us posted. Heads up going into the meeting. Back straight. If you don’t have another job lined up you might not want to quit as JK suggested, but you know what’s best for you. Good luck

[hppygr8ful, ASN, RN, EMT-I]

6 hours ago, Metapodd said:

But won’t this make getting my next job very difficult when they ask “why’d ya leave”.. having to tell them I was fired I heard is an end to nursing for some

I've only been terminated from one nursing job and for a very serious offense. Still they put it down as "At will". When I had to explain why I left that job I simply stated "It wasn't a good fit!" The old employer only confirmed my dates of employment and I got the new job.

Hppy

[Lev, MSN, RN, NP]

When you hand in your resignation letter make sure to send an email to HR and your manager as well, so there is a paper trail.

[Davey Do]

From another thread:

"Getting fired from a job over quitting can be to your benefit. I have been terminated 3 times in my career and have won unemployment benefits from two of them.

The department of employment security ruled that I was terminated unjustly and I got benefits. Plus, it was good to have some formal and official documentation handy to use PRN.

If you quit your job, you will need to prove unfair working conditions in order to receive benefits. If you wait until they fire you, merely contest the reason for the termination and employment security will arrange an adjudicator to set up a teleconference. The employer has to prove your termination was valid and forthright.

Although I never did this, I have heard of others who took their termination to the next level, hired a lawyer, got their job and lost wages back, and some punitive damages to boot.

Good luck to you!"