I'm falling for my PRECEPTOR

Is there ANYWAY you can change? Anyway at all?

May be it's just a crush, not love.

Am afraid they might know the main reason! You know the politics on the floor,lots of issues.

I get crushes sometimes, too. They go away. Don't do anything you'll regret -- remember how hard you worked for this job and maintain professionalism.

I moved to a bigger hosp,& he's been preceptin for a month.Am falling for him,he is so smart & intelligent,am so distracted now.When Im off frm work am singing love songs for 4 hrs on my videoke just to ventilate!For goodness sake we're both married & have kid.I don't know whom to confide to,am afraid somebody might spread gossip.What do I need to do,already havin hard time sleepin,gettin restless...

Is this a joke? If not, how about being faithful to your husband.

Am afraid they might know the main reason! You know the politics on the floor,lots of issues.

even so, it would probably in your best interest to request a different preceptor....ask to change if nothing else than for a different nurse's view on the unit routine.

This has got to be a joke. What do you think this is? An episode of Scrubs?

you could redirect your feelings if you chose to....

I guess someone could fall for their preceptor but singing karaoke love songs for hours every day? If the husband is intelligent at all he might know something is up.

I'm not going to point out that you should be faithful to your husband, you know that much. I can speak from experience and say that I know what it's like to truly fall in love with someone other than your spouse. In my case it was doctor at the hospital I worked at and the affair lasted for 5 years, even after I left that hospital. I was ultimately the one who could not leave my husband because of what it would do to my children. I love him still, but I know the decision I made was right. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I don't know all of the circumstances of your situation, but I would say this, iIf you really love each other you can put it on hold until your professional relationship is not so close. When he is not in a supervisory role you can sort out all of the personal circumstances surrounding your relationship. From knowing what this is like firsthand I will never trivialize someone's feelings by stating things that sound so simple as "just get over it" or "just be faithful to your husband", etc., I know how hard it can be when you find yourself truly, deeply in love with someone you never planned to. There is such a thing as "it just happened" and it's not something to be taken lightly on anyone's part. I know married people don't want to think about it, but anyone who has experienced it can understand and empathize. I hope this works out for you and it does not effect your career, it's a very fine line to walk both professionally and personally. I wish you the best.

Ima you have a problem. Singing Karoke songs for hours.... Get real, what about your child? You need to really look at what you have now, not what YOU think could be. You could end up being the loser in the end. No husband, no child, (this can happen) and no crush.