Im a new nurse, Ive always wanted to be a nurse, this is my second career, in fact.............I love the ED, Im finally off orientation and my last preceptor was great and I feel well prepared, However, IM GETTING TIRED OF THE NURSES COMING TO ME WITH THE GOSSIP. I truly dont gossip, I think it sucks and I dont like cliques, SO I never say anything or comment either way but I hate it, I try to change the subject or make jokes but its wearing me out, How can tell people I dont want to hear it without hurting their feelings..............I finally found a job that I dont mind going to and I feel that I was born to do this I just dont want to be bothered with the hospital cliques and politics.......................HELP SOME ADVISE PLEASE:eek:
Gossip in a hospital? That's crazy talk...lol. I agree with all the advice so far...people will notice that you don't get involved and will quit coming to you. I would be careful to still stay ingaged with your team though, otherwise you will be seen as an "outsider". Go to social functions if you can...we have everything from ski trips to Super Bowl parties in our dept.
I work in the ED and I notice this happening a lot. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about it. I think the best way to deal with it is when someone comes to you with gossip I would just show them that your not interested in the conversation or else just say that your busy with your work. I think if you make a big point of saying that you don't want anything to do with gossip or that your above it or something then you will start to make enemies. If you just act like your busy or not really interested then eventually people will get it that you aren't going to keep the gossip going.
I don't participate in gossip, but I also try to keep an ear to the ground. At my old job, the handbook had a section about "the grapevine." However, gossip was the only way to find things out, even basic things like who still worked in which department. I once missed an important announcement because I was on break. When I came back everyone was whispering when I came back, and no one would tell me what had just happened.
I have been told by an older nurse that I don't "socialize" like other people on the unit. I guess this means I don't participate in the gossip sessions they have. I told her since I'm still new, I'm trying to focus on my time management skills and I just don't have time to socialize.
I don't believe in bringing my personal life to work and I sure try to keep my professional life separate from my home life. I also believe in being direct and to the point and if I have an issue with someone, I approach that person and try to work it out. Once we discuss it, it's a done deal and it won't go any further than the two of us. I find it counterproductive to go around telling everyone the issue we supossely had "worked out".
Larry77, RN
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Gossip in a hospital? That's crazy talk...lol. I agree with all the advice so far...people will notice that you don't get involved and will quit coming to you. I would be careful to still stay ingaged with your team though, otherwise you will be seen as an "outsider". Go to social functions if you can...we have everything from ski trips to Super Bowl parties in our dept.