Leaving the Profession!

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well everyone

after 22 years i am leaving the nursing profession. i have spent almost half of my life taking care of other people, and it is now time to step aside and let someone else step in.

i was very young when i started out, and i often say that i chose nursing the same way many women choose a man, for all of the wrong reasons although i was good at it, i never harmed anyone, i worked hard, cleaned pts real good, cleaned nails, ears, etc. made beds, toe pleats and all, passed meds, did IV's, blood and all of those other tasks they added to the list over the years. everyone was well taken care of, except for me. i silenced my own voice.

so, it is time for me to leave. after numerous injuries, (back, wrist, neck), backstabbing managers, obnoxious families and insulting doctors i just can't do it anymore. i'm tired and just have done all i can do. i have worked everywhere and seen it all from the ER to the OR. i didn't do it for the money, it's really not that much for all of the b* i have to deal with. i feel sorry for the shallow person who wants to do nursing for the money. i would not want them standing over me.:chair:

if i had it to do over, i would not. but i can't undo what is already done.

i love kids, i love art. i have a degree in art and opportunities to teach it are coming my way. not the same money but much less stress on me, no injuries and no more palpitations and bradycardia. i don't like telemetry either-- working in it, or laying down in it. the beeping really creeps me out, and when i look up and see "50" on the screen that does not help. :redbeathe

i did not wake up and decide to quit, it has taken me a long time to get to this place and i realize that it is either remain in this relationship (profession) at my own expense, or get out now while i still have my physical and mental health and strength. i have seen too many of my commrades die prematurely.:scrying: i don't want to be next, before my time.

good luck to you all, be safe, CYA, and most of all when the going gets tough, get out!

crispicrittah:saint:

Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. Your writing is poetic and conveys feelings that many experienced nurses would probably want to express too, and a warning for the new generation nurses to ask ourselves of how far are we willing to go in our profession in expense of our personal well beings.

Maybe you may want to consider writing a book about your experience as a nurse or have your own website to share your memoirs. It would be great for you and readers.

Wish you all the best with your journey as you are turning to another chapter of your life.

P.S.

Don't leave us here, so keep posting.

thank you for you post, yes, i love to write. maybe i will write a book one day. who knows?

as i said, i have seen a lot, maybe too much at a very young age. it is not for everyone, just like marriage, children, or any of the other life choices we make along the way. for those who say i should try some other aspect of nursing, i appreciate what you have to say but that is not my truth. if it's yours then you should follow it with full intention. i have taken care of everyone else for half of my life, and now it is time to take care of me. if you read my post you will see that it has started to take a toll on my health, and i don't think that any job is worth that.

and, no...i'm not bitter. just honest. after 22 years on the battlefield it would be hard to leave without some scars. they don't give us purple hearts but they should. i worked in the biggest hospital in the US for 18 of 22 years, other 4 years i worked in private facilities and a plasma center. i have been almost everywhere and seen most things in my young life that are unbelievable, like the man whose wife tried to chop his head off with an axe, :eek: but he lived...anyway i won't say anymore.

it's time to leave.

and, for new nurses or those who want to be nurses, i would say, just make sure it is really what you want, not for money, not to give what you didn't get (like me) but because it is truly your life path. listen to the stories people tell you. they don't tell you that before you go to school because they don't want to scare you. just like having a baby, if you listen to the horror stories you might freak out. most of the time it is not as bad as they say, although it is rough. but like anything else go in with both eyes open. :rolleyes:

to the poster who said that the classroom has its own challenges, yes, that's right. everything real presents a challenge. but it's all about what types of challenges we are fit and willing to deal with, not the ones we run from. i have already had kids who touch others inappropriately, or are hypersexual, or talk about bringing guns to school because they are angry. i deal with all of that. but you know what? i love it. i can't say that i ever loved nursing. it was just what i did because i did it. have any of you women ever had sex with a man because he was there but it felt like nothing? :( well...

anway, enough before somebody says i am beating the horse to death.:deadhorse

be well and thrive--

cc

anyway i like this site, i will keep posting when i have a chance. i

For example if a nurse gets tired of being a "floor" nurse, he/she can switch to a slower paced department, or perhaps become an "administrative" nurse. This is what I plan to do to keep my sanity and keep myself from being burned out of the profession altogether. And I'm not even finished with nursing school yet. I will be a floor nurse for awhile and when I get older and tired of running around, I plan on being an administrative nurse.

Not to be negative--well, yes, to be negative--but if you've never been an "administrative" nurse (and I've been several varieties), you don't begin to know the stressors involved. It can be just as painful as bedside nursing, sometimes even more so.

Specializes in Education, Administration, Magnet.
Not to be negative--well, yes, to be negative--but if you've never been an "administrative" nurse (and I've been several varieties), you don't begin to know the stressors involved. It can be just as painful as bedside nursing, sometimes even more so.

I have understood it as physical stress.

Not to be negative--well, yes, to be negative--but if you've never been an "administrative" nurse (and I've been several varieties), you don't begin to know the stressors involved. It can be just as painful as bedside nursing, sometimes even more so.

That's beaurocracy for you.

Sometimes I think the nursing homes, hospitals, home health agencies..etc., are going to be regulated right out of business.

My dream is to open a soup kitchen and cook all day...but I'm finding out there are heaps of rules and regulations with that as well.

I can almost understand why a person would want to go live in a cabin in Montana and ride a bicycle...

Yes managment is the problem, anything else I can deal with. Their cold stop your whining attitude is what eventually drives most nurses out. Then they run to congress and try to bring in foreign nurses. I am however beating a dead horse, they are not going to change.

Specializes in Too many to list.
thank you for you post, yes, i love to write. maybe i will write a book one day. who knows?

as i said, i have seen a lot, maybe too much at a very young age. it is not for everyone, just like marriage, children, or any of the other life choices we make along the way. for those who say i should try some other aspect of nursing, i appreciate what you have to say but that is not my truth. if it's yours then you should follow it with full intention. i have taken care of everyone else for half of my life, and now it is time to take care of me. if you read my post you will see that it has started to take a toll on my health, and i don't think that any job is worth that.

and, no...i'm not bitter. just honest. after 22 years on the battlefield it would be hard to leave without some scars. they don't give us purple hearts but they should. i worked in the biggest hospital in the US for 18 of 22 years, other 4 years i worked in private facilities and a plasma center. i have been almost everywhere and seen most things in my young life that are unbelievable, like the man whose wife tried to chop his head off with an axe, :eek: but he lived...anyway i won't say anymore.

it's time to leave.

and, for new nurses or those who want to be nurses, i would say, just make sure it is really what you want, not for money, not to give what you didn't get (like me) but because it is truly your life path. listen to the stories people tell you. they don't tell you that before you go to school because they don't want to scare you. just like having a baby, if you listen to the horror stories you might freak out. most of the time it is not as bad as they say, although it is rough. but like anything else go in with both eyes open. :rolleyes:

to the poster who said that the classroom has its own challenges, yes, that's right. everything real presents a challenge. but it's all about what types of challenges we are fit and willing to deal with, not the ones we run from. i have already had kids who touch others inappropriately, or are hypersexual, or talk about bringing guns to school because they are angry. i deal with all of that. but you know what? i love it. i can't say that i ever loved nursing. it was just what i did because i did it. have any of you women ever had sex with a man because he was there but it felt like nothing? :( well...

anway, enough before somebody says i am beating the horse to death.:deadhorse

be well and thrive--

cc

anyway i like this site, i will keep posting when i have a chance. i

Eloquently said. You have a lovely style to your writing. I wish you the best. I also respect your wisdom in moving on. You are doing so with a great deal of grace. I am about at that place myself as I feel stifled by the ever increasing regulations for one thing. I am glad that you have something else that calls to you. Actively looking for that now is where I am. I spend as much time as possible doing other things that give me peace. I too feel that this work takes a toll on all of our being, not just the physical. Almost 25 years for me, many specialties, and five states later, I know it is about time to move on. There is no other area of nursing that calls to me. I was always a bedside or visiting nurse doing hands on care.

Specializes in ICU, Education.

I am there as well. I have to say the posters who say these are "negative" comments, have no business saying so. I have been a bedside RN for 21 years. I too started very young. I am a superb nurse, but it is killing me. To say that nursing was the wrong choice for someone who did it very well for 21 years is just wrong. Taking a CNA class wouldn't have shown me didly of what I deal with on a daily basis. I care strongly about how well I do my job, and there-in lies my problem. Now, I am not trying to discourage any of you nursing students. Of course there are rewards to the job, or I wouldn't have stayed so long. But really, if you want positive comments, sunshine & rainbows, don't read a thread entitled "leaving the profession". This is obviously a venting post, and hard worn nurses should not be made to feel guilty for expressing themselves here. I so empathize with th OP and I wish i had soemthing to fall back on myself. Good luck to you!

Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

For me nursing is a second career (I was in broadcasting for 10 years). I have been in nursing now for 16 years. I am almost 48 and a few years ago realized that the only way to change was to further my education in order to have more options. I am currently a staff nurse and realize that I can't keep this pace up forever. Won't and can't happen.

I use humor and sarcasm a lot in my job. I too work ER and yes, handling four to five critically ill folks is expected and this week, two out of my three shifts, I got no break. This is insane.

Yes, with a masters degree I can go to "administration." However, I don't think that's the route for me either.

Oh and did I mention I'm on call tonight and will probably get called in? Ugh

Nursing incorporates so many aspects, not just bedside nursing, so yeah I would agree doing the same thing in Nursing (or in anything) for 20+ years would be awful! I think if you would have changed careers within Nursing long before you wouldn't be so bitter about the Nursing career in general. For all those Nursing students, remember it all has to do with your attitude----YOU ARE IN CHARGE, you control your destiny. Take risk and try new things if one thing gets old.

Crispy,

I wish you great health and happiness! :)

Specializes in Too many to list.
Nursing incorporates so many aspects, not just bedside nursing, so yeah I would agree doing the same thing in Nursing (or in anything) for 20+ years would be awful! I think if you would have changed careers within Nursing long before you wouldn't be so bitter about the Nursing career in general. For all those Nursing students, remember it all has to do with your attitude----YOU ARE IN CHARGE, you control your destiny. Take risk and try new things if one thing gets old.

I don't think most of us are bitter, we're just tired. There is nothing wrong with moving on and letting others do this who have more energy for it. Many of us have changed nursing specialties more than once. And, we are not trying to discourage anyone from their choices. When it's time for you to quit, sail81, you too will know it. Whatever you opt for, I would never be disrespectful of what your decision would be, and would wish you well.

I'm sorry, after reading my post it came off "rude". I just want to make sure Nursing students aren't discouraged. Didn't mean to sound bad! :-)

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