LPN student needing to vent about family

Truly_Blessed · May 19, 2004

ooooh man, I don't know what to tell you. I have yet to go through it. But I will be one of the lucky ones starting in August. You say it's your last semster...so hold on, it's almost over:) You probably need to get out the house this weekend. WITHOUT your fiance and kids. Do something for yourself that will have you refreshed and ready to dive back in. I don't know...I feel for you.

txspadequeenRN, BSN, RN · May 19, 2004

i know exactly what you are talking about. i have 5 children 2 teens and 3 toddlers and one dumb *** husband. i am fixin to start the lvn to rn bridge and all day long it's "mommy mommy" or "hun wheres my shoes" it just never stops. if my toddlers are not dancing on the table they are emptying out my cabinets. i have one who runs out the front door every chance she gets and one who loves to open my upright freezer and dump all the contents. this is from 8 am to 11 pm ( they are not on the same sleep schedual). and we do not have a babysitter plus i work 44 hours a week as a lvn and my husband is a full time engineering student. i have a house that should be shut down by the health dept( i do clean it about 3 times a day) . just have a good cry everyday and drink when needed that is the only way i have gotten this far.

......its last semester...i am going out of my mind. dishes are dirty, laundry is behind..........kids driving me nuts, fiance wanna punch him....will these feelings ever go away???? i feel like i am going off the deep end.....how do i end this? lol tell me it will go away please tell me..its always "mommy this" and mommy that or chelle this or chelle that just as i am studing for a test over 4 chapters...ugh help me vent! pleasssssssssssssseeeeeeee :angryfire
....lpn student going nuts.....

reyna · May 19, 2004

prioritize first rule in nursing

Jayonoway · May 19, 2004

My best advice: learn to say "no". Explain to the ones who comprehend that you're really busy...and that they need to help YOU. Too often we Mom's put ourselves last. I had to learn that when I went thru school. My three girls were ages 8, 11 & 14 and hubby was deployed overseas. Usually I was the taximom, maidmom, chefmom, entertainmemom ect. :rolleyes: ...I sat them all down, stated the facts and stuck to it. I made up a schedule, everyone pitched in. My 8 y/0 learned to load the dishwasher, take out the trash, start a load of laundry, make her own bed ect...and the two older two really took on alot more responsibilities. For their activities, practices, games ect...I begged & borrowed for rides. I just explained that I was in nursing school and needed help. Helping is one of the foremost characteristics of human nature. Usually once you ask, people are more than willing to help. Once I finished school I returned the favors! Don't be afraid to ask, let your honey know you are fed up and need help, NOW.

Best of luck!

HisTreasure, BSN, RN · May 21, 2004

I haven't started yet, but I am already frustrated. My husband is out of work, and my kids are in daycare all day... so it should be easy, right? No! The house will stay a mess if I don't clean it, we will starve if I don't cook, the kids will get infections if I don't give them their baths, my husband will be dirty if I don't do the laundry, my kids will be too late for breakfast at daycare if I don't wake them up: get them dressed: get the diaper bag packed, and my 6 month old son will wake up his sisters if I don't get up at 4 AM to give him a sip of milk. I tell my DH, "Look, I start school soon, and I really am going to need you to do more around the house." He says, "Sure hon, of course!" But he can't even help now, when I'm around to pitch in and do teamwork! :angryfire

Lord, please tell me I can do this. Please don't let this be the precursor to a life of immobilizing stress and premature gray hair!

MereSanity · May 21, 2004

I am in for it starting this fall too. Just starting (LPN). 4 boys ages 5-9. Hubby is great but it will be hard (duh). Good luck to everyone and stay in touch as I am sure we will need to vent very soon. :)

Energizer Bunny · May 22, 2004

I hear ya'll. If it's like this for me every day now..how is it going to be in the fall? OIY! it's like they can't survive without me for two minutes! I found my first few grey hairs this week!

lisamc1RN, LPN · May 22, 2004

I totally understand! I have 4 kids and a husband who need to get used to this whole thing. It's going to take some adjusting! :)

marimar12 · May 31, 2004

WOW! You sound like me 2mths ago. Hang in there, you have one semester to go, then you can revel in your great accomplishment. Yes, it does get better.

debblynn13 · Jun 1, 2004

I just finished my first year, and by the last two months everyone in our class was stressed to the hilt. One girl went to the doctor and begged for some kind of medication just so she can hold herself together just for the last 6 weeks of class.

My husband is good at taking care of himself and luckily all my kids are grown. But still I was so stressed that I hurt my shoulder/back and ended up seeing a doctor, chiropractor and physical therapist. In the middle of all this my husband stopped me as I was heading out the door for clinicals (6:15 AM) and wanted to know if he should be gone when I got home. I just looked at him and said why? He said well you never have any time for me. I said I don't have time for anyone or anything and I won't for 4 more weeks. I was not a happy camper, he knew the stress I was under.

But I made it and so did the rest of my class, and so will you. Just remember....it is only a few weeks, months... and that you aren't the only ones to feel that stress.

Debblynn LPN grad....boards June 16th....RN 2005

LPN4Life · Jun 1, 2004

Yeah...............MY hubby was great too, but then he started whining about all the time I was spending studying and started trying to sabatoge me. I don't think he really meant to get me to stop school, but he sure gave me a hard time and was, at times, worse than my children vieing for my affection.

Just hang on, you made it this far. Won't you be done in Aug?