missed class

duskyjewel · Sep 10, 2014

That's good, and I hope he is sincere. Because a guy who is willing to torpedo your future over a lighter is someone no one needs for a boyfriend. I think you should establish a time you agree upon as the absolute latest you will leave. If he doesn't abide by it, then he loses your driving services. And only one more chance.

Why can't he carpool with someone from work? Usually people are pretty willing to help someone out, especially if they chip in a fair amount for gas money.

How many miles is it from home to work? Is biking an option?

smmctowelie69 · Sep 10, 2014

No it is a good ways out I think next time he's gonna get left and he'll have to find a ride

kbrn2002, ADN, RN · Sep 11, 2014

Yipes! 4 minutes late and counted as an absence? That's harsh! Sorry that happened to you. As I am sure you are well aware, you certainly can't afford to be even a minute late again. Nerve racking, but definitely doable as long as you plan your commute allowing a little extra time for traffic and parking.

smmctowelie69 · Sep 11, 2014

Yeah he's gonna start getting up earlier sleep deprived or not he knows how important this is to me as for the car breaking down I don't know what I'm gonna do about that. I'm getting some tires put on today to make sure I don't have a blow out.

RobBSNRN · Sep 11, 2014

4 minutes late = go home and pretend like you never came at all?

Really?... I'm having a very hard time believing that. Never heard of such a thing through my experience in HS/BSN RN school/grad school/ anything I've ever heard from colleagues.

This professor sounds like a lunatic if this is true. I'd go to the Dean if you end up getting the boot because 4 minutes late means you should be docked 4 minutes from the 12 hours to miss.

So yes you should be early for class but god going to school is hard enough without that kind of anxiety added on top.

duskyjewel · Sep 11, 2014

It does seem crazy, but it's probably a tactic that, as my husband puts it, weeds out the unserious.

NurseGirl525, ASN, RN · Sep 11, 2014

I would have left his butt at home. Looking for a lighter? Sorry that excuse doesn't fly in my book and probably not your professors. I would have been like you need to be ready by such and such a time if your not too bad. Then while he was looking for his lighter, I would have left. Simple as that. You need to prioritize your life, not your boyfriends.

duskyjewel · Sep 11, 2014

Especially when....

He messed around looking for a lighter even though he had one.

CT Pixie, BSN, RN · Sep 11, 2014

In my LPN schooling, we were only allowed a certain number of 'absences' per mod (comparable to a semester but a bit longer). If you missed more than the max they allowed, you were thrown out and had to wait until the next class started the class you were thrown out of (could be anywhere from 3-9 months).

They took attendance each and every class. The way it worked..we had first period then a 5 min break, then we went back to 2nd period (which may or may not be the same class that 1st period was)..this went on all day. If you were even ONE minute late for class, you were marked absent. I can't remember the 'formula' but being late/absent for one period did not equal a whole day. They did not throw you out for the day and send you home though. You could stay and listen and participate in the lecture. *unless you maxed out your allowable absences* My school demanded attendance and punctuality.

smmctowelie69 · Sep 11, 2014

Yes it does make my anxiety worse makes me feel depressed however he's going to have to make some changes school is more important to me nursing is my life that's all I've known my future depends on me being to class even if I'm 15 min early. Lol

duskyjewel · Sep 11, 2014

smmctowelie69, what will you do, though, if he doesn't make the changes? So many young women let themselves get derailed by hanging on to men who aren't worthy of them....

SionainnRN · Sep 11, 2014

Yes it does make my anxiety worse makes me feel depressed however he's going to have to make some changes school is more important to me nursing is my life that's all I've known my future depends on me being to class even if I'm 15 min early. Lol

15 min early is being on time. I don't know your age or life experiences but showing up at 9 for a 9 am anything doesn't equal being on time. Always aim for being 10-15 min early to everything and you'll find a lot of your anxiety about being late will disappear. I'm chronically early and I can't tell you how many times it's saved my butt because of unforeseen circumstances like traffic and parking.