I lost my study budy!

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Well here I am in week 5 of my first year. All through my pre-recs I have had a "study buddy" we met in comp 1, found out we were both headed for nursing and have been together ever since. Well last week during our med/surg class we started to cover stress. Our instructor was trying to be funny and gave the example that us students were under situational stress because of our upcomming test, and that if we didn't pass it we would be "out of the program". Everyone in the class laughed and understood the joke except my friend. She took the instructors coment to heart and went home, emailed the instructors and withdrew from the program! I have tried to explain to her that she maybe just needs to take a deep breath and she will realize she will do fine, but she has made up her mind she isn't comming back. I am now at a total loss now, I know it may seem selfish, but I have no one to turn to for support! I tried this weekend to attend a study group with some of the other students in my class, but all that ended up doing was confusing me more.

Sorry for rambling, I guess my question is what do I do now? Is it possible to go through this without a partner in crime?

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I prefer studying alone anyways to having a partner. I think that I can get more done on my own because I have less distractions.

I never understood people like her that give up that easy.

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I'm sorry to hear that your buddy is gone. Mine left me behind when she moved out of the area. I certainly hope that your friend finds something that she can commit herself to trying.

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i am so sorry for ur loss :scrying:i think it is very important & healthy to have @ least 1 person to confide in. this is a long & difficult road to travel it alone is very possible, but difficult. i wouldn't know what 2 do if i lost 1 of my buddies bc beyond school there r so many things u just need 2 vent about & ppl in the real world can't relate & on top of that u have to use alot of discretion in nursing school. i recommend that u continue on ur path, study alone if u have to & when time comes to work in groups u will be fine. you will find @ least 1 person to confide in (hopefully), but u don't need a study group in order to succeed. many ppl study alone & do just fine, i actually think it;s better, it forces u to learn & understand the material. group studying isn't always successful & u will see the different dynamics in the coming semester. look @ it as a blessing in disguise bc it doesn't sound like ur friend was strong nor determined enough to get through nursing school, it's best it happed as early in ur program as it did. just do ur best & be urself u will be fine. :redpinkhe

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I'm so sorry. I met my nursey buddy on the first day of Nursing 101/Fundamentals and I do not know what I would do without her. Thankfully she is smarter than me (LOL) so I don't have to worry about her failing out... just me!

But really, I am sorry to hear that. I know how awesome it is to have that one person to turn to in nursing school who knows EXACTLY what you're going through. She and I have never had clinicals together, and so I have had a lot of interaction with other students, but during class and practicum it's me + her.

Try to befriend another student. I personally find it easy to make friends. Just be friendly. Good luck!!!!

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Thank you all for your replys. I think that after hearing what you all have said and going over it 1,000 times with my husband (he is SO over talking about it :sstrs:) I have decided that I will be just fine. I guess I just had to vent. The reality of it is that she isn't the one that got me into the program, I did that all by myself with my own hard work, so I will be able to finish this myself also!

Thanks again for all the responces...it really makes you feel better to know there are people that have gone thru the same things.

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