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We have unit debriefings that are voluntary. Usually everyone who was involved in the surgery shows up. I haven't witnessed any peds deaths, but two patients I've had to ship out following emergency surgery didn't make it at the other hospital. That was hard enough. I can't imagine how bad it would be to actually witness.
I have had a few friends who work at another hospital I used to be in, who worked on a 2 year old who died as a result of severe child abuse. They have seen councelers as a result and have PTSD. Its definatly not something to just brush aside hoping it will get better. You should go and talk to someone professionally.
I'm sorry to hear that you had this experience. i don't think anyone is really equipped to take the traumatic loss of a child in stride. I know what you mean too about the media blitz not making it any easier, especially if you live in an area where this is big, ongoing news that gets drawn out (ie tearful pictures of the funeral and whatnot) Stress debriefing should be made available to whomever was on shift and encouraged by your dept manager. I've always found that talking is somewhat helpful to a point -it goes from helpful to a point of people just looking for the gory details - and that's just unnecessary, so i've also found that writing is helpful. That way i can get out what i need to and i can control the content.
I have been a nurse for a long time, and have seen my fair share of traumas, deaths, and unspeakable disasters.I witnessed my first pedi death a couple of weeks ago during a trauma.
Usually, it takes me a couple of weeks to digest and come to terms with a traumatic event, be it personal or professional.
I have had nightmares every night since I experienced this horrible event. The news broadcasts of this child's death has only made my heart weep more.
To all the pedi nurses out there: how do you cope with this?
What you are experiencing is a normal reaction to trauma. Make sure you're taking care of yourself-eating right, drinking water, taking time to relax, spending time w/loved ones, etc. I know that seems minor, but believe me that helps. Focusing on what you can control is helpful.
Also, I encourage you to seek out an EAP (Employee Assistance Program). A lot of employers offer this service. It is free and confidential. I find it helpful to talk to a professional to sort out all the overwhelming feelings.
Most important, give yourself time to heal. Know that you did everything you could.
I wish you the best. I've been there many times. (((hugs)))
Please, definitely take advantage of debriefing and any legitimate counseling. I speak from experience. This is not something you will just be able to shake off. When it's ugly, it's even harder.
As horrific as it is, remember that the child's suffering is over. For the family and others . .well, that's another story. No "Eazy Pass" on this one.
Hug your kids, grand kids, nieces, nephews, kittens and puppies close. I know it sounds strange to some, but my puppies are so comforting--that and my faith, and close loved ones and friends.
I think grief counseling is a good thing--and you can't always share this grief with your family members. Sometimes yes, and sometimes no. Some people are not emotionally strong enough to be really supportive on a deeper level, which you may need right now. A good counselor should be prepared to hear you open up about it.
canesdukegirl, BSN, RN
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I have been a nurse for a long time, and have seen my fair share of traumas, deaths, and unspeakable disasters.
I witnessed my first pedi death a couple of weeks ago during a trauma.
Usually, it takes me a couple of weeks to digest and come to terms with a traumatic event, be it personal or professional.
I have had nightmares every night since I experienced this horrible event. The news broadcasts of this child's death has only made my heart weep more.
To all the pedi nurses out there: how do you cope with this?