I am a new nurse trying to figure out how to get a doctor to stop bullying me at work.

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I've been a nurse for just under a year. I'm being bullied at work by a doctor. I work in a cardiac ICU so we work collaboratively with our doctors toward the goal of good, safe patient care. There is one doctor who has begun to target me with his bully behavior. He yells and is disrespectful in the way he speaks to me both in private and in front of patients and coworkers. He makes comments to others that insinuate I am incompetent and don't do my job. I've had nothing but praise from other doctors, coworkers, even the house supervisor about my performance, knowledge, and professionalism. What can I do to stop this doctor from treating me this way. He has a reputation for doing this to most of the staff but I refuse to spend my career, which I love, being treated this way. Help!! All insight appreciated.

New member, joined today, first & only post. Troll alert?

What makes you think troll? Probably just made an account to post because he/she was stressing and then forgot about it.

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Specializes in operating room, dialysis.
Please, new nurse, giving you advice from a retired BSN of 30 yrs. nightshift cardiac care. There is no way you are ready to work in this unit. Get a job in med surg for at least 2 years and then work in cardiac. The Dr. is right and is worried about his patients under your care, get the chip off your shoulder and open up your mind.

I think this is part of what's wrong with the nursing society.... People who forget that they too had to learn everything they know. I'm still waiting for half of my colleagues to retire so I can really start to enjoy nursing in the new era.....

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Specializes in Psych,LTC,.

How about " gee dr x, you seem very anxious, do you need a prn?"

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How about " gee dr x, you seem very anxious, do you need a prn?"

How about, "Gee, Dr. Butthead, you seem enraged. How about an enema?" LOL :roflmao:

The surgeon was totally out of line. If he wanted Bipap, he should have ordered Bipap, not gotten the nurse involved in calling Anesthesia. It's good that he did, really, as the Anesthesiologist recognized that the pt needed pain relief, too. I wonder why no or an insufficient dose of pain Rx was available to begin with?

How dare a doctor think it's ok to waste a nurse's time and ok to treat her like a jackass.

Anyway, keep on keepin' on, all who are covered by this newer approach to getting errant doctors in line.

As for needing to work M/S for 2 years before going to an ICU spot like this, I don't see a direct correlation. I apologize if my "baloney" response was too harsh.

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Specializes in Psych,LTC,.

while I meant this as a joke, I work psych and that's what I might tell a patient. I do wonder, but not suggest, because I haven't tried it and it may be a risky approach. What would happen if you carefully baited him a few time so he really loses it. Right now he's under control, and he likes the feeling of controlling how you feel. If you bait him, and he looses it, you've taken control. After a few episodes, he may stay away. plan your baits, knowing him, so when the situation presents itself it's at the tip of your tongue. Say it with reasonable assertion, and nothing that can really be pinned on you as insubordinate. Like turn to a coworker and say "mary? OMG he's turning red", then to him dr x "can I take your blood pressure? "

How about " gee dr x, you seem very anxious, do you need a prn?"
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What makes you think troll? Probably just made an account to post because he/she was stressing and then forgot about it.

I wasn't referring to the OP, but to the post from brpeifer, directly above me. Sorry for the confusion.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Please, new nurse, giving you advice from a retired BSN of 30 yrs. nightshift cardiac care. There is no way you are ready to work in this unit. Get a job in med surg for at least 2 years and then work in cardiac. The Dr. is right and is worried about his patients under your care, get the chip off your shoulder and open up your mind.

Oh good lord. I can see why other posters might think you're one of those beings who dwells underneath a bridge.

I'm a BSN of 40 years, MICU, SICU, CCU, CTICU, telemetry and oncology -- and I agree that a new nurse isn't ready to work in the ICU. That's why we now have preceptorships that last as long as six months. By the time a new grad gets off orientation, they're ready to begin learning to work independently in the ICU, and the crusty old bats on shift with them will keep an eye out for them AND their patients.

The "Dr." is being a donkey butt. The one who needs to dispense with the chip and open the mind is you.

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Wow. I'm a "troll" because I came to a place where I could get advice from others in my profession? Yeah, that's a bit harsh and extreme but I do appreciate ALL the feedback I've received on this post. I've been working extra shifts and haven't had the time to log into the site. I agree my accepting a position in a cardiac critical care unit was both ambitious and a little suicidal but I can handle it. I'm a very safe and competant nurse. My patients are safe. I've had more interactions with Dr Hothead and he gives me the cold shoulder. I just ignore him and go to him only as needed. This is working out great. He continues to look silly and childish. For those of you who gave helpful, supportive responses, I thank you for your time. For those who were unnecessarily harsh, go to Walmart, aisle 6, get some chill. Love to allí ½í¸˜

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I wasn't referring to the OP, but to the post from brpeifer, directly above me. Sorry for the confusion.

Ohh ok.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Wow. I'm a "troll" because I came to a place where I could get advice from others in my profession? Yeah, that's a bit harsh and extreme but I do appreciate ALL the feedback I've received on this post. I've been working extra shifts and haven't had the time to log into the site. I agree my accepting a position in a cardiac critical care unit was both ambitious and a little suicidal but I can handle it. I'm a very safe and competant nurse. My patients are safe. I've had more interactions with Dr Hothead and he gives me the cold shoulder. I just ignore him and go to him only as needed. This is working out great. He continues to look silly and childish. For those of you who gave helpful, supportive responses, I thank you for your time. For those who were unnecessarily harsh, go to Walmart, aisle 6, get some chill. Love to all������

My reference to beings who dwell beneath bridges was not about you, but about the poster I quoted.

You're not making any friends, however, with your nasty response to the posters with whom you did not agree or whose responses you don't like. Your "go to Walmart" comment was unnecessary and beneath a professional participating in a professional discussion.

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This post has taken on a form which is neither productive nor helpful. Until I figure out how to delete this, please, all others refrain from posting additional comments. This is supposed to be a place of support and guidance for fellow nurses .... many responders did that, and to those people, I thank you for your time and input. A select few have ruined it for all. If I've misinterpreted any comments, I extend my most sincere apologies.

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This post has taken on a form which is neither productive nor helpful. Until I figure out how to delete this, please, all others refrain from posting additional comments. This is supposed to be a place of support and guidance for fellow nurses .... many responders did that, and to those people, I thank you for your time and input. A select few have ruined it for all. If I've misinterpreted any comments, I extend my most sincere apologies.

I reread this entire thread after your last post. Please use the quor function and identify any posts that "have ruined" this thread.

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