Lovin Emergency Nursing....................BUT

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Specializes in ED.

Im a new nurse, Ive always wanted to be a nurse, this is my second career, in fact.............I love the ED, Im finally off orientation and my last preceptor was great and I feel well prepared, However, IM GETTING TIRED OF THE NURSES COMING TO ME WITH THE GOSSIP. I truly dont gossip, I think it sucks and I dont like cliques, SO I never say anything or comment either way but I hate it, I try to change the subject or make jokes but its wearing me out, How can tell people I dont want to hear it without hurting their feelings..............I finally found a job that I dont mind going to and I feel that I was born to do this I just dont want to be bothered with the hospital cliques and politics.......................HELP SOME ADVISE PLEASE:eek:

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If someone comes up to you telling of their issue with another human being, tell them that if they want to solve the issue they should go speak directly with that person so it doesn't weigh so heavily on their heart.

Tell this to enough people and you will be "out of the loop" shortly. :)

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Specializes in LTC, Med-SURG,STICU.

I either give them a bored look and say nothing or I just keep on doing something else. That is on a nice day and they will eventually get the point

However, if the person is being really nasty in their gossip I tell them exactly what I think of what they say. I have been know to tell my co-workers that they are being hateful and mean and that I do not want to hear them talk about people in such a way. Then I walk away.

I do not hear nearly as much gossip as I use to.....such a shame (not). Maybe they are too busy gossiping about me.

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Specializes in Cardiac Telemetry, ED.

Well, I certainly don't talk smack about other people, but I do find that I like knowing the undercurrents of what is going on around me. If Nurse A can't stand working with Nurse B and I'm assigned to the same hall as both of them, it's kind of nice to know that when I notice weird things, I can chalk it up to their issues and not wonder if I should be watching *my* back. People do notice whether you are one who participates in gossip, so if you just listen but don't comisserate, they will take note.

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Specializes in LTC, Med-SURG,STICU.
Well, I certainly don't talk smack about other people, but I do find that I like knowing the undercurrents of what is going on around me. If Nurse A can't stand working with Nurse B and I'm assigned to the same hall as both of them, it's kind of nice to know that when I notice weird things, I can chalk it up to their issues and not wonder if I should be watching *my* back. People do notice whether you are one who participates in gossip, so if you just listen but don't comisserate, they will take note.

I agree that you have to pay attention to what is going on around you. Otherwise you do not know what direction the old knife will come out of when they try to bury it in your back. However, I work with some people that say some of the meanest things I have ever heard people say about another and I just can not allow that kind of talk to go on. Reminds me of high school sometimes.

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Specializes in ER, LTC, IHS.

I would tell whoever approaches you that since you are new you want to form your own opinions about your coworkers and that you don't have anything to contribute to the conversation

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The gossip :smokin: at a workplace could be king only if the " people in charge " " tolerate-allow-encourage" it for several purposes, among which is maintaining their control over their subordinates.. If you find yourself in such a work environment you better get out of Dodge especially if you're not a gossip person and/or you're a peaceful hard working or Bright SMart :loveya: type of person, you'll be the first victim on their list.

Most of the times the " people in charge " play it subtile and encourage you being outsider of gossip and cliques , but they will sacrifice you first :cry: if things go bad even if you are the best worker they have ever had (status quo :twocents: necessity).

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Specializes in Cardiac Telemetry, ED.
I would tell whoever approaches you that since you are new you want to form your own opinions about your coworkers and that you don't have anything to contribute to the conversation

Yeah, see how that works for you! :D

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Specializes in Cardiac Telemetry, ED.
I agree that you have to pay attention to what is going on around you. Otherwise you do not know what direction the old knife will come out of when they try to bury it in your back. However, I work with some people that say some of the meanest things I have ever heard people say about another and I just can not allow that kind of talk to go on. Reminds me of high school sometimes.

Yes. There are some things that are so malicious that just listening without saying anything would feel somehow like you are condoning or giving tacit approval.

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It's horrible where I work! Even the supervisors gossip. "Can you believe she did that...yadayadayada." It's hard to tell your supervisors you don't want to hear it. I just walk away and get busy doing something else (yeah, probably gossiping about me too). I think everyone who is close with anyone at work gossips to some degree and I am guilty of it as well. I have only a select few that I trust. I just can't believe some of the things that come out of my supervisors mouth about other nurses. I just wanna turn around and say, "Yeah, you sure are setting a good example there." Maybe I should.

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Specializes in ER.

This could be me writing your post. I have been in an ER for 5 years - the backbiting and cliques don't change, unfortunately. I find things to do for patients, even if they're not mine. I hate the gossip, the drama, etc. The catty nature IS a bit much, but if you love ER nursing, well then you have to find a way. Good luck!

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If someone comes up to you telling of their issue with another human being, tell them that if they want to solve the issue they should go speak directly with that person so it doesn't weigh so heavily on their heart.

Tell this to enough people and you will be "out of the loop" shortly. :)

Aha moment! That explains why I haven't been getting the "fodder" anymore. I've always hated gossip and I'm of the mindset that whoever gossips to you about someone else will definitely gossip about you to that someone.

Besides gossip is so high-school. Mature men and women being gossips, just doesn't sit well with me. If you want to say something behind the person's back, surely you can say it to the person's face or at least don't mind so much when I mention your name as having told me:)

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