My 9 year old patient was raped and required surgery

ssouthernyankee · Dec 30, 2008

This morning she is soooo much better. She has been sitting up and later today she wants me to help her walk over to look out the window. Her temp has stayed down and bp has stabilized. She has a certain look of peace on her face now. I think telling me what happened has lifted the burden somewhat. Thanks everyone for such kind words.

ssouthernyankee · Dec 30, 2008

God has a special place in heaven for you! I have been keeping up with this story because I just can't believe someone would hurt a child like that. It brings me to tears each time I think about this little girl.
I am so glad she has you as her nurse. It was meant for you and this little girl's paths to cross for a reason. Since you are now gonna be her foster mother, how has this affected your work relationship with others nurses/management on the unit?
How are your kids reacting to this?
Is the little girl looking foward to meeting your kids? And do she have biological siblings?
I'm so glad that SOB (and I don't mean shortness of breath), poor excuse for a human being, daddy of hers is locked up. I say put him in general population and let them have their way with him.
If she has biological siblings, I hope they are removed from that home STAT!
I can't stand people who prey on innocent kids and hurt them. Thank God for people like you who go into nursing and make a big difference in someone's life. That little girl will be so grateful for you being her nurse!
Keep us posted.

My coworkers are ok with this they are just keeping a distance. Nobody has really said anything harsh to me. They all know what kind of person I am so I think they understand why I'm doing this.

My kids are excited to have a new "sister" coming into our home. They've wanted another sibling for so long but I am unable to have any more bio kids so they are happy. I still have alot of explaining to do to them before she comes home though.

She doesnt have any siblings Thank goodness. Thanks for the kindness.

Saifudin · Dec 30, 2008

Usually words come easily but not now. Crimes against women and children of this nature are just about the lowest thing a human being can do.

Pray for her, if your a praying person. Be there for her as much as you ethically and emotionally can. I just can't see how anyone could maintain therapeutic boundaries in such cases. My emotions say if she needs love then give it.

Thanks for sharing this. I'm just sorry we have to hear such things but, this is happening in worn torn areas of Africa and other places on a regular basis. May God protect the innocent and heal this child!

ssouthernyankee · Dec 30, 2008

She's been walking a little today with my assistance to the windows. Temp has stayed down and WBC within normal range YEAH!!

sharpeimom · Dec 30, 2008

Fantastic news! Please give her a hug from our therapy dog Manfried.

He's also a pro at sloppy wet kisses...

Mannie's mom

sharpeimom:paw::paw:

ssouthernyankee · Dec 31, 2008

Fantastic news! Please give her a hug from our therapy dog Manfried.
He's also a pro at sloppy wet kisses...
Mannie's mom
sharpeimom:paw::paw:

I most certainly will.

DDRN4me · Dec 31, 2008

Continued prayers and hugs for you both. glad she was able to disclose what happened to you. it is the first step in her healing emotionally. bless you for all youre doing. mary

brick195969 · Dec 31, 2008

Psychologically speaking , don't try to solve her problems, just be there for her when she needs you and listen to her when she wants to talk, therapeutic communication is so difficult in most situations without sounding condescending or inappropriate but in this type of situation it is even harder, but it is what is needed. Bless her heart, body, mind & soul.

mommyX2 · Dec 31, 2008

I just want to thank you for what you are doing for that little girl. I was kidnapped and raped when I was nine and let me tell you she will never forget your kindness. Continue to be the rock for her during this difficult time and listen when she needs it. God bless you.

ssouthernyankee · Dec 31, 2008

I just want to thank you for what you are doing for that little girl. I was kidnapped and raped when I was nine and let me tell you she will never forget your kindness. Continue to be the rock for her during this difficult time and listen when she needs it. God bless you.

I am so sorry for what you had to endure. The reason I got so involved to begin with was at 11 something very similar happened to me at the hands of my dad. I didn't have very caring nurses they came off as being very cold and distant. At least that's how it felt to my 11 yr old mind. So I'm just trying to do everything that I wish had been done for me. I hope you are healing. Take care. Thanks again. I'm just ready to get her home where she can feel even safer and more secure with more privacy. We are doing everything we possible know to do to make this as easy on her as possible under the circumstances. And will continue to do so long after her discharge home.

OrthoFNP · Dec 31, 2008

I have been crying for the past hour as I have read each and every post. This is just the absolute most horrific yet inspiring story. I too have a very hard time dealing with the thought of people abusing children. I react physically. I commend you southernyankee for your overwhelming compassion for this very blessed little girl. You are truly her angel from heaven! I agree, there is without a doubt a very special place for you in heaven. I am overwhelmed with emotion. God bless you! I certainly do hope she blossoms and there is no doubt in my mind she will in your care. I hate to hear that you were in a similar situation but the lord works in mysterious ways. By crossing paths I bet you saved a life.

mama_d, BSN, RN · Dec 31, 2008

I haven't been able to be on in a while due to computer problems, so this is the first I've read of this journey you and your patient have been on together. I'm not a very religious person, but I do believe in God, and I think that He must have planned for someone like you to be there for her in her hour of need. I have a nine year old daughter, and I cannot even imagine what that poor little girl is going through.

I used to work PRN at an ALTC/rehab facility for peds patients; the abuse that some of those children suffered at the hands of those who were supposed to be the ones to take care of them above all else was heartbreaking. I came home every night wanting to bring half of them home with me.

Congrats on the probability of becoming her foster mother. I'd be willing to bet that she has needed someone to care for her properly for a long time, and it sounds like you'll be able to show her what parental love is supposed to be like as she heals from her ordeals.