So I had a female co-worker tell me the other day that she was sick and tired of these physicians treating myself and the other male nurses with camaraderie and respect while they don't share that same behavior with her or the other female nurses.
I began to think about it, to see if I noticed any difference in interaction between myself and the MD's. Firstly, I've never been "yelled" at by an MD, or even demeaned like I've seen done to some other nurses. Usually my opinion is respected and considered in the conversation. Typically I have great rapport with the providers and often we engage in social conversation about personal lives, politics, travel etc.
With the female nurses I observed to see if I noticed the same interaction. I feel like I did see a lot of the same relationship, maybe slightly different. I actually noticed that a few nurses seemed to create a barrier between themselves and the doctor with a subservient attitude, "yes doctor" "anything you want doctor" "do you want my seat doctor" "can I get you the chart doctor". I also heard quite a few nurses say things like "but I'm just the nurse, what do I know" and other demeaning things about themselves.
I never demean myself or make myself seem insignificant to the healthcare team. If you don't present yourself as knowledgable and relevant to the team you really can't blame the doctor for not treating you as an equal.
Then you have the relationship between the female doctors. They're another level of complexity. Add on the foreign doctors from countries where females are considered inferior to the healthcare mix just to make things more confusing.
So my question to all of you is this, is the relationship different in your opinion if you're a male nurse or female nurse and is it because of the actual genitals you possess or is it the behavior we exhibit?