My sisters wedding is when I'm in my 1st year of nursing school?

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I'm a senior in high school, and i'm taking pre-nursing next year, and my problem is, my sisters wedding is on my first year of nursing school, and my second one is at the end of that same year, our weddings aren't like your nice old Americans, our wedding extend up to 2 weeks long. OMG! WHAT AM I GOING TO DO? I can't not go to my sisters weddings, but I also can't not study. I'm thinking of giving up on nursing and looking for something else instead. I do't know what to do honestly, any help would be appreciated, and don't tell me don't give on your dream, please, because I can't do this to my sisters, and I can't do this to myself as well, because their weddings are important to me as well. any recommendation that will help me would be amazing. Thank you

First of all, I was reading you post I created this account just so I can answer you. you are a senior in high school, You will be taking none-sense classes for the next 2 years so relax. If a wedding is causing such stress you might want to think about college in general. how is a weeding stopping you from school? grow up!!!!!!!!!!! I mean people go to nursing school, they work 40 hours a week, they have kids, some of them are single mothers and here you are complaining about a wedding? are you freaking kidding me?

I explained the significance of the wedding in my previous comment. It holds a huge value in my culture. I hope allnurses doesn't have many people who would attack me like this.

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Specializes in Peds/Neo CCT,Flight, ER, Hem/Onc.
You might not understand how things are in my family, and my culture. Family comes first in everything me

Just a thought. You do realize that once you become a working nurse you WILL be sacrificing family time. You will have to work some holidays, you might not be able to take vacation exactly when you want and there will be no way for you to take two weeks off for any family wedding. You simply won't be accruing enough vacation time for that. Getting that much time off for your own wedding will be difficult unless you manage to bank your vacation hours for an entire year.

So for nurses there are times that, regardless of their culture, they are not able to put family first.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

Welcome to AN! The largest online nursing community!

First... ateka ....it is entirely possible to do the weddings AND go to school. I know in high school everything is so overwhelming in your last year of school. Life begins to seep into your reality and it is scary. My daughter went through this last year and my son is doing it now. It can be overwhelming at times. Trust me when I say in a year from now you will laugh at yourself and wonder why you felt this way...((HUGS))\

College is different and nursing school is very competitive. Depending on where you live and what program you choose it may take you 2 to 3 years just to get accepted into a program. You will be taking all of your prerequisites those first year or two especially if you get accepted into a BSN program (which I highly recommend hospitals are preferring BSN grads right now). Breathe it WILL be ok.

My niece lost her Dad her senior year of an accelerated BSN program, got married, graduated with honors, worked, and got a job at a prestigious hospital....it can be done. It is all about what YOU want. YOU will have to take on the responsibility of knowing to study. I'm willing to bet that you have the maturity and responsibility to do it because of your family.

Nursing prefers that their students/nurses remain anonymous...I would think about changing your avatar if that is your picture.

((HUGS))

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Welcome to AN! The largest online nursing community!

First... ateka ....it is entirely possible to do the weddings AND go to school. I know in high school everything is so overwhelming in your last year of school. Life begins to seep into your reality and it is scary. My daughter went through this last year and my son is doing it now. It can be overwhelming at times. Trust me when I say in a year from now you will laugh at yourself and wonder why you felt this way...((HUGS))\

College is different and nursing school is very competitive. Depending on where you live and what program you choose it may take you 2 to 3 years just to get accepted into a program. You will be taking all of your prerequisites those first year or two especially if you get accepted into a BSN program (which I highly recommend hospitals are preferring BSN grads right now). Breathe it WILL be ok.

My niece lost her Dad her senior year of an accelerated BSN program, got married, graduated with honors, worked, and got a job at a prestigious hospital....it can be done. It is all about what YOU want. YOU will have to take on the responsibility of knowing to study. I'm willing to bet that you have the maturity and responsibility to do it because of your family.

Nursing prefers that their students/nurses remain anonymous...I would think about changing your avatar if that is your picture.

((HUGS))

Thank you so much, I loved you immediately. I'll change my profile.

=)))

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Find a way and deal with it. It's really not a major problem or crisis. My 2 year old son got diagnosed with autism during my first year of nursing school and I survived and graduated all while having to take him to speech and other therapies 5 days a week. Good luck

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Specializes in Cardiac, Home Health, Primary Care.

Sometimes sacrifices must be made to achieve something you want. I read your comment about the significance of a wedding. Just because wedding festivities will last 2 weeks doesn't mean you have to be there every minute of it.

You might have to make some tough choices if a professor doesn't understand your situation, you wind up having a huge project due, etc. Many professors will try to work with you IF YOU TELL THEM AHEAD OF TIME....like first day of the semester. Some may not bend as much. So just be warned that it may definitely come down to you making some tough decisions. Also when you talk to your advisor about scheduling your courses tell them and they may have some suggestions.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Thank you so much, I loved you immediately. I'll change my profile.

=)))

Pm me anytime....you can do this....((HUGS))

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the most practical advice i can give you based on the information provided is to continue on your track to becoming a nurse. you dont quite know what the future holds as far as your education and while the timelines may add up in theory, have you actually BEEN accepted into this nursing program ? Something may come up between now while you're in high school, and the classes you plan to take for your prereqs, and actually apply for the program for admission.

Not saying that you should bank on being rejected or anything like that but, giving up nursing school altogether so that you can attend a 2-week event that'll intefere with coursework seems a bit..drastic to me.

The choice is yours obviously, but I've always been a "cross the bridge when i reach it" kinda guy. And the road to becoming a nurse is quite arduous, so the last thing i'd ever advise anyone would be to forgo or delay studies and coursework.

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Specializes in Rehab; Women's and Children's.

People in my nursing program survived nursing school despite all kinds of crazy life interruptions. I encountered more than my fair share of it myself. Not only did I succeed, but I excelled. Sometimes the "fire" makes you stronger. It is possible. It can be done. It is a matter of what you want. If you want to be a nurse, you can do it. If you don't want to be a nurse, then I am sure you will be able to find a career that will be very fulfilling for you. Follow your instincts. Only you can know what is best for you. Best of luck.

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You aren't going to be dealing with the weddings 24/7..I don't understand a wedding being 2 weeks but that again is something individual to the person....2 weeks versus a life career choice...like others have posted....it can be done.

Why concern yourself about something that is a year away right now? Focus on now, a LOT can change between now and then.

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Specializes in CCM, PHN.

Speaking as someone who grew up in a similar culture, where life events like weddings and babies are "supposed" to come before EVERYTHING.....I'd like to suggest that 17 or 18 years old is a FINE time to start developing your critical thinking skills that you'll need to be a good nurse anyway.

It is PERFECTLY OKAY to question your cultural practices and your family's demands and maybe re-evaluate how realistic it is for you to tailor EVERY decision you make in your life around these demands. If your cultural traditions create such barriers to you pursuing THIS dream, what other dreams will they curtail in the future? Think about it. Don't just react....THINK. Critically. At your age your identity is barely forming.....now is the time to consider what you want, what's important, and what kind of control YOU have over you as opposed to what control your CULTURE has over you.

Personally, at age 42 I am SOOOO GLAD I choose my own path and rebelled hard against most of my culture's demands. It helped me to think independently, innovatively, and creatively as a person, as a nurse and in all other areas of my life. I respect my culture's traditions, and still identify with my ethnicity.....but *I* call the shots on where it's priority is in my life. I participate in family and cultural events WHEN and HOW MUCH is appropriate for MY life, and when I choose to bow out, I do so gracefully and politely and ALWAYS send a gift and best wishes.

Think for yourself! I applaud people who rebel, think differently, buck tradition, operate off the beaten path, and promote their own independence. It takes courage and intellect to do so and you sound like you have both.

Best of luck to you!

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