I am in an acclerated nursing program with 24 students. Only 2 are male. The problem...clicks...and gossip...and general cattiness.
I have to admit, I did fall into the gossip click after my new BFF decided to date one of the two males, leaving me without a lab partner, or buddy to hang with. The gossip girls are a large group of 10, and one of their mother's teach part of our program. I tried to distance myself and told one of the victim's of their gossip that they were talking about everyone...she decided to confront them..IN CLASS, 10 minutes before a major test. OMG. Of course, everyone knew it was me. Now, I am the evil one. They all hate me and the girl I told thinks I am crazy because I tried to lie and cover it up...I know...honesty is the best policy. I sent the whole class an appology via email saying I was sorry for ever taking part...blah blah....
But, now I have a WHOLE year with these girls. I just want to quit. The gossip girls are not gonna stop, and now I am the devil. HELP.
First, you said you were in an accelerated program. So that's post-bachelor's, making the youngest person in the class...what? 22? I would sincerely hope that someone this age or older would be more mature, but I know that is asking too much. As the last poster said, in an accelerated program how could you have the time or energy to even care about rumors or gossip. Don't they have better things to do with themselves?
Sadly, it seems to be a theme for many nurses to act immaturely and unprofessionally. I see it at work all the time. So they don't outgrow it after school is out. Perhaps it is the drama of illness and death and emergencies that draws them to healthcare, and it is this same lust for drama that leads them to create it in their personal life. I don't know and I don't care, but I really wish they would cut it out.
Sadly, this is why I seriously considered not going into nursing or even healthcare for that matter. Learn your lesson and don't be a part of it anymore in life.
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hi erchick85,
age is just a number. you'd be surprised by the number of immature adult-aged women, i went to school with, and work with. many women, love to gossip. there is nothing more, that i hate then men who gossip. that is just a turn off. unfortunately, i've come across a few.
re: don't they have better things to do with themselves?
I don't and never will understand this sort of thing and hope I won't run into it in my courses. (I just started last week.) We're all adults and I hope everyone will act that way. I have no desire to do anything other than learn and it would be great if I got to know people along the way but my #1 priority is to learn. I'll gladly be friends with everyone. Wish everybody else was that way!
That stinks because the other students are really the only ones who know what you will be going through while in the program. You will probably see them more than any of your family or friends. Atleast you apologized and you will be so busy the year will fly by. You learned a big lesson and I'm sure you won't do that when you start working. Gossiping was one of the topics our professors actually discussed. Besides if those people have time to gossip during nursing school they probably aren't too serious about learning and probably won't make it to the end of the year!
I am in an acclerated nursing program with 24 students. Only 2 are male. The problem...clicks...and gossip...and general cattiness.
I have to admit, I did fall into the gossip click after my new BFF decided to date one of the two males, leaving me without a lab partner, or buddy to hang with. The gossip girls are a large group of 10, and one of their mother's teach part of our program. I tried to distance myself and told one of the victim's of their gossip that they were talking about everyone...she decided to confront them..IN CLASS, 10 minutes before a major test. OMG. Of course, everyone knew it was me. Now, I am the evil one. They all hate me and the girl I told thinks I am crazy because I tried to lie and cover it up...I know...honesty is the best policy. I sent the whole class an appology via email saying I was sorry for ever taking part...blah blah....
But, now I have a WHOLE year with these girls. I just want to quit. The gossip girls are not gonna stop, and now I am the devil. HELP.
Clique. It's clique, not "click".
And sorry but this just sounds sooo high school. It's really best to stay our of it. Not sure what you intended to accomplish with running to the girl. Not your business.
There are 3 girls that sit together in our class that did an externship at the same hospital I did this summer.
During orientation...through 5 DAYS of orientation...these same 3 girls sat at another table and didn't even speak to me...again, for 5 days and we are in the same classes!
They wouldn't even speak to me in the cafeteria.
So, call me catty, mean, rude, nasty, childish (at least I'll admit it!)...on the first day of class, these girls sat right behind me and one of them made a point to say, "Hey, how did your externship go this summer?"
I said, "Well, if you had bothered to speak to me at the hospital whenever I saw you for the last 10 weeks, you would know the answer to that question, now wouldn't you?"
I just turned around and enjoyed the quick glance of the jaw I saw drop open.
I can't STAND people like that. Yes, there are people in the class that I don't like, but am always nice to everyone and I always speak to them where ever I see them, even Walmart.
Oh my gosh. Let's get real people. Now we have people all upset because someone didn't speak to them??? SO FRICKIN WHAT?!?! Grow up and get over it! You are supposed to be adults! :banghead:
Can't say that I've never been roped into these situations and that I will never be again. However, I really do not care about what what goes on in most people's lives, the drama, I mean. I'm at an age where I have a better grasp on what needs my attention the most. Having said that, I am a bit thin skinned and I always get shocked when people treat others like crap just because.
Oh my gosh. Let's get real people. Now we have people all upset because someone didn't speak to them??? SO FRICKIN WHAT?!?! Grow up and get over it! You are supposed to be adults! :banghead:
If you live in a large city, no one pays any attention.
When you live in a small, rural community where people give directions based on where other people live b/c everyone knows everyone...then you would know exactly how rude this is considered.
You would have to live in a community like this to truly understand.
Oh my gosh. Let's get real people. Now we have people all upset because someone didn't speak to them??? SO FRICKIN WHAT?!?! Grow up and get over it! You are supposed to be adults! :banghead:
Acknowledging others is an important aspect of society. We may not always like each other, but it's important for us to acknowledge each other's existence and recognize that we are valued.
How are adults supposed to feel? As I've progressed through life, I've discovered that old assumptions of adult behavior have been challenged as I've entered roles of increasing leadership. Seek first to understand and then to be understood.
Even within the subject of delivering culturally sensitive care, nurses are challenged with first knowing themselves and their biases.
It's important for us to know how we feel, then to recognize why we feel the way that we do. This helps us in the nursing profession.
I am in an acclerated nursing program with 24 students. Only 2 are male. The problem...clicks...and gossip...and general cattiness.
I have to admit, I did fall into the gossip click after my new BFF decided to date one of the two males, leaving me without a lab partner, or buddy to hang with. The gossip girls are a large group of 10, and one of their mother's teach part of our program. I tried to distance myself and told one of the victim's of their gossip that they were talking about everyone...she decided to confront them..IN CLASS, 10 minutes before a major test. OMG. Of course, everyone knew it was me. Now, I am the evil one. They all hate me and the girl I told thinks I am crazy because I tried to lie and cover it up...I know...honesty is the best policy. I sent the whole class an appology via email saying I was sorry for ever taking part...blah blah....
But, now I have a WHOLE year with these girls. I just want to quit. The gossip girls are not gonna stop, and now I am the devil. HELP.
Lesson number one: You should have kept your mouth SHUT! What did you expect to accomplish by telling that unneccessary info to the girls who were being gossiped about?
Lesson number two: You are there to become a nurse, not make friends. If you happen to make some life-long friends in the end, that's a plus.
Lesson number three: You should be focused on YOUR own life and journey in nursing school, not everybody else.
I can not stand a gossip. Maybe because I used to work with several of them who can't stand to see somebody else get promoted or something good to happen to them. Then, they try their damnest to ruin it for you. Thing I learned from this experience to keep my mouth SHUT regarding my personal life. I still apply this rule now, and I'm in my last year of nursing school. There is gossip all around, but I choose not to participate in it. I am there for one reason only, and that's to become a nurse. I simply don't have time or energy to get all involved in things that don't concern me.
I hope you take the advice you have been given here on this board and apply it to your life. You may not find yourself in this type of situation again.
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I'm in an accelerated bachelors program right now and I honestly can't imagine anyone even having time to gossip, lol.