MEOW! Catty nursing students

Jolie, BSN · Aug 23, 2008

I... told one of the victim's of their gossip that they were talking about everyone...she decided to confront them..IN CLASS, 10 minutes before a major test. OMG. Of course, everyone knew it was me. Now, I am the evil one. I just want to quit. The gossip girls are not gonna stop, and now I am the devil.

You learned a very important lesson. If the pressures of school and the nuttiness of your classmates' immaturity get to the point where you just have to share with someone, call your mother or sister. They don't know these people and will never have the opportunity to share any of your vents with them.

Otherwise, keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself. Don't think you are doing anyone favors by letting them know that others are talking about them. (They were talking about you too, only you didn't know it at the time.)

This too, shall pass. Keep out of the drama, and by next week, your high-school mentality classmates will have moved on to another target.

School, work, life, etc. are too short and too full of important issues to be bothered by this kind of juvenile melodrama.

Hoping2beRN, BSN, RN · Aug 23, 2008

Sorry to hear this! I've been there before. In one of my other programs I got blamed for being the one talking about people because the girls that actually did were trying to cover their tracks. It was a LONG 18 months.

Good luck

Miss_Piggy.RN · Aug 23, 2008

Never, ever talk about school or about work with you colleagues. I made that mistake once and I got fired....

When I was in the elementary school I was bit by my classmates (girls) because the teacher said I am a liar (long story and still painful even though it was 20 years ago :cry: it still makes cry.)

But now I am tough girl and I know about that rule. Also, I know that nothing can change your attitude if you want make your dream comes true. Don't quit! Maybe it will be hard but if you wanna be a nurse you have to be tough :) It won't be the first time when you will be put in uncomfortable situation. And it won't matter if it will be your fault or not.

DON'T QUIT :)

pirello77 · Aug 24, 2008

I am sorry for your experience! I know how it can be. I just keep my mouth shut and do what I need to do. I do not understand it but it is there.

I wish you the best! :hgu:

Chantilly · Aug 24, 2008

Just don't quit whatever you do!!! You are in this to better yourself, to do something you want to do, and the only person that is going to help you achieve your goals is you. So like the others have said lay low, stick to yourself and be the loaner. Afterall these classmates don't sound like people you are going to want to maintain friendships with after you graduate! Best of luck to you!!

amarilla, RN · Aug 24, 2008

I worked in the finance sector before going back to school and pursuing nursing school. I was one of few women in my department. The pace was non-stop, the work never ending, and the climate of the office? Cutthroat. Everyone wanted your desk, your title, your bonus, your clients. I was so stressed the first year in corporate that I considered dropping out altogether to move back home and teach riding lessons. :rolleyes:

That is...until an older broker asked me why I expected to develop as a person at work, make friends or otherwise have pleasantness there. I thought his approach was cold until I realized that he was right! I wasn't there to make friends, get to know everyone, or establish lasting relationships. I was there to work - only my work and what my boss thought of it mattered.

I apply this same logic to most things nowadays, (nearly ten years later.) I'm one of the friendliest people you'd meet, and I'll bend over backwards to help someone...but when there is something to be done, I'm not worried about what others are thinking of me or if they want to be my friend. OP, I hate to sound harsh and I know how upsetting it is to be in a hostile environment, but you have to worry about yourself first and foremost. You've earned your spot in that school - don't let these people and their negativity drag you down or influence your reason to be there...

to successfully earn your RN.

Eye on the prize! Ignore the jackals and don't let them pick you apart.

Best,

Southern

chevyv, BSN, RN · Aug 24, 2008

Good advice osouthern! I too, like alot of people, can get caught up easily in idle chit chat and gossip. I am learning to stop and walk away when I hear others talking about someone. I find I am much happier and am more willing to go out of my way to help others than I was when other peoples opinions were out there. Those gals will keep on and you just don't pay them any attention or dwell on them. Your only goal there is to become a nurse! You have allnurses.com to vent and come for support :loveya:

bekindtokittens · Aug 24, 2008

I've been in a situation like this. It's easy to get sucked in. Just hold your head high and keep on going to school. It will blow over.

No, they won't ever stop talking about you, but they'd be talking about you whether this incident happened or not. They're talking about everyone else, too.

Just remind yourself that when school is over, you'll never have to see them again. Be strong and have confidence in yourself.

MarAshJoe · Aug 24, 2008

Never, ever talk about school or about work with you colleagues. I made that mistake once and I got fired....
When I was in the elementary school I was bit by my classmates (girls) because the teacher said I am a liar (long story and still painful even though it was 20 years ago it still makes cry.)
But now I am tough girl and I know about that rule. Also, I know that nothing can change your attitude if you want make your dream comes true. Don't quit! Maybe it will be hard but if you wanna be a nurse you have to be tough :) It won't be the first time when you will be put in uncomfortable situation. And it won't matter if it will be your fault or not.
DON'T QUIT :)

You were bit by your classmates because the teacher said you were a liar?

dorselm · Aug 24, 2008

You know how a girl can dress permiscuous(sp?) and have a bad reputation but then someone sets her straight and she starts to dress and behave more appropriately and change her reputation? That's what can happen to you if you promise to stay out of the gossip. This too shall pass. Just remember why you are at school. None of those girls are paying your tuition and none of those girls are gonna grant you your RN so what they say and do should be of no concern to you. So when you see the cacklin hens busy gossiping just thank the Lord its not you and that you have enough sense to mind your own business and do what you have to do to get to where you need to be!

suanna · Aug 24, 2008

I'm not sure what you expected- gossip is common in nursing and every other group I've ever been in. I've been the target of gossip, and, although I don't like my behavior, I have been the purveyor of gossip. It is an understood rule that if you participate in the "gossip session", even as a listener, you are hearing theose peoples' opinions in confidence. Telling your classmate what was being discussed was just underhanded. If you don't like the cattiness it's OK to take the high road and say " I prefer not to gossip about people, it's unkind and immature". It may even win you some respect and cause people to consider thier own actions, but it is pretty low to participate in the session and then tattle to the target- That's just stirring the pot and trying to cause trouble. I hope your classmates are mature enough to let it be water under the bridge but I wouldn't count on it. Now you have a very disrupted enviornment to work in, in addition to the rigors of nursing school.