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Well I missed class due to dropping off bf at work. We can only miss 12 hours in 2 semesters and then your out I feel doomed now. He knew the rules of class he knows I'll be kicked out. What if my car breaks down or a flat tire I'm so depressed any advice.

Ongoing to tell him I want to be at least 15 to 20 min early we are going to have a long discussion tonight:sneaky:

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Your bf is not going to nursing school, you are. In the case of most people, he looks out for himself, it is your responsibility to put your own priorities first. Get booted from nursing school and all you will have to worry about at that time of day is providing him with transportation. He won't mind.

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Yep he shows that with his actions not just making me late but other things as well forgive me but its like a curtain over his eyes but I've met alot of men like that I think its how they are raised

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Yep he shows that with his actions not just making me late but other things as well forgive me but its like a curtain over his eyes but I've met alot of men like that I think its how they are raised

No that's not how men are raised. Part of it is you letting him get away with behavior you don't find acceptable.

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Yep he shows that with his actions not just making me late but other things as well forgive me but its like a curtain over his eyes but I've met alot of men like that I think its how they are raised

If this is true, then why is he your boyfriend?

And no, that's not "just how men are raised." MEN know how to support the interests and needs of their beloved, and true love is both sacrificial and reciprocal. Example: while my husband was deployed to Afghanistan, I made sure he had to worry about nothing else except getting through his tour safe and alive. I took care of everything at home. When he came back, I supported him through his MBA program. But for years before that, he supported me and our kids alone, on one paycheck, so that I could be the stay at home mom I needed and wanted to be. And now, I swear, he's almost more determined than I am to get me through the LPN program whenever I get to start.

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Chile please.

1)Get a man with a car OR a bus pass.

2) tell him you will drop him off an hour early or he find his own way

3) call his mama

Its really not that hard. Your priorities are YOURS. Before I bought my motorcycle I woke up at 4am to walk to work for a 6:45 to 11:15 shift everyday.

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Well I missed class due to dropping off bf at work. We can only miss 12 hours in 2 semesters and then your out I feel doomed now. He knew the rules of class he knows I'll be kicked out. What if my car breaks down or a flat tire I'm so depressed any advice.

Dear smmctowelie69,

"Well, I missed class due to dropping off bf at work"

In the above statement, you've placed all of the blame for missing class on the action 'dropping off bf at work'.

Then you continue on to say "He knew the rules of class, he knows I'll be kicked out."

In those two statements, you have made it clear to the majority who read your post that you have claimed absolutely zero culpability for being late for class. However, it was You who made the conscious decision to get in the car, drive it down the road, take your 'boy friend' ( with friends like that, you don't need enemies ) to work with the knowledge that you would be late for class.

I think you demonstrate a 'victim mentality'. Victims tend to see the control and responsibility for their situations as belonging to others, i.e. the bad things that happen to them are always someone else's fault. This is a destructive mindset, as not only does the victim feel negatively about their current situation, but they also feel powerless to change it.

I think you need to be supported in your effort to further your education, not undermined. You deserve to succeed in your attempts to better educate yourself and become a better person. You do NOT deserve to have someone undermine that effort, and that includes both You AND your "boyfriend".

Someone who truly loves you and wants the best for you is NOT going to place your future in jeopardy by delaying your departure from the house while they look for their lighter. This "boyfriend" could have taken YOU to class and then drove himself to work. A multitude of things can be done to prevent this from happening again. Just be sure that you don't become your own worst enemy. Believe that you can succeed. Start by cultivating better friendships with your peers. These people are your support group while you are in school. You are all in the same boat together. Learn from and help each other. You deserve to succeed.

Best of wishes in your future.

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Ongoing to tell him I want to be at least 15 to 20 min early we are going to have a long discussion tonight:sneaky:

In all honesty, I would be at least 30 minutes early. It gives time for parking, talking, getting relaxed, etc. Oh,and I gota run to the bathroom. All sorts of things. The best is a little study group with the other classmates.

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Yeah he's gonna start getting up earlier sleep deprived or not he knows how important this is to me as for the car breaking down I don't know what I'm gonna do about that. I'm getting some tires put on today to make sure I don't have a blow out.

He knows, but it's not his responsibility. Hence, not his worry. His worry is getting to work. And he did complete his goal.

Did you understand what I said?

It's harsh, but it's reality that we all must deal with. We have to do, what we have to do. He did it. You did not. Take it as a much needed lesson learned. Cause you have more going on then just needing to get to school on time. What about study time? Is his needs encroaching on study time?

He might not have been taking the rules seriously, but he should now. Which includes realizing your need to increased study time to make A's and B's. Which means taking over more of the house hold responsibilities. If he is going to stay with you, he will benefit from your success. If he isn't, then it doesn't matter if your succeed.

Since no one really knows the out come of a dating relationship, it's best to continue to look out for your own self. He did that, his job is secure. I sure hope he at least helps with gas and up keep on the car.

It is ok to put yourself first. Set rules and don't feel guilty if you have to leave him to figure out his own way to work. State what you can do, and if he can't be ready at that time, or don't want to get to work early,etc.. then it is up to him to solve that problem. And he will. But don't let the situation guilt you. His choices should not make you feel guilty. You can only help so much.

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No he don't help with car and next time he's going to be left to call a cab or calling his manager for a ride. Lol

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No he don't help with car and next time he's going to be left to call a cab or calling his manager for a ride. Lol

He should be reimbursing you for gas if it is your car

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He should be reimbursing you for gas if it is your car

She can't get him to leave the house on time, do you really think she'll be able to get gas money out of him??

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