I'm falling for my PRECEPTOR

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I moved to a bigger hosp,& he's been preceptin for a month.Am falling for him,he is so smart & intelligent,am so distracted now.When Im off frm work am singing love songs for 4 hrs on my videoke just to ventilate!For goodness sake we're both marrieds & have kid.I don't know whom to confide to,am afraid somebody might spread gossip.What do I need to do,already havin hard time sleepin,gettin restless...

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I do think it is suspicious and unusual... not seeing too much of the OP.

Hello? Wondering where she is?

You did notice the reception we gave her, right?

My, my how therapeutic we've been.

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... And honestly, singing love songs on the karaoke machine... typical crush vs. love behavior! :)

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Hello? Wondering where she is?

You did notice the reception we gave her, right?

My, my how therapeutic we've been.

This is not a therapy board.

Even so, it might be more "therapeutic" to give the OP the reality check that she obviously so sorely needs before she karaokes herself--and her family--into a situation she'll regret later.

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Hello? Wondering where she is?

You did notice the reception we gave her, right?

My, my how therapeutic we've been.

You know what - she asked for advice.

And most of us are giving her heartfelt advice about not hurting her family and herself.

Why is that a bad thing?

steph

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Angie O'Plasty, RN

This is not a therapy board.

Even so, it might be more "therapeutic" to give the OP the reality

check that she obviously so sorely needs before she karaokes herself--and

her family--into a situation she'll regret later.

I have to say, I totally agree.

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My future fiancee is a doctor, but she doesn't know it, yet. That is, I suppose she knows she's a doctor, but she may not realize she's my future fiancee. But she did say hello to me, the other morning, so I'm making progress.

But, seriously, there's no way I could get romantically involved with a doctor half my age, and I have no idea what her marital status is. It amuses me to play on the old stereotype of a novice nurse out to catch a doctor, but in truth, I do have warm feelings for her. She's smart, polite, and I don't feel like an idiot when I have to page her. Not that many of the docs I work with make me feel like an idiot, but when you're new, like I am, talking to docs can be uncomfortable, so you tend to really appreciate the ones who are comfortable. A couple of the male doctors are also especially approachable, although less pretty (at least from my viewpoint).

Not really trying to make fun of you, here, because you sound like you might be in real distress, but I do wonder if maybe your preceptor is a friendly face in a stressful situation, and that's what you're reacting to. It's fine to like and admire and appreciate someone, but I have to agree that it would be prudent and proper to curb your infatuation. You could put in terms that, "Gosh, I hope my husband never falls down a well, but if he does, I hope your wife runs off with the kids..."

I really love this post. Not only is it very, very funny, I think there is some really great advice here as well, and I suspect you've hit the nail on the head in regards to where the crush starts.

Amanda

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Giving advice is good but in this situation I suspect it will play out as they usually do, and its hardly a happy ending.

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You know everyone has "attractions" but you are treading on dangerous territory. I suggest you find a therapist & get some help before you do something really stupid that you will regret!

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This is not a therapy board.

Even so, it might be more "therapeutic" to give the OP the reality check that she obviously so sorely needs before she karaokes herself--and her family--into a situation she'll regret later.

No one's claimed this is a "therapy board," Angie. The comment goes to the tone of the "advice" presented.

"Reality checks" given with disdain are rarely effective, and more often come off as put downs.

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You know what - she asked for advice.

And most of us are giving her heartfelt advice about not hurting her family and herself.

Why is that a bad thing?

steph

Steph, your post almost sounds vindictive.

I have to question whether "heartfelt advice" that implies that the OP and her husband are stupid is what's in order here.

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Do believe this thread has run its course.

Too much one-on-one comments back and forth and before there are too many flames thrown, will close.

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