My sisters wedding is when I'm in my 1st year of nursing school?

[ateka]

I'm a senior in high school, and i'm taking pre-nursing next year, and my problem is, my sisters wedding is on my first year of nursing school, and my second one is at the end of that same year, our weddings aren't like your nice old Americans, our wedding extend up to 2 weeks long. OMG! WHAT AM I GOING TO DO? I can't not go to my sisters weddings, but I also can't not study. I'm thinking of giving up on nursing and looking for something else instead. I do't know what to do honestly, any help would be appreciated, and don't tell me don't give on your dream, please, because I can't do this to my sisters, and I can't do this to myself as well, because their weddings are important to me as well. any recommendation that will help me would be amazing. Thank you

[Wrench Party]

Although I somewhat feel we're all getting trolled...

Congratulations, you'll be an adult soon! Even in college, you will be responsible for your own learning and the direction your life takes.

Your education is more important than someone else's wedding. You can arrange it to fly in for a few days, and still easily pass your nursing pre-requisites. Many of us worked though school, had families, and did well in our classes to boot.

Communicate with your professors and you'll be fine.

[suzw]

Seriously people, she is a senior in high school, so like 17 or 18. Is it really necessary to tell her she is not dedicated enough to being a nurse because of a moment of insecurity or anxiety over these two huge events? Have you not had such moments yourselves? Cut her some slack, she has probably heard nothing but horror stories of how brutal nursing school can be. On my first day of nursing school I though I would have no free time whatsoever, yet here I am on allnurses.com. That reminds me, I have a psych paper to go write...

[ateka]

Seriously people, she is a senior in high school, so like 17 or 18. Is it really necessary to tell her she is not dedicated enough to being a nurse because of a moment of insecurity or anxiety over these two huge events? Have you not had such moments yourselves? Cut her some slack, she has probably heard nothing but horror stories of how brutal nursing school can be. On my first day of nursing school I though I would have no free time whatsoever, yet here I am on allnurses.com. That reminds me, I have a psych paper to go write...

Thank you, my mom said the same thing. She wanted me to delete my account, thinking I would be discouraged. And thank you to all the beautiful comments. I'll find my way.

[ateka]

Speaking as someone who grew up in a similar culture, where life events like weddings and babies are "supposed" to come before EVERYTHING.....I'd like to suggest that 17 or 18 years old is a FINE time to start developing your critical thinking skills that you'll need to be a good nurse anyway.

It is PERFECTLY OKAY to question your cultural practices and your family's demands and maybe re-evaluate how realistic it is for you to tailor EVERY decision you make in your life around these demands. If your cultural traditions create such barriers to you pursuing THIS dream, what other dreams will they curtail in the future? Think about it. Don't just react....THINK. Critically. At your age your identity is barely forming.....now is the time to consider what you want, what's important, and what kind of control YOU have over you as opposed to what control your CULTURE has over you.

Personally, at age 42 I am SOOOO GLAD I choose my own path and rebelled hard against most of my culture's demands. It helped me to think independently, innovatively, and creatively as a person, as a nurse and in all other areas of my life. I respect my culture's traditions, and still identify with my ethnicity.....but *I* call the shots on where it's priority is in my life. I participate in family and cultural events WHEN and HOW MUCH is appropriate for MY life, and when I choose to bow out, I do so gracefully and politely and ALWAYS send a gift and best wishes.

Think for yourself! I applaud people who rebel, think differently, buck tradition, operate off the beaten path, and promote their own independence. It takes courage and intellect to do so and you sound like you have both.

Best of luck to you!

EXACTLY! each time a reply better than the one before appears. Thank you for the wonderful reply.

[JoseQuinones]

You CAN make it work, as others have said.

At the same time, get used to the idea that nursing school will be your life till you graduate. You will not have much of a social life. That is the sacrifice you must make to become the educated professional you want to be. If your family is like mine (we are a big, happy, boisterous, messy, noisy Hispanic one divided between Puerto Rico, the Domincan Republic, and the USA) they will understand and love you anyway. I have had to skip a few family reunions, fiestas navideñas, wedding rehearsals, quinceañeras, etc. That's nursing school.