im selfish? hmmm

Catch22Personified · Jun 11, 2011

I'm a guy so those rotations feel really weird for me.

Having helicopter parents/husbands looking at you while trying to do your standard clinical work made things so hard.

Though maybe the nurse you talked to was pulling your leg.

joanna73, BSN, RN · Jun 11, 2011

Lol, I feel the exact same way as the OP, and people have said the same thing to me. I could care less. I like kids...in small doses. Nothing wrong with that. Life is about choices. And OB Peds is the LAST place I would ever work, but again, that's just me...

tokmom, BSN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

I agree, people can be just plain STUPID!! I have a large family as well (4 children) and when I am out, I get all these people staring at me like we have three eyes or something! We have recently begun talking about having one more once I get out of NS. There is no wrong way to live your life and it is your choice! Kids are alot of work and it is a 24/7 job. I never ever get a break, but this is how I chose to live my life. I just don't understand why others think that it's their business and think they should tell you how to live your life!
School is out for the summer, so I better get my thick skin on when we all go out!
As for me, I would give anything to work in the NICU, L&D, Peds or wherever kids are involved. I love others just as much as mine...except the out of control ones. LOL!!

Oh have fun! People used to count us (We have 7 kids and it's not a mixed family)which was really annoying.

hiddencatRN, BSN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

I didn't ever see myself working with kids, but somehow wound up as a peds nurse and it turns out I love it, lol. But it's not for everyone and that's OK. Personally, the thought of ever having to go back to working with smelly, yucky adults is completely repulsive to me.

You co-irker is a twatwaffle. Do your thing and live your life.

barbamatt · Jun 12, 2011

I haven't wanted kids and I am 42. Recently I have thought about taking in a foster or adopting a child. I am not really sure. Sometimes you have other priorities...and if kids isn't one of them it would be more selfish to have them and not be there for them.

I would rather work with geriatric patients than with peds.

tokmom, BSN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

I didn't ever see myself working with kids, but somehow wound up as a peds nurse and it turns out I love it, lol. But it's not for everyone and that's OK. Personally, the thought of ever having to go back to working with smelly, yucky adults is completely repulsive to me.
You co-irker is a twatwaffle. Do your thing and live your life.

A twatwaffle? ROFL! :lol2:

joanna73, BSN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

This is a very entertaining thread :)

Now I don't feel so bad for cringing when I hear kids screaming and throwing tantrums in the store. That's like nails on a chalk board to me. Uuugh! The same ignorant attitudes apply to "why don't you have a boyfriend?" My usual answer: "Because I'm not willing to put up with half the s**t out there."

To each his own. Why can't people mind their own business? Or this: "you can still have kids, and you should." Uuh, no....I'm 38 soon. Not going to happen now. No thanks. I'd rather travel and save for retirement.

demylenated, BSN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

If they can support 19 kids, fine...Mazel Tov...but I think TLC is paying them boat loads of money so the general public can tune in an watch this....can you spell exploitation????
People can choose to have as many kids as they wish-if they can support them and NOT expect ME to help with welfare and public assistance...
as far as reality TV goes...they might as well put them on display in a
CARNIVAL......

You're right... I hate the exploitation... (to be fair, they had 17 (?) when the show started, had already built on their OWN their 7000 sq ft house... so, even before TLC, they were self sufficient. I DO wonder how much the TLC involvement made the 18th and 19th child come to be, yanno - more ratings and such) But, that is another subject, I was just trying to prove my point, which was your last statement...

"People can choose to have as many kids as they wish-if they can support them and NOT expect ME to help with welfare and public assistance..."

I irks me when the "fertility police" tell a family they are selfish for having "too many" kids. Too many by whose standard? Theirs? Obviously not, or they wouldn't have that many. Society's? Well, that is just as judgmental as calling the OP selfish for not wanting ANY. The person who holds that view? Why are they entitled to tell another family how many children they should or should not have.

In the case of the "woman who has a brood" (she has that in her siggy - sorry, can't remember your name)... if someone wants to judge her, I forgo my 2.5 kids (biological), and give them to her. So, she still falls within the "standards." :lol2:

ETA: Kelly :) I see your name!! 7 kids... how fun. I bet there is NEVER a dull moment in your household... LOL

Something else fun to add to this thread. I snicker when I see ppl say, I am ____ yrs old. Past my time. No more (or no) kids for me.. HAHA!! My sister in law had an oops at 45. She now has a 24 yr old, a 21 yr old, and a 2 yr old :) (Thankfully, my niece is healthy, even though born to an "older parent")

Ruby Vee, BSN · Jun 12, 2011

single people are selfish? people without kids are selfish? come on!

even though i don't have kids of my own, my property taxes are going towards schools to educate my neighbor's kids. my health insurance dollars are going to subsidize health insurance for the children of other employees. at my church, part of my offering pays for children's programs.

i'm really selfish.

OhioCCRN, MSN, NP · Jun 12, 2011

So refreshing to see varying points of view!!

Wow! i wasn't aware that so many people shared this viewpoint!

I am loving the replies and personal stories!:redpinkhe

netglow, ASN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

You know, I just came in from cutting the grass and my whole neighborhood is now over populated with kids. I cannot get one moment's peace in my backyard. The thing is, lots of these young parents do not watch their kids, or each other's kids especially when they are under 5 and have the total run of the neighborhood. I am absolutely not going to go running out to keep one of thier kids from getting stuck or hurt somewhere. It's like these parents are just hoping someone else will do the job for them. BTW, upper middle class neighborhood, where many of the young moms don't even work. It's like they are afraid the grass in their yards will kill them if they actually step outside on to it! Ugh. Never will I enjoy the summer in my own backyard again.

Sorry that was an "off-side rant".

whichone'spink, BSN, RN · Jun 12, 2011

I think it's selfish to bring new lives into this world when you know that resources are dwindling rapidly, and that this is a rough time with jobs so scarce, prices through the roof etc.