Jealous of my residency

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I graduated with May with my BSN. Now I'm in a year long nurse residency program for new grads. I love it!! The problem is, my friends that I graduated with are constantly bashing me for choosing the residency. They chose to go straight to work on a floor at a different hospital. They say I must be inept because I need the residency (I don't think I necessarily need it but I like the extra reinforcement from it), that I'm screwed because I'm "stuck" in a three year contract with the hospital (I did sign the contract but I think it's worth it for the quality of the program--after all, I'm getting paid to do it), and laugh that I haven't even had a patient yet (for now we are only tasking and taking classes, this week I'll have "real" patients after a month). I think they're jealous of me. Even when I defend my program they won't stop!! We get paid the same (i think I even make a bit more than them, not that it matters). What can I do to make them stop!? And why are they doing this?

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My 5 year old sister also complains her friends make fun of her and she will cry. I just tell her to put on her big girl panties and stop whining

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There's nothing to be "jealous" of in this scenario, although "envy" could be in play. In any case, if you don't enjoy these interactions with your "friends". just stop talking to them.

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Friends don't "bash" friends for their career choices. You don't need to spend energy wondering how to make them stop, or wondering why they are doing it.

It sounds like a great opportunity! One that I wish I had back in the day.

Focus on you residency and making better friends. Congratulations:up: Let us know how it's going.

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Thank you for that!! It is just stressful and you're right I should just not worry about them.

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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.

Get better friends.

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Get better friends.

Agree.

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

I agree with the previous posters. These people are not your friends. They are just people you know because you went to school with them. Friends are people who care about you and who will not be mean to you.

Don't confuse "acquaintances" with "true friends." Find some real friends and enjoy your life. It sounds like you have a good job with a good employer. Be happy.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I graduated with May with my BSN. Now I'm in a year long nurse residency program for new grads. I love it!! The problem is, my friends that I graduated with are constantly bashing me for choosing the residency. They chose to go straight to work on a floor at a different hospital. They say I must be inept because I need the residency (I don't think I necessarily need it but I like the extra reinforcement from it), that I'm screwed because I'm "stuck" in a three year contract with the hospital (I did sign the contract but I think it's worth it for the quality of the program--after all, I'm getting paid to do it), and laugh that I haven't even had a patient yet (for now we are only tasking and taking classes, this week I'll have "real" patients after a month). I think they're jealous of me. Even when I defend my program they won't stop!! We get paid the same (i think I even make a bit more than them, not that it matters). What can I do to make them stop!? And why are they doing this?

Do people really believe the "they're just jealous" malarkey?

These people are not being good friends. I'd limit my exposure to them and find some new friends.

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Yikes. Why do you care what these people say? They obviously aren't friends, so they shouldn't be allowed in your head space.

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" What can I do to make them stop!? And why are they doing this?"

You can find new friends who aren't snotty and willing to put you down to feel better about themselves. And.....well I just answered your 2nd question. Congrats on your new job! ENJOY it!! :up:

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Specializes in Oncology.

Tell them "To each their own" and stop hanging out with them.

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