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Oh, Linda, I am so sorry to hear this! My prayers and deepest sympathy are with you. I shall keep you in my prayers through this holiday season. It sounds like Brent went very peacefully, I'm glad you were there. And isn't it wonderful that you were able to have those 5 years together? I don't know what else to say except I'm sorry it wasn't much, much longer. And I didn't know he was ill.
Jenny P
Linda, the story of how you two met as teens and married later is touching. Appears to be the love of a lifetime. I cannot possibly know how you feel, but I'm sensitive to your post above and offer my sympathy {{{{and hugs}}}}}} during your time of sorrow.
One day at a time. Allnurses.com is here 24/7 if you need to talk.
Linda, I remember too reading your posts earlier. I am so touched by your story. Death is so hard for everyone involved but it can be peaceful like you described. I got goosebumps when I read about the sensation you felt in your hands as your husband passed away. thank you for sharing your story. God Bless You,
So wonderful to have found him again and to have had 5 years together.(((Linda))) May God keep you in the palm of his hand this holiday season, I can't imagine your sorrow. I hope you have a good support system, family and friends, near for lots of hugs and shoulders if you need to cry. deb
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Well it happened. After 6 mos of chemo for colon cancer, that was metastisizing to his liver all along, my dear Brent slipped into a coma Nov2, and died, Nov 8th, at the age of 47.. We met when we were teenagers. As we got older we went our separate ways, then we became re-united 25 years later, all because I had a dream about him, and acted upon it by phoning him up. It was love at first sight, again. We had five great years together. When we found out the cancer had spread to his liver, in that week we did the wills, arranged the memorial service, andgot married in our living room.We were going to get married after he recovered from his chemo, but of course had to speed things up a bit. But, the good news is I nursed him 24/7, and when he died it was in our bed, in my arms. I had just turned him, there was no mottling, his resps were easy, his extremities warm to touch, I snuggled up to him, kissed him, told him I loved him. I put my hand over his chest, feeling how strong and regular his heart rate was, then, his heart just stopped. There was no cheyne -stokes, nothing. Talk about a gentle peaceful passing. As he went, I felt a tingling sensation in my hand, which was laying on his chest. I get that sensation every now and then. It hits me head to toe, and then I get goosebumps. Maybe Brent is visiting me.I am trying to get through Christmas unscathed. It is a moment by moment process. Just wanted to let those of you who knew of my situation, know what has happened. Linda:o