I'm falling for my PRECEPTOR

labcat01, BSN, RN · Feb 10, 2006

Is there ANYWAY you can change? Anyway at all?

co_gai_viet · Feb 10, 2006

May be it's just a crush, not love.

IMA · Feb 10, 2006

Am afraid they might know the main reason! You know the politics on the floor,lots of issues.

MarySunshine · Feb 10, 2006

I get crushes sometimes, too. They go away. Don't do anything you'll regret -- remember how hard you worked for this job and maintain professionalism.

Corvette Guy · Feb 10, 2006

I moved to a bigger hosp,& he's been preceptin for a month.Am falling for him,he is so smart & intelligent,am so distracted now.When Im off frm work am singing love songs for 4 hrs on my videoke just to ventilate!For goodness sake we're both married & have kid.I don't know whom to confide to,am afraid somebody might spread gossip.What do I need to do,already havin hard time sleepin,gettin restless...

Is this a joke? If not, how about being faithful to your husband. :rolleyes:

Luv2BAnurse · Feb 10, 2006

Am afraid they might know the main reason! You know the politics on the floor,lots of issues.

even so, it would probably in your best interest to request a different preceptor....ask to change if nothing else than for a different nurse's view on the unit routine.

humglum, BSN, RN · Feb 10, 2006

This has got to be a joke. What do you think this is? An episode of Scrubs?

leslie :-D · Feb 10, 2006

you could redirect your feelings if you chose to.... :uhoh3:

zacarias, ASN, RN · Feb 10, 2006

I guess someone could fall for their preceptor but singing karaoke love songs for hours every day? If the husband is intelligent at all he might know something is up.

Nurse Ratched, RN · Feb 10, 2006

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No minced words here: suggesting you get your hormones in check, remember this is a job, not a cruise ship, and spend a lot more time concentrating on your patients rather than your infatuation...I'm not trying got be flip, but I have no idea how anyone would ever develop a relationship on the job working as a floor nurse - who has the TIME?

sandys · Feb 10, 2006

I'm not going to point out that you should be faithful to your husband, you know that much. I can speak from experience and say that I know what it's like to truly fall in love with someone other than your spouse. In my case it was doctor at the hospital I worked at and the affair lasted for 5 years, even after I left that hospital. I was ultimately the one who could not leave my husband because of what it would do to my children. I love him still, but I know the decision I made was right. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I don't know all of the circumstances of your situation, but I would say this, iIf you really love each other you can put it on hold until your professional relationship is not so close. When he is not in a supervisory role you can sort out all of the personal circumstances surrounding your relationship. From knowing what this is like firsthand I will never trivialize someone's feelings by stating things that sound so simple as "just get over it" or "just be faithful to your husband", etc., I know how hard it can be when you find yourself truly, deeply in love with someone you never planned to. There is such a thing as "it just happened" and it's not something to be taken lightly on anyone's part. I know married people don't want to think about it, but anyone who has experienced it can understand and empathize. I hope this works out for you and it does not effect your career, it's a very fine line to walk both professionally and personally. I wish you the best.