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Well I missed class due to dropping off bf at work. We can only miss 12 hours in 2 semesters and then your out I feel doomed now. He knew the rules of class he knows I'll be kicked out. What if my car breaks down or a flat tire I'm so depressed any advice.

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I'm sorry, but you should be a big girl about it. He can't find his lighter? Too bad, this car leaves at "such and such" time. You want a ride? Then you leave when I say, or find anther ride. My husband would be responsible for his own actions, as I am responsible for mine. I couldn't even fathom explaining to my professor "ohhh ya sorry I was late but my boyfriend couldn't find his lighter?! So can you make an exception for me?"

Ugh! That's like the people that walk in 30 minutes late, with an entire breakfast, then proceed to get it out and make a 5 course spread while they are teaching. Guess what happens when you are late? You screw over the nurse who just pulled a double AND you get fired. School is your JOB!

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Once again I ask...why is this guy your boyfriend? Don't you have any standards? Have you ever really even thought about that? What do you deserve?

I'm gonna get really blunt here, so fair warning. Since you live with him, I assume you have sex with him. But it's clear he has no regard or respect for you. He sabotaged you getting to school (with your cooperation) and he feels perfectly entitled to the benefit of your car without contributing anything toward gas or upkeep. One of your other posts indicates that there are more issues pertaining to his selfishness. He uses your resources for his convenience, and he's using your body for his pleasure. Do you think he'll man up should you get pregnant? What exactly do you GET FROM this relationship? Seems he's getting a lot, and you're putting in a lot, and getting almost nothing in return. Why are you willing to allow that?

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I had an ex like that. He said he wanted me to go to school & further my career but in reality he did any & everything to sabotage me. Always remember, actions speak louder than words. Don't be afraid to be on your own. I know it maybe scary but the people in your nursing class can be your friends. You don't need drama like that while you're in nursing school. School is stressful enough!

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Don't be afraid to be on your own.

:yes:

To quote Billy Joel:

People tell you, you can't sleep alone in a new place. Then they'll tell you, you can't sleep with somebody else. Ah, but sooner or later you sleep in your own space. Either way, it's okay, you wake up with yourself.

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Honestly you need to let your boyfriend know that you are not available to drive him on days you have classes. Or you can drop him off an hour or so early so you can get to class. We all have other commitments and I know it's hard, but nursing school is a no nonsense environment.

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Although it may sound harsh, late is late. One minute or one hour past your starting time is still late. Walking in a class after it has started can be disruptive and something many professors will not and should not have to tolerate. They make the rules and it's their class. Employers won't tolerate chronic tardiness either.

Oh, I bet boyfriend was on time for work. You cannot leave too early at this point since you can't afford to be late. Get boyfriend a watch with an alarm.

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Get boyfriend a watch with an alarm.

Since he's not even paying for gas, make him buy it himself.

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Well what's done is done nothing can change me missing 6 hours just have to make sure we are in the car by 7 am it is what it is

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Well what's done is done nothing can change me missing 6 hours just have to make sure we are in the car by 7 am it is what it is

No, it's not "it is what it is". You can do something about it. Leave him to find another ride, leave him at home, break up with him & most importantly PUT YOU FIRST!!!

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Whoa whoa whoa I think this thread has gotten out of hand I wish I could shut it down in not leaving him stuff happens and now we know that if it takes getting him up earlier to have time to get going then fine I can't take back what's already happened in docked 6 hours suck it up and keep pushing foward

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And yes lesson learned thank you everyone for your replies:)

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Telling her to break up with him is premature. If he keeps acting immature, then think about it. But do give him a chance.

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