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  1. I accepted a new job offer. After handing in my resignation my current employer is planning a meeting with me later to discuss my pay. Have any of you ever accepted a counter-offer and stayed with your current employer? I have always read that this is a big mistake. I was having second thoughts about the new job when the director spoke with me about not wanting to lose me and that she would see what she could do to increase my salary and offer me a better schedule. I keep going back and forth in my mind now on whether I would like to take the new job. The job I have now is familiar but there are issues that I don't think would get resolved with an increase in pay. Maybe I have just answered my own question. Has anyone accepted a counter-offer and stayed happily at their job for over a year? I have read that 80% of employees who accept counter-offers either leave or get laid off within a year. I wonder if there is some truth to that.
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    Bullying or Not? Rant!

    Nutella (love your sn by the way), you hit the nail right on the head. She does get the job done. I LOVE your rational approach to my situation. You have me looking at it in a totally different light. A more logical instead of emotional light. At my last job (oh how I miss it) all of us co-workers were very tight and we even did things after work. I miss that. I chose to leave because of the wonderful hours and better pay at my new job. The grass isn't always greener on the other side and if I could take back my decision I would. Unfortunately, the job I left was a very sought after position and it is already filled. So, I have to make do with what I have. I had been at that job for many years so being new is very "different" for me. I love your approach that I need to go there and do my job and forget making friends. Why do I feel the need to be friends with my co-workers? My best friend tells me I need to leave work at work but this is very hard for me right now. I miss being the senior nurse I guess. Being new really, really sucks. Again, thank you. I love your advice.
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    Bullying or Not? Rant!

    Sorry I just woke up. I get what your saying. Meet her in a private place at work. That will be hard to do because of how fast paced our job is. After its time for us to leave, they literally run out the door. I might talk to her and ask her if we can meet tomorrow.
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    Bullying or Not? Rant!

    Emergent you Crack me up. Thanks for making me smile. I needed that! Thanks to those who responded. Meet her outside of work? Oh goodness. I'm going to have to pray on that one. I know that would be beneficial. I'm just not sure she would agree to do that and if I could (gulp) do that. I am definitely going to start keeping a journal. That's a great idea. I will try to lay low as much as possible. I will keep "killing her with kindness" I guess. If anymore input would love to hear. Thanks guys
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    Bullying or Not? Rant!

    I would also like to add that I am a very sweet person (and that is also my downfall). One of my nursing instructors back in nursing school gave me very constructive criticism that If I'm not careful, I will be walked all over in my career. I am personable with this "mean nurse". I ask her how her day is and just "small talk". When she sees me she won't even say "Good morning'. Either she really dislikes me or lacks social skills. I have never had this problem before and when I told a few of my previous co-workers this scenario they said, "What, everyone gets along with you." I guess in a perfect world but I am a people person. I am also very self-conscious and haven't grown that "thick skin" yet. Once I know my job my skin does get thicker but when I'm new it's almost translucent.
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    Bullying or Not? Rant!

    I just started a new job a month ago, and one senior co-worker is outright mean. I do not want to divulge details about where I work but it is in a doctors office setting. I don't know if I am just losing my mind, being too sensitive, or if this is truly bullying. I need insight on how to deal with a co-worker. Again, I started working at this facility a month ago. The co-worker that normally trains new employees is out on leave but will be back in a month. I haven't met her yet. The nurse that is training me (and another new employee) is downright unprofessional (and that's putting it lightly). Every other sentence involves cursing (and in front of the patients). Management seems to LOVE he. She does do her job well, but it's how she treats others (me included) that gets me. Let me start off by saying that cussing doesn't bother me at all but I feel there is a time and place for it and at work, in front patients, isn't that time. She also farts, a lot. I am being serious. I know you're probably laughing right now but picture yourself being in a confined space 12 hours a day with this going on. She will just let it rip wherever she is and laughs about it. Again, I get that if you gotta go, go but MY GOSH...every 1 or 2 hours and LOUDLY in front of everyone? At least we do have spray. Finally, for the part that really has got me upset is that she is very condescending when she trains this other new nurse and myself. She tells us one time how to do something and gets very frustrated if we don't understand it the first time. I'm slow right now with the paperwork (I'm new) but she will literally tap her foot while I'm trying to complete it (it's written). This negative energy that is just radiating off of her prevents me from being able to concentrate on what I'm trying to learn. After I FINALLY complete my paperwork one day, I made a comment that I was slow and sorry. She said, "Well, this is a fast paced environment". That threw me back but I just smiled and said, "Well, I'm new right now but I will get faster." She then rolled her eyes and sighed. Good grief, am I back in high school. I kind of laughed (that's what I do when I get really mad). I think that made her even angrier. She will also whisper to the other coworker constantly and laugh at times when I or the other new nurse says something. She does constructively criticize us at times but most of the time she lets us know everything we are doing wrong in a very condescending way. The other co-worker that has been there longer than her just does whatever she basically says. A different co-worker told me that this mean nurse has already made 2 other new nurses quit their job and stated that it was a very toxic environment. When I asked "mean nurse" how I was doing she shook her head and said, "You got to get the paperwork down". That's all she said. I smiled and told her I would and that I'm new. Awkward silence followed. Why am I still there? I love what I do. It isn't "typical" nursing and it's a relatively low stress job (if that mean nurse wasn't there). I'm also waiting for the senior nurse that has been out on leave to come back. After she's back I can then see how the dynamics really are. I don't feel like I know enough about this job to smart back off to her. I need her for her knowledge. After I feel like I know my job well I will be more comfortable putting her in her place (if she don't put me in my place first). Thanks for listening to this long rant (it was more like a journal entry) but I also need advice. Being new is hard enough and this co-worker is really getting under my skin.
  7. skittlebear

    New to Methadone Maintenance Nursing: What to Expect

    Thank you so much TrickyTrev for your valuable insight!
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    Should I take the HUGE paycut to switch from ICU to a clinic?

    I'm sure you've made up your mind by now but here is my 2 cents for what it is worth. It's fairly simple yet logical. Nothing beats happiness. I know the extra money is important but have you really calculated all your expenses to see if you could take the lower paying job? $8/hr is a huge pay cut and of course your friends are going to tell you to take the higher paying job. I think you know deep, deep down what you really want to do. What is your gut telling you? I was faced with a similar situation about 5 years ago. I had a beautiful job offer that was first shift and had all major holidays off (which is, of course, unheard of in nursing). The only problem was is that it was a $5 per hour pay cut. I struggled and struggled deep down because I didn't know what I should do but I knew what I wanted to do. I calculated all my expenses and knew that I could afford a huge pay cut but I would miss the extra money. I decided to jump. After I did I NEVER looked back. I was happier than I ever thought possible. You spend half or most of your life working and you should only be happy. What's extra money if your miserable everyday? I can see "being miserable" for a short time just to make extra money for Christmas but for more than 6 months? No, it's not worth it. Life is too short. After 8 months or so after working my new (lower paying) job I ran into a few previous co-workers from my other job. They told me how happy I looked. I also had dropped about 50 lbs. I was happier and healthier and it showed. When thinking about that stressful job I cringed. I knew I would never go back. You see. You can't put a price on happiness. If you can do it I would go for whatever you think will make you happier in the long run, not with how much more money you will make. I have worked at this lower paying job for about 5 years and have decided to move on to something else. It offers more money and still offers holidays and day shift. It doesn't offer as much money as the stressful job I used to have, but I would never go back to that. Look deep within, weigh your pros and cons, and I think you will already have your answer. Don't let others' sway your decision. After all, it's your life.
  9. I start my first day in a few days am I am so nervous! Does anyone have any advice or care to share how you like your job? Thanks.
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    Help! Drug Screen for My Prescribed meds!

    Jules A... I know this! It was my primary care doctor and I am tapering off on my own with my doctors knowledge. I have stopped seeing that primary care doctor and am now seeing a psychiatrist. My anxiety is debilitating.
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    Help! Drug Screen for My Prescribed meds!

    Thank you so much! I haven't had much experience wiith drug tests. This is a breath of fresh air though.
  12. Hi everyone. I need help. A Valium was discovered 1 pill short during our narcotic count. I am prescribed Xanax and Klonopin. During the outside lab urine drug test, I tried give the lab my prescription. They nonchalantly said, "If it comes back positive than the lab will call you and ask for a prescription number. This makes me nervous. Has this sort of thing happened to you? I hope they do call me as I do have the prescription number. I am also trying to decrease my amount and I do not want my place of employment knowing how much I take. It's none of their business. Please advise.
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    Cost of happiness? Changing jobs?

    I had worked at a job I hated for 5 years but the pay and benefits is what kept me there. I was making $5 more an hour than I am now. The high paying job was very stressful so I decreased my hours from 40 hours a week to 32 hours a week. I thought that would help. It did help a little but that place was literally toxic. I felt like I was in high school all over again. I decided to turn in my notice and take a job offer elsewhere. It was scary for me at first. I was taking a $5/hr cut and the benefits were not as good. I now love my job. The pay cut was worth it. If I ever run into my old co-workers from my previous job they tell me how different I look. I'm glowing, look happier, and have even lost weight. I didn't realize how much of a toll this other job had taken on me. The pay cut was huge. I worried about how I would make my new house payment. At first, it was a shock but my husband and I adapted. I now have the opportunity to work as much overtime as I like. I work 50 plus hours a week and I still feel better working that much vs 32 hours a week at the job I hated. My thoughts? You will be spending most of your life working. It needs to be a place that you enjoy and don't dread going to everyday. As far as money goes, you would be surprised at what you can do to make ends meet. We adapt easier then you think. Best wishes.
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    HELP: Must choose Methadone Clinic Job Offer Tomorrow

    Yes, RENnurse4/17, I kept going back and forth in my crazy brain. I did decide to stay where I'm at. I am happy there. It may be more money at the clinic, but what is money without happiness?
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    HELP: Must choose Methadone Clinic Job Offer Tomorrow

    Okay, I'm still actually considering this. Am I crazy? Lol
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